My boyfriend is an ass man, and I don't really have an ass?

[Anonymous]

Sorry if this sounds stupid. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years. I have natural DD/DDD cup boobs and when we first met, he loved them so much. Couldn't keep his hands off them during sex. Now later in the relationship, he has made the change into only liking ass. My butt is small, not afraid to admit it. I am a runner, so it will always be small. I don't plan on stopping exercising for it to get bigger. Anyway, we send each other porn or sexy gifs that turn us on (no big deal, we both watch porn and sending stuff gives ideas, we both don't have an issue with this). But all these videos and gifs he is sending now are girls with big butts when in the past, it used to be big boobs. I have to remind him to touch my boobs now. Even when I'm on top he doesn't seem interested in them. I've straight up asked him if he likes big butts and then he gets super defensive so fast all like "no i only like your butt size" and I obviously don't believe this lol. I don't even think it jiggles during doggy style. Should I work on getting my ass bigger? Why would my boyfriend go from 100% boob-man to 100% ass-man? Do lots of guys to this? Why is this totally hurting my self esteem? :(

[feminismisnarcissism]

I'm an ass man-to the point I love eating ass. It's about the shape more than the size. As long as you have curves... I'm happy. And bigger is not necessarily better. Not noticing your boobs when you on top is a little strange...

And I can see why it would hurt your self esteem... perhaps try dressing up your ass a little for sex? garter belt maybe and thigh highs? If he can change his tastes... so can you change his tastes ;) Trust me, I've had women do it... I've gone from no interest to jerking off to pictures OF HER.

[Asker]

I bought a garter belt and thigh highs and wore them under my clothes for valentines day, but he fell asleep and never got to see them :( That really hurt too.

[feminismisnarcissism]

awww, he sounds really inattentive. My money would go on - he's getting a porn addiction. there's only so much you can do but he obviously takes you for granted... might be time to trade up. And what a sexy and sweet gesture on Valentine's Day, you're obviously a giving lover-know one thing: HE is the problem, not your ass, not your boobs. So either you can help him change it up or it's time to change your boyfriend to a guy that notices you for fucks sake lol

[feminismisnarcissism]

and by "porn addiction" i mean in a bad way. I likely have more porn than any man you've ever met... but my girl (when i have one) gets all the attention and the porn is secondary. when you are secondary TO the porn, that's a problem.

[scooogy]

You should use your butt on him during sex, to show him what your butt can do, no matter how much it is.

[Asker]

@scooogy what do you mean by this? lol. It barely even jiggles. It's a lot of muscle and its small. I can't twerk or shake it haha

[scooogy]

you can ride his face with it ;)

[feminismisnarcissism]

@scooogy is right... like i said, I'm an assman and I'd LOVE this.

[Curmudgeon]

1. Play to your strengths. Maintain the boobage.

2. Understand that as you age, you WILL get a bigger ass, and not in a good way after a certain point. Young people 18-24 often feel too skinny, because they often ARE. This is still way better than middle age, where you will start fighting "The Battle Of The Bulge".

3. Don't do anything to alter your natural ass shape. It will change over time as above, and plenty of us men prefer skinny women with nice racks. If your guy can't see that, his loss.

[Asker]

I do wear low cut, fitted shirts around him, but he would still rather see my ass in a thong. I try to play into the strengths of having big boobs. I don't know what to do anymore. I just want him to still be attracted to me.

[Anonymous]

you can exercise to make it bigger but I don't think that can really affect your relationship. your boyfriend should like you the way you are.
maybe tomorrow he will like long legs, and day after tomorrow big muscles... whatsoever, he should not change the way he feels for you.
we all change , we like this we like that and sometimes we completely change and stop liking what we liked before.
*true love never dies* that's something we can't change.

[PurpleTeardrops2]

You're most likely dating a man in your age range. Most happen to be very fickle in that age range with ANYTHING!

Don't worry about it. He's young and will become more mature with time (hopefully)

No don't focus on your butt. Will a bigger butt pay your bills? Nope

[KittieCat]

I mean you would have to exercise for it to get bigger so you wouldn't stop. Some people change or like what they don't have. (ex I have amazing curly hair but I want straight) Do whatever you want. If you wanna be stronger and have a more muscular ass do it. If not then don't

[karennn]

Do some squats and your ass will be more sculpted than these 🍑

[cpzpbx3]

That's weird for him to go from one extreme to the other like that, but I still wouldn't focus your life on changing it. It could be a weird phase.

[enis_Penvy]

I'm a leg man but my girlfriend doesn't have drop dead legs when we started dating. She has the most amazing breasts in God's creation by her legs were average. She knew it, I knew it, but I fell in love with her anyway. And her legs still turn me on 😉

[desidoll]

Funny thing is most men that I have dated are ass men lol. I am like you. I don't have big ass just big boobs.

[Riverock]

Don't worry about it. I don't think it's a massive issue and only an idiot would leave someone they've been with for 2 years because they like bigger butts.

He obviously finds you attractive so you've nothing to worry about in my opinion.

[Gingerbread77]

Well you can still exercise and get a big ass just do squats and leg lifts and a bunch of other exercises that are meant to make your glutes bigger. But I wouldn't be concerned about him not noticing your boobs as much. It might even be a phase 😂

[HauteBrilliance]

Talk to him about it, don't get too worked up on it. :(

[johnmsk]

show me your ass first :P

[slimstiffy]

Well sorry about your issue. Am an ass man myself. I dont think he just switched over. He must have been an ass man from the beginning. I knew i was an ass man when i was maybe 15 or 16 .. But i did hear of guys becoming more ibto ass over time. But thwir first priority nay still be boobs. The thing is, what we like, never gets old. An assman can always enjoy grabbing ass and derive pkeasure from it. But for him, the boob thing may jave been temporary. The best thing for you would have been a boob guy since ur gifted in that area. But guess what, there's a silver lining.. After a while once a guy falls in love none of this mattwrs that much anymore. He will still love you and want sex with you always. Just less boob play. And he won't leave you for a girl with a big ass. So dont worry about that

[Asker]

but boob play is like the only foreplay i enjoy. i get nothing out of ass play. but i see what you're saying.

[slimstiffy]

Yeah i think you need to have a talk with him about this. That you would like more attention on your breasts. He should understand. Nothing wrong with it. After all, its a pleasurable activity for both of you

[iCroissant]

If he's a good boyfriend be honest wit him.
If he's a good boyfriend he will be honest with you.
If you're a good girlfriend you'll believe him.

[Jan1ssary_]

Do at least 200 squats a day, you will have that ass ;D

[anonman32]

yeah, get a bigger ass.

[wolfie12]

It changes with a wind.

[wow989]

You need some squats action

[Anonymous]

I prefer smaller asses myself, and yeah, I'm an ass man

[Anonymous]

Don't try to change yourself for him. He needs to accept you for the way you are. If he can't, then that's too bad. You shouldn't let this hurt your self esteem.

[Anonymous]

Why would you want to change for him? Don't, just don't