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Is it rape if a girl changes her mind after the sex?

like if while we had sex she was very down for it. she was very consenting. she had her hand on my d**k and taking my pants off so iam gonna say that's consent. she never said no and, from what I can tell, loved the experience. we even cuddled after and talked and did it again!!. yes we did have drinks but we weren't plastered drunk. I don't think she was anyway. I gave her a ride home and then she stopped talking to me. now 3 days later she finally texts me and says that she thinks I raped her because she doesn't like me in that way. so I don't understand. rape is a huge problem and I don't ever want it associated with me. I am just a sophomore and I definitely don't want to go to jail if she's accusing me of rape. so what do I do? everyones all gonna believe her if she goes to the police just because alcohol was involved.
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  • In this situation it's not rape. She's an idiot.

    My advice? Screenshot everything. If people were in the house/building and knew, get their confirmation, even if it's a text, screenshot it. Go to the police first if need be and say she's threatened you with rape, here's proof I didn't.

    People like bat make my blood boil. There are those of us who have been raped and most feel so ashamed/try to reason with it, it's not reported. It's a humiliating, life changing and damaging experience. Girls like this should be hung.

    • I met her on tinder. I did snap all the text we have of each other. of us agreeing to meet at the party. we had sex that night so I only have texts of me asking where she is and her not answering. she did deleter her tinder after accusing me and I did take snapshots before she took it down

    • Good. Go to the police and tell them you are scared of her intentions. The more open you are like "here take my phone" the more they will believe you. Falsely claiming rape is also a crime. This way you are covering yourself and potentially protecting others from this grim bitch being a twat. Honestly, even my cat (not a euphemism, my actual cat) has more sense than her.

  • That is not rape. That is a regret and unfortunately a lot of people are confusing the two now. If you think she is gonna go to the police and make you look like a rapist (which you are not) go to the police and let them know what her intentions are. a lot of people accusr others of rape when the reality is they regret having sex. We are living in a confused, foolish and victim playing time.

  • No, if she wasn't drunk then no. She consented before and during the sex and felt bad after. Too bad. That being said, if she was plastered or if she's under 18, you could be in trouble. In the future I wouldn't recommend you have sex with anyone who's been drinking if you didn't agree to sex before alcohol got involved.

  • You didn't rape her, she's just fallen prey to the mentality that a sideways glance can be called a sexual assault.

    She consented. She gave you every reason to believe she wanted it. Her post coitus ambivalence doesn't make you a rapist or her a victim.

    People needa get it together.

Most Helpful Guys

  • No it isn't. You can't withdraw consent after doing something. That's like buying tickets to a concert, thinking you'll like it, liking said concert, and then 3 days later saying that you actually didn't like the concert, or even the band, and you want your money back.

  • They're not necessarily going to believe her if you stay calm and just tell the truth. The police see these guilt rape charges all the time. I wouldn't worry too much about it. I doubt it'll even get to the legal level.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Nope!

  • No she's being ridiculous. She can't change her mind after

  • It's not rape. She regrets having sex with you, and so she is calling rape. Girls like her disgust me because not only can it ruin the guys life, but it makes people not believe real rape victims. I truly hope she doesn't do anything to ruin yours.

  • What the hell, no she consented.. regret is not rape. If she didn't like you then she shouldn't have slept with you.. don't associate with this girl anymore

  • If she changes her mind during sex and you continue regardless, then yeah, it's rape. In this situation, she didn't give you any indication that she wasn't enjoying herself and you didn't seem to do anything wrong.

  • It's not rape but Hire a lawyer.

  • it is not rape if she regrets it later

    • Regret is not rape

    • Oh sorry read that wrong :P

  • it's not rape.

    • ... i

    • I hope so. I met her on tinder and met her at a party for the first time and we had sex that night

  • If she consented its not rape lmfao

  • I think you made this story up.

    • SovereignessofVamps - when things like these show up daily, you choose to think he made this story up. I think you are a garbage human and a misandrist.

  • No, but many female movements and making other women believe that it is. You can't just withdraw consent AFTER the deed, and call it rape.

  • No it is not rape

  • That's not rape. She's regretting.

    • Hahaha! Too late!!! 🍌

  • Only if you don't stop when she tells to.

  • No not if during she was ok with it

  • If she even thought about considering you as a rapist towards her then I would never talk to her again. Too risky man... However from what you said - as long as you have the texts you should be okay.

  • What do you think it would happen if you completely ignore her?

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  • no dont be stupid

  • She can't claim rape once she consents to it. Once she consents to sex, it's no longer rape - unless he does something to her that she doesn't consent to. But after having sex, she cannot claim rape if she just regrets it. Just make sure she is absolutely 100% okay with having sex with you. If she is not 100% or you're not sure, then don't. Because she very well could claim rape, and you certainly don't want that drama.

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