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My boyfriend was a virgin before me. How do I tell him I am not satisfied?

I am 20 and my boyfriend is 27, we have been together for a while now and I have only just found out he was a virgin before me, we have been sleeping together since we started dating but he said he had been with other women. He is good in bed and open to trying new things but he doesn't seem interested in oral or any kind of foreplay and it's really frustrating! I love him and don't want to hurt his feelings but have never been with someone less experienced than me! What do I do?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Simple. Educate him a little, Mlle.

    If he's an "ass guy", you're in luck, just sit in his face. Believe me, he'll get the message about the "oral" you desire.

    And when it comes to foreplay, wear some spandex. Trust me, there isn't a straight man alive that doesn't love to see hot girls in spandex... he'll touch you.

    Another good way to "slow a man down" is the Handjob. You have total control in this situation. And you can talk to him while you are doing this. You let him know when he can climax, if you let him at all...

  • He might just be a little intimidated due to his lack of experience with certain things. Has he gone down on you at all? If not just guide him there next time things are getting sexual, and then most importantly act like he's amazing (even if he's not) to help give him a confidence boost. It might take some time but he should get better at it with experience. But in general, have you let him know that you like foreplay?

Most Helpful Girls

  • Communicate, no matter what, this is of utmost importance.
    My boyfriend and I communicate a lot as to what we want in bed. It helps a lot! It may be awkward but try a different approach, like guiding him in bed, while you're doing it, with a soothing voice. Or otherwise when you're not having sex, talk to him about it, in a soft tone.

    Answer mine too if you can please?
    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2068750-why-does-he-do-that

  • If you've been having sex with him for a while the fact that he was s virgin before is now irrelevant. You need to talk to him and tell him what you like. Maybe suggest a 69. Or watch porn together and act out what you see on screen make sure it's porn that had a guy going down in a girl. Could be fun and exciting.

  • You tell him that you NEED foreplay and that you NEED oral and that these are NOT negotiable therefore starting right now you're going to start lovingly teaching him and he's going start eagerly learning how to do them. Even if you're submissive you can still be assertive.

  • You have to tell him the truth, other wise he won't be able to learn.
    Or you won't be able to get a better sex life together with him.
    Be open and talk things through.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Give him time to be experienced, duh. You were probably horrible your first few times too.

  • Being experienced has nothing to do with liking oral or foreplay. lots of dudes that have slept with 100 women just get thier dick in as quick as possible and get out, doesn't make them good in bed :) Sounds like you and he aren't compatible. :(

  • 1. Get naked on bed.
    2. Spread your legs.
    3. Tell him "Get down there and like that bitch!"

  • have good communication just tell him upfront.

  • I think your boyfriend is broken. What man doesn't like eating pussy?

  • how about dont tell him hhhh
    practice makes perfection

  • Talk to him about what you like, initiate foreplay a bit more and he should get the message.

  • I find it weird when guys don't give oral to women. It's like so natural and women don't even need to say that they want the guy to go down on them.

  • tel him openly, learn how to fuck a girl, he would be improve slowly.

  • Just show him what u like

  • Tell him what you like and want. It's not fair to make him guess.

  • Try sploshing. It's a good way to start off oral.

  • Communicate with him about it. Teach him how to satisfy you. I rather have my boyfriend be a virgin than already lost his virgin.

  • Tie him up and sit on his face, if he doesn't take to it then rub your clit on him. I'm sure he'll come round when you start getting wet :)

  • With a calm vocie tell him how you feel, and convince him to at least try it. there's nothing wrong with trying new things.

  • playfully dare him into trying the things you like or watch some porn with the things you like with him and hint that you would love that, but dont make a big deal out of it

  • you have a perfect situation..

    he has no experience which means he hasn't been shaped in bed already..

    he's basically a piece of tin foil right now, just shape him how you want him :)

  • It might just be because he generally isn't into oral and stuff that he doesn't engage in it. If that's the case, perhaps you could pursuade him to meet you half way here?
    Sorry I couldn't be much help here.

  • Tell him the sex you had with previous boyfriends was way hotter and they got you to cum more easily, frequently and harder than he does, and that maybe you could work on it together so he can satisfy your pussy at least as well as they did.

    • That's so hurtful

    • @BuchitaBuchys Hey Buchy! and yea which is why he said it anon, classic trolling,

    • @HonestWhiteGuy I hope it's trolling :/

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