Why does my boyfriend get hard so easily but take so long to cum?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend gets hard from like one kiss but takes about an hour to cum. I've read that if a guy takes a long time to cum he probably jerks off a certain way or watches too much porn. I've also read that if a guy gets hard from 0 stimulation that he probably hasn't jerked off in a long time... Even after we've had sex he can be hard again within 5 minutes. What's his deal? I get worried that it takes him long to cum bc of me but I'm active when we have sex and I make noise and I know I'm attractive. Does he just not think I'm hot or something? He also told me when we first had sex that he can't feel anything if we use a condom and that he won't cum so we don't use condoms. Is that somehow related?

[tinyclit]

It's not usually productive or useful to be attempting to assign blame to either you or him. Ask him what his needs are and if they are being satisfied. There may be other things you can do to get him off or get him off quicker. Dig it out of him if you have to. It really doesn't matter how it's done so long as there is pleasure and satisfaction involved. Go for it. There's no shame so no worries. I had a similar problem with my boyfriend (now husband) before we were married. He would never cum. Once I got him cumming I found out he wasn't orgasming. Unlike other men, for him those were separate things that came one after another with a pause in between! I had to dig it out of him exactly what he needed me to do. But once I found out, it was easy and I soon had him both cumming and orgasming regularly. It made a huge difference in our relationship. We got married soon after and sex wise we've been happy ever after just like they say.

[Anonymous]

Its going to be like that when you two are still dating, but once married, it won't be like that no more, his dick won't be hard like that anymore, and the sex will drop down to less than an hour. Usually 10-15mins. So enjoy while you can lol.

[Asker]

That's depressing

[Opinion Owner]

Thats how itll be like for every marriage.

[Dober198504]

Yes it does feel better without a condom and it is easier to come without a condom if you want him to come faster try some different sex positions some guys is very easy to get hard and sometimes it's not and the average length that most men last is less than a minute so why are you complaining and very few men it is hard for them to cum

[Asker]

We do all different sex positions. I'm complaining bc I want him to enjoy himself and I want to make sure I'm pleasuring him.

[Dober198504]

Maybe you should try to wear some lingerie for him my girl always wears babydoll lingerie and boy shorts are see through both of them and maybe sometime when you give him head I will put a piece of ice in your mouth when you do it you can also look up sex with Susan is no longer on the air but you can find the videos online it is an old lady that gets all kinds of sex advice about everything to do with sex my woman watches her videos and find new ways to please me and I have been watching her videos to find ways to please her the best way to find the videos it goes to Google search or Yahoo or whatever you use

[Anonymous]

Wait a minute! Since you don't use condoms, are you using another form of birth control?

If he gets hard quickly but has difficulty reaching orgasm, it might be he took one of the erectile drugs like Viagra. But if he is in your age range I'm not sure why he would need it. LOL... Some people take it recreationally.

[Asker]

I've wondered that before tbh but it seems unlikely he's 21... I'm on birth control :)

[Opinion Owner]

Oh good you are on birth control. Well I just thought I'd mention the Viagra thing. That's probably not it but possible I guess. I'll admit that I've taken it recreationally and yes, you get hard fast and it takes longer to reach orgasm! LOL...

[Asker]

Why did you take it?

[Opinion Owner]

I had a girlfriend who wanted to see what it would be like for me to take it. She enjoyed it but on the other hand it was a bit un natural to have that hard of a penis. I do remember going on for a long time! /// LOL I remember the first time I took it, was probably 2 hours before going to her place. I was in the grocery store probably an hour after I took it. A lady near me bent over to pick up some milk. I got hard just from seeing that and I had to walk around a bit awkwardly until it went down. LOL...

[Centerino]

He cannot get aroused enough.

[Asker]

Why not?

[Centerino]

I cannot tell you as I am not him, you'll have to ask him.

[Asker]

Do you think it's bc of me? I don't want to ask him bc I feel like it's a sensitive subject. I think he'll think that I'm annoyed that he takes so long and I don't want him to think that.

[Centerino]

I'm not sure what it is, he may just have the ability to last a long time. If the sex is enjoyable then I wouldn't mention anything. Sometimes it's better to just leave a subject matter alone if it's not too bothersome. If it is then ask him how comes he can last for a long time.

[Asker]

I just don't want it to be because of me. If it is because of me I want to fix it.

[Centerino]

I doubt it is, it's usually just the way the guy is. You can always try nice positions and moves and see if that helps...

[Anonymous]

The amount of time it takes for a guy to go, is dependent on how turned on he actually is. Being hard is just being hard, but like actually turned on, is different

[Asker]

Why wouldn't he be turned on?

[Opinion Owner]

Who knows

[Asker]

Do you think it's my fault?

[Opinion Owner]

Probably not