Can things get sexual without kissing?

well this is kind of weird but my friends with benifits (actually my ex, with no feelings left) wants to do sexual things but not to kiss, and i was wondering how is it possible i mean kissing/ french kissing is so intimidate, i dont think i can even feel sexual with him without that. any help? i mean i can't just pull his pants down n give blowjob if me myself am not horny... advice plzz
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It can help build the sexual tension if you don't kiss but it can also be frustrating, like you don't get closure. I've been in this same situation (friends with benefits with an ex with no feelings) and I needed kissing too, it's not even emotional just a part of the process, luckily for me so did she. Maybe get like you're nearly kissing but don't and it can make some people horny, dunno if it would work for you. I'd say talk to him and make it clear that you need kissing to get horny but that it doesn't mean anything, other than that I'm sorry, I'm sure it CAN happen but I'm not one of those people so I dunno how

  • He doesn't want intimacy. He wants raw, nasty sex. There's all kinds of foreplay aside from kissing on the mouth. I'm betting you can find other ways to wind yourself up with his help.

Most Helpful Girls

  • No actually. I need to kiss him so i can at the very least "fake" intimacy. Even if he's just some guy if he didn't let me kiss him i'd just feel like i wasn't getting what i want and i wouldn't want to go through with it.

    • I wouldn't do it. If he can't let you kiss him then fuck him, find someone else.

  • Depends if you have other places that can be stimulated. What about licks or gentle bites in the nipples or ears or other sensitive body parts. Gentle rubs and massage with fingers, ... Be creative.

    • thanks

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  • Maybe try watching porn together to get the horniness down. If not, what you can do is start feeling each other up OVER CLOTHING FIRST at the same time. So you both have equal chance to get in the mood. Or even maybe a little teasing would get it straight. Hah, see what I did there? Straight? Penis. Anyways, he can try feeling you up like fondling your Breast-ez-ses. Or try out some kinks you two may have? The possibilities are endless!!

  • Im in a relationship where mouth kissing is mostly limited to greetings. When i initiate sex it is almost always going directly to giving her oral, which is certainly a form of kissing... where it counts the most.

  • Of course, you can still get handsy.

  • They really shouldn't. That's like juming into the final boss of a videogame without even playing the tutorial first.

  • Yes they can , but sex would be charmless and would lack intimacy

  • It is possible but I am not sure

  • yeah they can

    • how? advice?

    • I don't know I suck at that kind of advice.

  • thats interessting. im not a big fan of kissing at all. or really anything with my mouth for that matter.

  • yeah it can but whatever makes u feel good

  • yes
    of course

    • but how