I do not speak with authority. The Bible prohibits "fornication", which is sexual intercourse between an unmarried heterosexual couple. It is, however, mute on non-intercourse sexual intimacy as it is on masturbation. Take the time to read "Song of Solomon" in the Old Testament. The stuffed shirts will tell you it is an allegory about G0d's love for the Church. Nonsense. It is about hot young love. Read these.
"Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine." 1:2
"We will run after thee... we will remember thy love more than wine." 1:4
"He shall lie all night betwixt my breasts." 1:13
"I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste." 2:3
"In the secret places of the stairs, let me see thy countenance... for... thy countenance is comely." 2:14
"My beloved is mine, and I am his: he feedeth among the lilies." 2:16
"By night on my bed I sought him whom my soul loveth." 3:1
"I found him whom my soul loveth: I held him, and would not let him go, until I had brought him into my mother's house, and into the chamber of her that conceived me." 3:4
"Stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please." 3:5
"Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins." 4:5
"How much better is thy love than wine!" 4:10
"Come... blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits." 4:16
Generally speaking, the New Testament states there should be no extramarital sex before marriage. If you break this down into the words the text was originally written in, there is room for this to be interpreted to mean there should be no sexual contact between a man and a woman until they are married. And if you want to get even more technical about it, it is only in the Old Testament where such actions is referred to in the physical sense. In the New Testament a person is said to be not only responsible for their actions, but for their thoughts as well. Therefore, if you look at another man’s wife and lust have her, then you are just as quilt of the sin as if you actually physically had sex with her. The same concept can be attributed to sex with a girl outside of marriage. So, in conclusion, how far you should go Christian wise, if you want to take this out to the extreme, is you should not be doing anything, sexually, but holding hands with her or a light kiss here and there to show affection, and nothing else until you are actually married.
Its a question I ask myself daily. To be honest, that's going to have to come from a personal conviction. You need to search in your heart and ask God what you think is too far. There is nothing else on the matter in the Bible, and any opinion from random people on the internet, your pastor, or your church, is going to be biased. Personally, I believe oral sex is still sex. I'm waiting until marriage, and it's definitely hard and sometimes I question if its worth it but then I look at the STD rate and a bunch of girls with broken hearts and I stick with it. Anyway, what I personally plan to do is kiss, make out, dry hump, touch, but no cuddling naked or oral sex. For me, oral sex is just as intimate and involves stimulating the genitalia, having the same effect that penetration would have by emotionally connecting someone. I hope this helps as you consider for yourself what would be best in your case. :)
My argument to that is. Back in the days when the Bible was written marriage wasn't like it is today. You didn't have to go get blood tests, a marriage license which is permission from your state/country/locality to pair up and become a couple. Children grew up paired off and went to live as man and wife.
What I can't understand is why all the preachers are so anal about a piece of paper? To me modern day marriage is a legal arrangement which will provide for division of property when it goes sour. It's not like it's about 2 people being in love. It's a tax break when you file income tax returns, further deductions when you reproduce and who gets what when you kick the bucket.
Go back to the old ways. If 2 people love each other enough to pair up and go make a life of their own that should constitute marriage and they can do whatever they like.
Hebrews 13:4 says:
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
So, according to that and various other verses, I would say that if you're a Christian, don't have any sex before marriage.
I know sex before marriage is wrong. The grey area before that confuses me. There has to be other guides. What does immoral mean? JUST sex? So everything else is okay? (I'm not planning on doing anything... This has always gotten my attention just because I don't know)
I think that kissing and whatnot is okay. Just no sexual acts. Like oral sex or whatever else there is.
There are no set limits about how far is too far. You have to make the decision that is best for you at the time. If you really are seeking spiritual guidance in this area, maybe I would talk to a counselor or pastor?
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Just no fornication.. So you can do anything just don't engage in anything sexual.
If you have an impure thought, you will burn in hell for eternity !
If you're determined to push the limits as far as you can go without getting in trouble, maybe put the book down and do what you are afraid to admit you actually want to.
I won't push the limits. I was just wondering what they actually were
Looking up a few 'activities' using his site might help you : https://www.openbible.info/topics/
rape is pretty far in my opinion
yes, it does in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
3 For this is the will of God, that you should be holy and abstain from sexual immorality. 4 Each one of you should know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, 5 not with greedy, uncontrolled sexual passion like the nations have that do not know God.
All the sexual sin can be forgiven!
Generally you aren't supposed to go past a kiss, but the standards can be more strict or slightly less depending on the couple.
Please don't count on others to do your homework or interpretation for you. Do it for yourself. Read the Bible from cover to cover. Multiple times if needed. No cherry picking. Don't skip anything. It will be very educational to say the least.
Hmm, I dont go to pegging lenghts. It's a bit too much in my taste. But most other stuff will work for me.
If you have to ask, then it's too far.
Bj is too far
How far are you thinking you'd go?
I don't know. I wouldn't have sex but I wanted to know what's on the "do's" and "don'ts" list.
Or the "acceptable" and "not acceptable" list
Well kissing, holding hands and being affectionate is fine But sex, including oral is really a no
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