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My boyfriend wants to rape me?

My boyfriend has got this new weird fantasy of role play and he says he wants to act out a rape scenario where I am a submissive simple girl and he's the wild guy who rapes the girl by force. He also says he wants the entire sexual act to be really rough and wants to go real hard on me. I be never tried role play especially this rape type. I also find this strange because I am submissive already and he's the one who dominates me in bed and I always do what he says. I don't know how to go about this. Can anyone please explain?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • A long time ago a girlfriend shared her rape fantasies with me, and got me into it. I was a bit surprised at first but we had a trusting relationship and it became a very fun thing for us to do. Safe words are critical, as is the need to talk through what the expectations are.

    The most important thing is trust, particularly if you will be tied up or incapacitated in any other way.

    Don't judge him too harshly. he shared something very intimate with you. I haven't told my wife that I have such fantasies, even after a long time with her. She has told me in the past that she doesn't like anything with violence and sex mixed, I've never worked up the nerve to tell her.

    Start small, and work to bigger things.

  • I always thought that rapey stuff was a female fantasy. Never heard of a guy wanting it. Try pepper-spraying him, you know, for the full rape experience.

    • LMAOOOOO 😂😂😂😂

Most Helpful Girls

  • Rape fantasies are common, but it's important that the distinction between role play and true non-consent is very clear. You need to plan the interaction carefully, establishing limits and safe words beforehand. Make sure you and your partner are on exactly the same page about what you both feel comfortable with, how he's expected to react when you use a safe word, etc. Make sure he understands that although you're role playing a rape scene, he doesn't get to actually rape you, and he still doesn't get to do anything to you that you aren't comfortable with.

  • first u have to decide whether thats something u are comfortable with or not. its not as easy as it sounds, and if u go into it without being completely into it, it may end badly, possibly traumatizing. u gotta really b sure that it something u want. make sure u have a safe word and just let him do his thing. u REALLY need to talk about it before just agreeing to it.

  • This is pretty standard. I am assuming you trust him. So make a safe word and if things get too intense you say it ex) blue cheese, as no can be part of roleplay in these types of fantasies. He essentially just wants you to pretend you don't want it.

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  • Why would he want to humiliate you like this if he really loves and cares for you? You could be sleeping with a future psycho.

  • Just do what you always do and submit.

  • Please don't get ripped apart on the inside

  • This concerns me: "he wants the entire sexual act to be really rough and wants to go real hard on me. " What do you want? Before doing this you need to discuss this IN DETAIL -- what is ok for you, what is a hard limit. You should have a safeword -- something you can say that will end the scene IMMEDIATELY.

    How much do you trust him to not go beyond your limits? If you aren't sure, then don't do this.

  • If you disagree, say no

  • Too much porn.

    Personally I wouldn't date a guy with those kinds of fantasies

  • You should only do it if it turns you on.

  • Sounds hot.

  • Role play
    If you too want it, it's not rape.
    *But it would not be MY fantasy.

  • It's not really rape, it's rough sex because you're too gentle in bed. He's bored with you.

  • Safe word and pepper spray for the full rape experience. Srs that sounds haut

  • Just try to stop him from fucking you.

    You could take it hilariously seriously and try to reach for the phone and pretend to call 911. Then afterwards, sob in the fetal position under a cold (ish, we're pretending) shower. Give him the full experience and see his reaction. LMAO.

  • Gahhh STOP. tell him to go fuck himself. Rape is not a joke, it should not be a stupid fantasy or role-played. Rape is disgusting and done by terrible disguting people that don't have any self control or empathy. STOP FETISHIZING RAPE. You're boyfriend is just making fun of real rape victims. he sucks. And everyone else on this site that thinks "role playing" rape is okay should be ashamed !

    • Sometimes we pick our fetishes, and sometimes they pick us. I never got into it until a girl started me on it. And I've never done anything to anyone who wasn't fully consenting. It's not demeaning nor is it anything to be ashamed of. If you don't like it, just don't do it.

    • @ConfusedByLife you people are still making fun of rape bictims and acting like rape is sexy or a joke WTF is wrong with you

    • Victims*

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  • Is rough sex not enough?
    rape wtf

  • Because being submissive isn't the same as a rape fantasy.

  • Lol weird fantasy, submit

  • This is bloody weird.

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