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Sexual Health Girls, Why do some heterosexual females choose to perform oral sex on males who they don't intend to see again, and without receiving equal treatment?
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From my experience, most encounters of this type involve minimal stimulation of the female in question (i. e. they choose to perform oral sex even if they have not experienced an orgasm themselves, or have not received oral sex). A typical real-life example I can provide is a female who meets a male in a club on holiday, makes out with him and later performs oral sex on him, without ever having the intention to see the male again. I would like to understand the perspective of women who make choices like this, particularly as I've known feminist women who have made this choice. It seems to me that such a choice is anti-feminist, as the only person benefitting from such situations is the male, who is happy to use the female for his pleasure. When referring to the example I've given, this female has claimed she has never been particularly keen on performing oral sex, and so has provided pleasure to the male to her own detriment. She has also done this on other occasions. I respect everyone's decision to make a choice. However, I find it difficult to respect this choice because the female has seemingly performed oral sex as she has believed it to be an obligation. One might argue that the female simply wanted the male to feel good, but to me there seems to be an imbalance in favour of the male, who has received an amazingly pleasurable act and given next to nothing in return. I thought a feminist would've been opposed to such a situation, and I would really like to understand this choice so that I can better respect the decision. I do not wish to disrespect anyone for their sexual decisions, but this particular decision seems common amongst women I have met, and I find it difficult to respect them for it when they profess to be feminist; it seems as though they have conformed to misogynistic views of sex (i. e. 'only males benefit from sex') and submitted to males. I hope people who have taken part in such situations can help me understand and respect their choice.
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I respect anyone's ability to have freedom of thought and make their own choices. I guess I just wish oral sex was something people did with people they trust and know will respect them. Too many people do it as they feel it's obligatory, or to try to 'impress' their hook-up. But males in particular tend to have very disrespectful thoughts about a female who does this so freely. I think less females would do it if they understood this male reality - the female basically becomes their 'toy'.
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I hate the idea of women being disrespected. But choosing to give head to someone you just met, if you don't like giving head, is a very difficult concept for me to understand and respect. I wish females who have been in this position could see what the male was thinking. I could guarantee they would think twice about doing it again.
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