Are most black men/white women relationship brought about by both treating each other as racial objects?

[Anonymous]

One of the most common interracial pairing is black men/white women.

But a lot of the time the reason for the forming of these couples either comes about from racist expectations of each other, or outright using said person.

For a lot of white women being with a black guy often falls into one of these categories:

1. Jungle fever - The fetish for black men. In fact one of the biggest sex tourist places in world is Jamaica where a lot of white women go to get fucked by black men. Now, the drive for this fetish often spark by the belief that black men are well hung.

2. Going against social expectations - Many white women pick black guys either to protest against their parents, or to go against social expectation that they should be with a white boy.

3. Another reason for picking black men is cross it off on their bucket list.

4. Wanting to bang stereotype. Many black guys have experience this where they get all the signals from a white woman to approach but then present themselves as articulate, intelligent bookworm kind of guy and not the stereotypical player, cool guy, thug, b-ball player that the media portrays black men as. What happens afterward is the woman loses complete attraction for him because he is not a "TRUE" black guy but what you'd call an UNCLE TOM.

For black men getting with white women often comes about because of media influence portraying Caucasian features and white women as the ideal beauty. So many black men chase white women for status. We often see incite into status white women play when many black celebs dump their black girlfriend for white women.

Another reason is many black men are self hating of their race and want their kids to look more "beautiful" by getting Caucasian features. I've actual come across several happy married blacks who insulate or outright state that their reason for getting with a white woman was because they wanted their kids to be more attractive.

And self hate starts from early age with kids.

[Rawrzz]

1. The majority of women don't give much of a shit about penis size.
2. I think "many" is a very vague term for this concept. I would accept "some".
3. Again, define many.
4. I doubt white women actively think a well spoken non ghetto black dude is actively an "uncle tom" simply because he is not ghetto. If she maintains an interest in a ghetto black dude, it's not suddenly racist that she stops being interested in him, because he's not ghetto.

Everyone has preconceptions of other races. That, in itself, is not racist. It's a mental heuristic, a shortcut that can be redefined upon evidence of the contrary.

Another thing you could have added in are that white women are typically very feminine; and, black men are typically very masculine. And, women like masculinity, despite the social enforcement of anti-masculinity; and, men like femininity.

And yeah. A 78% white country is going to have the standard of beauty as white. And even then, it is not *solely* white. There are a tremendous amount of non-white people presented as the standard of beauty in the West. Is it really a surprise that the standard of beauty in China is Asian? Not a thing wrong with it. If anyone doesn't like it, then they can go to a different country where their standard of beauty is maintained.

Trying to determine someone else's intentions. But if you want to state this as a *general rule*, I do not believe any of these are legitimate. End of the day, it's just speculation.

[Negrodamuss]

jesus.

I really hate to say this, but some of you guys (and im guessing you're white) on this site are the most insecure I've ever seen. If i made a question like this, making every excuse in the book as to why some white guys were dating black girls, people would accuse me of being jealous, or bitter, or w/e else. You'll literally come up with every excuse in the book if it means you don't have to say the following words, " the black guy and the white girl are simply interested in each other like every other normal heterosexual relationship" - The reality of that blows your mind i know, but don't worry... the white genocide you fear so much is still a few years out. You still have time to find and pump the sugar walls of your big titty blonde fantasy girl.

[RedThread]

Lmao always gold dude

[Negrodamuss]

@RedThread gotta lay down the law for some of these bitches sometimes

[IamLouise]

Why do you want the genocide of the white race brah?

[lacorine197]

haha bro you are funny as hell with the comeback.

[kittycat119]

I'm currently dating a black man of five years. And I'm the whitest girl you'll ever meet so your point makes no sense as I'm with him because I fell n love with him because he's nice and he cares about me and I feel safe with him. And he's not with me in hopes of having a more "attractive" half white child that's just bull and you know it. People fall in love all the time, it just so happens now people aren't idiots and actually accept interracial marriage and relationships better because nothing is wrong with it like people like you try to portray

[syddakid]

I still can't believe people today think that a white woman would only be with black men because she's desperate or the guy is rich. I've dated black guys before and it had nothing to do with being taboo or a fetish it was a serious heartfelt relationship.

[Jxpxtxr]

Nah, I think it's brought about by both parts being open minded and confident enough to ignore the ever so common stereotype that they're treating each other as racial objects.

[Laura_Marx]

Yes, I think your analysis is very good.

[MittenstheGlove]

You are right in some perspectives. It’s fetishization in some situations, but definitely follows a rule of thumb in certain stereotypes that are perpetuated in the society and the media.

Humans tend to rationalize negatives as they pertain to them as positive.

FY: I date anyone with similar interests as me, just that those women tend not to be black.

[MCheetah]

No. Jesus, WTF is wrong with you?

[Miss_Laura]

despite it being true for my current situation (on my side at least) there are obviously counter examples.

[NJ_Casanova]

I think most black guys go for white women because they are more submissive than other races of women.

[MrAssHat]

interesting point... i know that my relationships with Asian women normally are lol

[dudeman]

I've only dated white women because it seems to be the only women i can get. i find women of other races attractive but since im brown im not thug enough for them.

[FinalFantasyBro]

You sir definitely know your stuff and no sarcasm

[RedThread]

I think there are quite a few people who choose to go after interracial relationships for the wrong reasons. It's not a black men and white women thing. I think everyone can be guilty of it. Instead of just thinking about it as dating another human being, people fetishize it and mystify the relationship dynamic. People can have sexual fetishes or a grass is always greener mentality and both are unhealthy. I think it's dehumanizing and racist but I think people who are like that kind of deserve each other at the same time.

If I was to date a woman it would be because I think she's an amazing woman regardless of her skin color. Treat people like individuals. It makes life much easier instead of making assumptions and it can lead to great friendships and relationships.

[DizzyAster]

For anyone who marries in this combo, it's because of love.

But the other stuff can be true for anything!!

[blondfrog]

I have no idea what you are talking about and I am too tired to read your whole detail. For me its not about being racist or whatever you mean if I like her that's all that matters I don't care if her race is pissed off about it or I don't even give that that much thought.

[SleepingSnorlax]

People like each other so they get together
Thats what i like to believe

[WhaChaChaKing]

I certainly hope not.

[Kelly6]

For relationship NO.
For hookup YES.

[JennieF]

No. Just people who are attracted to each other.

[MrExtremely2Kinky]

Maybe for some, but not all nor most. Some simply fall in love with one another regardless of the race.

Yes there are some that fall into the categories that you mention, but not all, nor most.

[Supersonic_Sex_Ninja]

Duh...

[Anonymous]

Bros before hoes

[Anonymous]

Those relationships should be illegal

[Anonymous]

What women say they want and what they want in practice are not the same thing...
They might say they want a sensitive guy who can talk about his feelings. In reality most would go for a strong confident man with a large penis white or black.
Black men are not known for treating women the best and some women on a level like being treated badly.
For white women I would say it's some type of racial attraction. We all have our type I don't see why people make such an issue out of this.

[Anonymous]

How about maybe the fact they get together is purely because they love each other and are attracted to each other.