Do you consider it weird for guys to be sexually submissive?

[Anonymous]

So, I'm not gonna lie about it, I really love being submissive to my girlfriend in the bedroom. My submissiveness is strictly limited to sex however. In everything else, we lead a very egalitarian relationship. But in the bedroom I like being submissive in a number of different ways. I like mild humiliation and having to please my girlfriend without being allowed to cum and stuff like that. I'm also into cuckolding but my girlfriend refuses to engage in this fetish. Now, I hear a lot of people (especially guys) say things like "c'mon, if you can't dominate a chick in the bedroom, you're not a real man". I've always found this quite peculiar. Personally, I never thought of a particularly submissive or a particularly dominant girl as "less of a woman" or "less feminine". It's just what she happens to enjoy. But when it's about a guy who likes being sexually submissive, there seem to be a lot of prejudices. He's weak, he's got a small dick, he's secretly gay, he's a loser, no real man... etc. Where does all of this come from? There seems to be quite a double standard. I never thought of myself as "less of a man" but I guess many people would classify me as that. What do you think?

[Petiwolf]

What the hell bro, do you have ''cuckold'' fantasy? Let me be clear with you?

Yeah you ain't a man, if you can't dominate your girlfriend and make her feel like you protect her she will start to not giving fuck about you anymore and she will find new guys. Who the hell would allow his girlfriend to get f*... ed by other man? And enjoys it? Lol, just go to a doctor man and try to get rid of from this sickness, Its will be good for you bro, seriously. I would just kill a guy if he would even follow or try to flirt with my girlfriend... damn weird o_o

[Asker]

I'm not gonna answer to your very offensive insult but here's a question to you: so do you think a woman is "bad" or "not a real woman" if she likes to be dominant in the bedroom?

[Petiwolf]

Dude dont get me wrong aight? I didn't insult you I just spoke ''general'' but for me its too weird, its ya fantasy can't say anything but If I were you, I would try to get rid of it ( talking about cuckold fantasy ) Well being submissive in sex is your fantasy either, it could be more balanced, I think it will be good if you dominate her sometimes. I am just saying it to help you bro, dont get me wrong. Cause if you dont dominate woman sometimes and dont make her believe that ''you are a man'' she will go away from you. It happend to some of my friend, his girlfriend cheated on him cause ''he wasn't the man'' not protective and masculine. It will be you who will get dissapointed in the end.

[Asker]

Alright, fine. But honestly, that also sounds like a pretty shitty girlfriend there.

[Petiwolf]

Nah not really man, its come natural u know? Thats how God created woman, and created man. As a man you must be the one who will lead and protect, women are weak compared to man so they need protection and they need to be ''leaded'' by strong one in nature. If you dont obey your nature then you will be dissapointed a lot in your life, just saying.

[SmolSlav]

Your post kind of comes off as very insecure are you doing okay? That said, we shouldn't view people's sexual preferences as a sickness or project our preferences on others, if you feel like the only way to assert/prove your Masculinity is to dominate a woman, that is your preference. Other people have theirs and nobody is trying to convince you to be into cuckoldry. You are kind of making it sound like you have no redeeming qualities that would make a woman want to stay with you given how paranoid you seem about her leaving. TL;DR: Chill tf out, you sound like an insecure psycho trying really hard overcompensate for a lack of confidence in their own Masculinity.

[AustinMan]

It's not weird. We all have our kinks and that's one of yours.

[karahiri]

I don't think it's weird. The same way I don't think it's weird for a socially dominant woman to want to be submissive in bed. Just preferences.

[mooky06]

Nah i don't see that weird in the slightest. if you like something you just like something. Can't help the way you feel.

[TheButterfly]

I'm not into it but it's not weird at all. Do what makes you happy

[nothingtosee]

I think it's hot! I bet you would make a good cuck. Years ago, I was a bull for a couple and it was really hot! He would invite me over and ask (beg me) to fuck his wife. I would then pleasure her over and over and over again while he was watching, and I loved it! After each of my orgasms, she would insist he come over and lick my cum out of her pussy or off her stomach.

I also like being a sub to a woman as well! I love it when a woman will use me for her sexual pleasure for the entire night. I love it when she decides when and where I'm allowed to cum. I love giving her multiple orgasms. I love it when she makes me do things that are naughty, kinky or taboo.

If you feel like exchanging emails, I can be reached at nothingtosee at yahoo dot com.

[Billlewis]

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[aficionado]

Not weird at all, you need to seek out a Dominatrix. There are plenty of them out there! ;)

[madhatters4]

i don't think it's weird. everyone is different. there are plenty of submissive guys out there

[Mesonfielde]

I think the idea of dominance and submission are inherently detrimental. You should just want to connect intimately and please your partner. None of this power shit.

[aceleon]

being a man is about being strong, stronger the male more he is a man.

so yes you are not a man at all, you don't have what male nature instinctivly demands from, our nature is about spreading our genes and onlyour genes alone as much as possible and be the dominant one. you are the opposite of what male nature is. so yes you are not less of a man cuz you are not a MAN at all.

[Puppylove94]

Not attractive in my opinion

[Asker]

What's unattractive about it? Would you find it fair if you were sexually dominant and you met a guy (maybe fell in love with him) and he would break up with you because "that's not attractive"? I'm just asking this because I feel like women are really free in our society to do whatever they want sexually (have same-sex experiences, have a rather fluid gender etc.) without being judged whereas when you're a guy, you're still forced to adhere to all those stupid stereotypes of what "real men" do or say.

[Puppylove94]

You will be able to find a sexual partner that is okay with it... Personally, it's not my thing

[Asker]

I understood that. You already said that. This is not about making myself feel better. I just don't get how some people can have this huge double standard and not even reflect upon it. Like, if I was being hypocritical about something, I would get annoyed about it myself. I would think to myself "wait... that's really fucked up. That doesn't make any sense whatsoever". But tons of people seem to be too stupid or shallow to do this. So I was wondering if you have this double standard. Do you think it's unfeminine for women to be sexually dominant? And if no, how can you live with such a huge double standard? Because you have to admit, it doesn't make any sense... (it's like those people who say lesbians are hot but gay guys are disgusting).

[Puppylove94]

I don't think it's a double standard at all... It has to do more with tradition in my opinion. In past centuries leading up to today, guys have been portayed as beig very dominant. It's human nature to have the man be dominant; they physically are stronger and a whole bunch of other reasons dating back to when people were hunters and gatherers. Yeah that's perfectly fine if women want to be dominant, but I don't see that as feminine. I think being submissive is feminine.

[Anonymous]

No I don't think it's weird I'm pretty much the same way. I'm in control and take charge of everything else except sex. She gets the sexual freedom to do whatever she wants with whoever she wants. And I don't even masturbate or do anything unless I get her permission first