I'm constantly horny. But I'm a virgin and want to save myself for marriage. Am I the only one?

[Anonymous]

I think about sex A LOT. And I want to have sex, but my parents want me to wait until I'm married, and I personally want to wait until I find the right person. So I masturbate. And usually I feel morally impure after, but it feels so good and it kind of does help with the whole "I need sex" thing I have going on. I thought it was only guys who got this way, but really I think that guys are just more verbose and talk about sex more often than girls do. I just needed to rant. My question here is, what would you do? Would you save yourself? Or just go out and have sex?

[Red_Arrow]

I made a choice to wait till I was out of high school so that I was a more responsible age. But as for waiting till marriage, that is something you have to decide. It is up to you, not your parents.

And there is nothing wrong with masturbation! Nothing to feel impure about.

Also, there are things you can do with guys to satisfy your sexual needs without actually screwing. From mutual touching to oral sex. There is no need to be sexually unsatisfied just because you stay a virgin.

[Asker]

You're right, but I want to respect my parents wishes. At least, until I turn 18 and get out of the house. If I lie to them so that I can go do stuff with some guy, I think I'll be unable to enjoy myself because I'll be thinking about how much trouble I'd be in if my parents found out 😁😂

[Red_Arrow]

Your parents are not likely to ask you about masturbation, ever. They probably assume that you do that anyway. And most people do. So do not feel "impure". It is normal. And as for other things you can do with guys, I do not think they would ever ask you anything other than are you having sex, and meaning are you fucking. And your answer would be no. So I am suggesting you do what I did. I avoided fucking till after I was 18 (just like you want to do) but I enjoyed touching and being touched with girls, and you can with guys. If you are looking to talk dirty with a guy, you can do that and they would never think to ask about that. You could avoid actually touching a guy, but have dirty talk that gets you excited and helps you masturbate to huge orgasms.

[Letmetellyouaboutit]

It's pretty normal and I respect your goals. Masturbation is really the only answer if you truly want to wait. If you would like a little "verbal" stimulation while you masturbate, I will do that for you, but only after you turn 18.

[Asker]

Talk dirty to me 😜😂

[Letmetellyouaboutit]

I'd love to actually. Message me and we'll talk about how I can do that for you. It would very much turn me on to do this.

[TinyCactus]

*sigh* girl, I feel you. But once you get the hang of it, you realize that masturbation is not anything bad nor is feeling horny. Its natural. Just don't rush into sex or do anything illegal like sexting as a minor because you could really end up hurting yourself afterwards.

[Asker]

Yeah I feel like people nowadays don't really take into consideration the consequences that can come with sexting. Like, we're talking jail time here aha. I'm smart enough to know NOT to do any of that.

[TinyCactus]

Not only is it a crime, but it can also be the cause of some serious emotional damage later on.

[JohnDoe3000]

Lol. You're not the only one, you're simply human...

[FakeName123]

Its a mix of hormones from you being a teen as well as desiring being with someone intimate (emotionally and physically). That desire of wanting to be with someone intimate is also expressed by your libido.

[Prakbio]

I am saving for right one... and mine lifestyle just like you...

[Decentguy]

im a virgin and im saving myself, i'll have sex after marriage with only my wife, and sometimes my sexual hormones do get really crazy

[Muhammad1999]

Im like you exactly.

[ice_vampire]

#ItsNormal
Boys are just more vocal

[APRU5]

Im the same way. Im waiting but this day and age what are the chances your wife is a virgin? Unless i find someone who still has her hymen intact there is now way to be shure.

[Asker]

I know, and that's another reason to wait until you find somebody that you really want to be with. Because, you know, STDs and whatnot.

[Anonymous]

Save yourself hun

[Anonymous]

As you have mentioned above, actually, I am facing the same problem. I am virgin too. I am religious. But believe I think sex all the time. I always make virtual Pussy and fuck it at night. Sex toys are banned in India. I do watch porn regularly. You could buy some toy and have fun. Or have sex with a guy. Sex before marriage was always there since ancient times.

[Anonymous]

Sex feels good. I don't understand what this thing about "saving yourself" is about. it seems a dumb idea. As if sex is something special. It's just a good feeling, nothing more. Silly christians.

[Asker]

Sex is special. I mean... you're making yourself so vulnerable in front of another person.

[Opinion Owner]

Vulnerable? Why? You don't have to do that. Women can dominate in the bedroom just as well as men can. Even better sometimes.

[Opinion Owner]

dominant* typing is hard

[Asker]

No, I mean like... I don't know, sex is just really intimate and being with another person in such a personal way... it just seems like something special. Honestly, though, sometimes I want to ignore that and just freaking do it so...

[Opinion Owner]

The only thing that's special about your first time is how clumsy and clueless you will be. Just get it over with lol

[Asker]

It seems as if the first time is going to be embarrassing. I'm sort of dreading it, in a way aha.