How do I know if I have orgasmed?

I'm used to masturbating and it feels good (obviously!) but how do I know when I've had an orgasm? What happens at the moment is that I rub and rub until I can't rub anymore because the area gets so sensitive and tingly - as if it would almost be painful to continue - and I feel a sense of release and relief Is that an orgasm? Whenever I see orgasms in films etc they seem to be a big deal with woman making lots of noise etc but I don't feel the need to do that so that is making me doubt myself. Also, it really doesn't take me long to get the sensitive, tingly feeling/sense of relief and release despite the fact I do it regularly and that worries me for when I have penetrative sex (I am a virgin).
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  • Generally the whole host of pleasant feelings you describe will suddenly increase sharply and immensely and become much more vibrant and intense - the nice sensations kind of explode outward all over your body from your vulva / genitals. The ecstasy might come in waves (just like on the ocean) with peaks and valleys and if you're a woman your vagina and anus might contract in rhythm with these waves of pleasure. It is often described as tingly / electric, and lasts only about ten or so seconds. It is often followed by your vulva becoming too sensitive to continue rubbing or stroking it, and most of the times there is a deep emotional satisfaction and relaxation or exhaustion that overcomes you afterward.

    So look for the steady good feelings, then a sudden massive increase in their intensity, then they will hugely intensify and you might feel your vagina pulse in rhythm with each wave of delight soaring outward over your body, for about eight or ten "waves" and then it will slowly subside.

    For a man it is much the same, for most of the process the physical sexual pleasure is felt mostly in the penis and scrotum, and as orgasm approaches the pleasure turns into ecstasy all concentrated in the penis, especially in the head. One can usually feel your semen "building" in the root of your penis, it feels almost like having to urgently pee. When orgasm begins it kind of feels like the penis itself explodes or bursts "forward" (best way I can describe it) and the sexual delight washes outward and engulfs the whole body and usually when this whole-body feeling is almost just at its peak our "waves" begin and rhythmic muscular contractions in the base of the penis spurts the semen / cum out of the tip repeatedly for about eight or ten "shots" of semen, after which the pleasure subsides. The sexual ecstasy is the most excruciating and riveting at the moment the semen spurts out.

    So both sexes experience it much the same subjectively (from personal experience and being with one or two women while they climax) - a man might have some extra sensations as he ejaculates - but yours will be similar as regards the sensations and "knowing" when you have orgasmed!

  • sounds like you are having an orgasm. typically when you orgasm you are so sensitive that you can hardly be touched. you should have some shortness of breath, and probably feel some muscle contractions in your pubic area

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  • TV and porn exaggerate a lot of things... I barely make any noise when I'm grinding solo.

    You feel pressure build up inside you as you rub and you can't stop rubbing because you're driving for the finish line. When you cum your inner muscles contract in strong waves by themselves and you feel a great release as all the "feel good" chemicals are released through your body. Stress, tension, and even pain starts to melt away and you might feel tired afterward.

    You do get sensitive and you will deep breathe when it happens but I think you're just rubbing yourself raw. Easy up some or do it less often. A tiny smear of Vaseline can help keep your clit lubricated while you work on it.

  • When you orgasm, you will feel an incredible build up, like you're climbing a rollercoaster in the beginning, then your body will drop you on your ass, take your breath away, and your vagina will convulse/squeeze/pulse (for an average of 3-10 seconds). And the pain you feel is from irritating your private from too much friction, so lessen on the friction. Buy yourself a small bullet vibrator or something.

    • wow! thats a great description! now there's a girl who's experienced an orgasm! like your pic, by the way

    • Thanks, @Mydnite ^^

    • :) .

  • you haven't orgasmed yet. BELIEVE ME, you'd know and wouldn't have to ask this question here if you did.

    Some women have a difficult time reaching orgasms, you might be in that club, unfortunately. Have you tried vibrators or other toys?

    • Yup! This is absolutely correct! You would definitely KNOW you have, you wouldn't have to ask.

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  • If you have, you would know for sure. lol. It's a really great feeling. Like others said, it sounds like you have been rubbing too long.

  • Can you feel the vaginal walls contract & release? Do you have the utter feeling of ecstasy for a few seconds? Is it the best physical feeling you've EVER experienced?

    When you can answer yes to those then you might have your answer!

  • do you feel waves and contractions?

  • Yes that's an orgasm

  • Don't go by films, they are mostly fake (if you are referring to porno). You yourself have described achieving orgasm " sense of release and relief".

  • I don't make noises either other then a sigh or a pretty discreet sigh.

    Your body kind of shakes and the muscles in your vayjay kind of go into compulsions... and a sense of relief. i'll get tingly or even numb toes if it's really good. There are many levels of an orgasm. No one size fits all and almost everyone is capable of many levels.

  • You're at least 25 and you have to ask this question?

    • Yes, do you have a problem with the fact that I am not promiscuous?

    • I'm a virgin too so no. You don't have to be promiscuous to know if you've had an orgasm. I knew at a lot younger age whether I'd had one or not. This just seems like a question a teen just learning would ask, not someone who is at least 25. This question just sounds young.

    • So? I'm not you and came to sex a little later. There's no need to be rude about it.