Do women sometimes crave more sex than men in a committed relationship due to emotions?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend wants sex a lot too but I feel like I may be hornier. We have sex a few times a day he finishes he's good. Even if I come I want to do it again and again. After he fucks me once he's good for a few hours. But it was like that with my ex too. Do women get horny more because unlike men they don't get tired post orgasm? I've heard often the woman wants to go again and again the man likes breaks in between fuckig. Also sex makes me feel emotionally connected maybe that's why I like it so much?

[AustinMan]

It seems clear to me that you don't understand or appreciate the virtue of multiple cataclysmic orgasms. Get up in the saddle and fuck him until you're exhausted and then let him have his dirtiest, kinkiest way with you.

Cowgirl tips
Here’s the way I have found, with the help of a very cooperative girlfriend, that a woman can ride her man all the way up the mountain to multiple, increasing powerful orgasms and ultimately, squirting.
• He needs to understand that he can help with this position by grabbing her hips and helping her move. At first, leave to her own devices but as she gets more and more aroused, he should become stronger and more and more forceful in moving her back and forth.
• Put him on his back and mount up with you on your knees.
• Slide him in and settle in so you’re comfortable.
• Rock like you’re riding a horse, slowly at first and faster as you get more aroused.
• When you’re ready for him to help, reach down and put his hands on your hips. For effect, you can beg him in your sexy slut voice to help you.
• When you start to get close to cumming, move like you’re trying your best to break that thing off. Of course, you won’t but the point is to not hold back. Just go crazy.
• When you’re right on the edge, tell him to do you. He thrusts up as powerfully as he can and holds it with you impaled as deeply on his cock as possible, perched on his erection. He also forcefully tilts his hips and slams his shaft into your G-spot.
• As you cum, don’t even slow down. Keep going and you will cum over and over, each time increasingly intense.
• If you have The Big One, as I call it, you may very likely squirt so if there’s a gush, it’s not urine. It’s female ejaculate. Keep going until you’re completely done.
Here are a few ancillary suggestions:
• Pee first so that if you should squirt, you can be confident it’s not pee.
• If you’re into S&M, have him forcefully pinch your nipples as you’re starting to cum.
• He can slap your tits around if you’re into that. One girlfriend of mine liked to be slapped while she was up there with me telling her what a trashy slut she was for being up there in the first place.
• Some ladies like their men to reach around and smack their ass while they ride.

[AustinMan]

Thanks for the MHG! Have you tried multiple screaming orgasms?

[burlen]

In other words, you're asking whether emotions cause women to have high sex drive. It's unclear what type of emotions you're referring. Love? Joy? Trust? Etc.

There’s a correlation between positive emotions and desire to have sex for both males and females. If you feel happy and good about someone, you’re more likely to want to have sex with them.

However, it's hard to prove whether love, joy, or trust can cause females to have a high sex drive. Nonetheless, sexual intercourse and sexual release can lead to improved bonding with a partner in bed and off bed.

You’ve rightly answered your own question in your post. A male goes through a refractory phase immediately after having ejaculatory orgasm.

The refractory phase restores the energy expended during sex and ejaculation. It restores the male’s internal organs and chemicals channelled towards sexual intercourse to normal functioning.

Surely, no reasonable person wants sex to go on for hours. The male’s refractory phase forces the male to stop the sex. The refractory phase is perhaps a benefit to you than you think. Without it the male would be hitting your pussy for hours non-stop.

[Anonymous]

when you have a partner who you feel good with. connect with, trust. then you want that closeness, sexually, emotionally. that should expl your feelings towards your ex. and your current boyfriend.
you two seem to have a very healthy sexual life. keep it up.
you can help him last longer by teaching him not to cum so fast.
or get him arouse to do it again... its possible... :)

my ex. and i both early 40s... best partner :) .. he was able to cum 7-8 times in 24 hours. he was hard again after he cam and he continued to thrust and that made me fell really good.
i then played with him and got him aroused again to go round 2, 3, 4... just weekend play...
we were both shock that he was able to do so often...
too bad our relationshop ended.. there were other things we wanted to do

so just practice with him... make him wait.

[ArrowheadSW]

Sounds like the relationship I had with the last woman I was in a long term relationship with. The chemistry was there and I really was comfortable with her. There was not very long of a refractory period for me between orgasms with her. I think we were both surprised at how non-stop it could be. (I'd better quit typing... I'm getting hard... LOL)

[Tammy94]

When you have an orgasm during sex your body releases a bonding hormone that makes you bond emotionally with your partner. Because of this it's perfectly normal to want sex more as you get more involved with the person, and women basically have more sexual stamina than men. So yes, women can want sex (or at least manage sex) more than men when in a relationship.

[falafelany1]

Everyone has different sex drives. A man might have a lower sex drive or an average one and a woman might have a high one. There are many variations on this. Personally I think I would want to take breaks and rest afterwards since I have only been able to orgasm once in a session so far.

[Anonymous]

well... i mean i would like to say so. cause girl i know where your coming from and you know what thats okay cause what you can do is just tell him that tell him you want more (use it in dirty talk ) so that maybe he'll be up for more ( if you know what I'm saying XP) good luck

[HandsomeRaj]

Ah your question is different from the context 😊

In this context it's not about emotions or even libido, it's purely functional / physiology.

Girls & in this case you are multi-orgasmic but even guys that can do it multiple times a day (you are lucky to have one who's that way) need from a few minutes to a few hours to get back up again. Nature's made it that way.

However sometimes even guys can be Multi-orgasmic, but seldom to the extent girls can be.

What a man can do is last longer, there are kegel exercises that can be done. Again these take time to be effective and that just like exercising has different effects on everyone's physique these do too

[America1st]

Three times a day is a lot. Women can have sex for however long they want. Men obviously have limits due to not staying hard after cumming. Where women have it better is a man can use her toys, etc. to give great satisfaction even if he isn't hard. You sound like a dream. I wish I knew you! I have to say that three times every day is much more than the vast majority of us. A man has the ability to bring a woman to multiple orgasms (if she's able). You should be very happy that your guy does you three times a day. Be happy you get that. Use your hands and toys if you need more. I understand the emotional connection women crave. It's just something that is much more prevalent in women. If a man knows enough to make sure that emotional connection isn't only during sex, he's way ahead of most men and it makes a difference for the woman. If she just happens to be insatiable, its hard for a man to keep up. I believe most women would be very satisfied with what you get.

[Ratiocinative]

Yes, it is normal that a woman wants sex more often than the guy does when in a long term relationship. Of course, sex drive can vary from individual to individual, but in general if a woman is less interested in sex than the man is then the man is most likely doing something that is turning her off. Like you said, sex make a woman feel emotionally connected (and guys too, but moreso women), and if a woman is truly in love with a man she will crave him inside her often.

[1988fido]

It is normal.
And some men have higher sex drive then women and some women have it higher then men.

[Gnana]

I have the same here :)

[xStacJx]

I think so yes, if you have a connection with the guy your sleeping with then the sex is amazing and that itself just makes you want more but if you are also completely attracted, comfortable and confident in your man then that's next level and that for me is when I am horny 24/7 and keep on going. My poor boyfriend can't keep up with me lol X

[lightbulb27]

That all sounds correct!

[enis_Penvy]

I think so. My girlfriend and I dated in high school and tried the long distance thing in college--sex was good. We broke up cause LDR wasn't working.
After a year she called and told me she missed me terribly, transferred to my school, and we've been together ever since. And her sexual energy and desire has increased significantly. I think once her heart and her mind and her body realized they all wanted me, she couldn't stop being horny. That's what it seems like anyway.

[objob94]

No, it's just that men have to wait a bit to get aroused again, normally a couple of hours to stay hard.

It's natural. It's not that he's not up for sex, he may want sex, but his penis will do otherwise. Don't worry about it. Ask him to lick you out if you're really horny whilst you wait

[Belgie]

I don't think so. I think it's just a matter of drive. You have a higher sex drive than your partner.

[somebodysaycheese]

Yes, if im sexually , physically and emotionally attracted to him. But i need to be attracted to them in all three ways.

[TheBigGiantHead900]

What if it's 2 out of 3 about the guy you like?

[somebodysaycheese]

@TheBigGiantHead900 nope. thats the thing women get with a guy who has one or two and thats why she no longer has is attracted to him. I need all three and if i loose one of those then id have a problem. Might i ad the emotional connection can do a lot, if youve kept me emotionally happy you will automatically look a hundred times more attractive in a relationship. Having one or two of the three is for hookups or short term relationships.

[TheBigGiantHead900]

Oh ok, so when I look for a girlfriend I look for all 3 of these things in her... Thanks

[cavmanier]

What's the difference between physically attracted and sexually attracted?

[somebodysaycheese]

@TheBigGiantHead900 yea why not. Never settle

[somebodysaycheese]

@cavmanier physical is i find you attractive sexual is i want to have sex with you

[EmilyC88]

now that I am in serious relationship with a guy I love I get horny and I crave sex more i didn't crave sex with any of the guys I slept with in my past I very rarely felt horny

[SovereignessofVamps]

Yeah tons of girls can have higher sex drives than their bfs.

[GingerGuy]

Guys need time to rejuvenate, at least 20 mins usually. If you get to more than 2-3 times a day, while we can do it, the desire is less for sure and also being hard so much in 1 day our penises can actually become swollen and VERY sore. I don't know if I'd say women CRAVE it more, lots and lots don't, but you can definitely do it more than we can in a shorter time.

[Bobbyhill1]

what kind of man are you? I can go 3 times in a row and not be soft! I ejaculate fluid more than 10 times a day if I wanted too. I have urges all throughout these times

[tyber1]

@Bobbyhill1 you're the exception not the rule, and it doesn't make you more of a man.

[Bobbyhill1]

@tyber1 I thought the majority of men were like this, I just thought you were defective lol

[tyber1]

@Bobbyhill1 I'm not GingerGuy but no you're the outlier and he isn't defective.

[Bobbyhill1]

@tyber1 gingerguys backup account to make it seem as if he is normal? lol ok

[redeyemindtricks]

@Bobbyhill1 He's twice yr age.

[tyber1]

@Bobbyhill1 Dude, really? Believe whatever you want I'm not going to entertain nonsense.

[Bobbyhill1]

@redeyemindtricks being twice my age isn't the problem apparently, I did research on the subject the majority of males go soft after the first ejaculation. I had a awkward convo with my dad about it and he says to this day he can still go many times without facing the same problem. It is a genetic thing

[Bobbyhill1]

@tyber1 im joking lol

[redeyemindtricks]

@Bobbyhill1 @tyber1 Most guys CAN keep going after ejaculating -- even in their forties -- with the right kind of stimulation, but it has to be... the right kind of stimulation. Physical stimulation that's more gentle than normal, combined with, well, more than just physical stimulation. And, it's rare for them to maintain a 100% full erection the whole time. But obviously you don't need a 100% completely full erection to keep fucking.

[Bobbyhill1]

@redeyemindtricks the keep going part wasn't the problem, it is the getting soft which is the problem therefor it won't really workout. Also he also states that some get sore and swollen (never happened to me)

[redeyemindtricks]

@Bobbyhill1 Enjoy being 20 while you can. (: Even going soft isn't really an issue, IF you're with a woman with whom you actually have an intimate/emotional relationship. There are plenty of ways to just *be* inside her -- and make love -- while you're soft and still "recovering" toward getting hard again... but most of those are of the more tender, slow type, so they wouldn't really be suitable if you just had a FWB/fuck buddy situation. You can definitely reach a point where stopping after the first time you cum becomes "weird".

[Bobbyhill1]

@redeyemindtricks doesn't really matter, I have good genetics. literally nobody in my family ages or shows signs of oldness. my grandmother looks like she is in her 40s n has a lot of energy my mom looks like my sister and has a lot of energy and so do all of her sisters and brothers. I literally have been this horny since I was 5 years old. I am the same person I've always been

[Bobbyhill1]

@redeyemindtricks the only time I get soft is when i stop completely. If i Keep going I will be 100% hard

[redeyemindtricks]

@Bobbyhill1 Congratulations.

[Bobbyhill1]

@redeyemindtricks congratulations? did I win something?

[ManOnFire]

It probably depends. For me I don't need hours to do it again. I like to do it several times, and one of the key things I learned is that the longer you wait to do it again the more tender you feel and the harder it is to cum. When you do it sooner it's easier. But I've also heard guys who like to fuck several times but their girlfriends are too tired or sensitive to go anymore after one or two times. Having said that, "hornier" women could just be more glamorized.

[TadCurious]

I think it's great that you have a really strong sexuality. The problem for us guys is this thing called the "refractory period," and the fact that after we orgasm these hormones get released that can make us feel sleepy. The refractory period, of course, is the period right after orgasm when a guy can't get another erection. That period of time depends on a lot of factors like age, fatigue, stress, and what kind of "help" the girl gives the guy to get him up again. It would be great if we could get hard again almost immediately after we cum!

[uknaked]

Sexual compatibility comes in different ways, what you both like, what you don't like, and frequency of sex fun. Most women do not orgasm from a penis alone and need digital stimulation as well.
All guys lose some of their desire and ability after orgasm, that is the way they are made, and only younger guys can cum many times a day.
You sound like the perfect partner, and you are in your sexual prime at around your age, but you must accept the limitation of a mere male.
At least he wants sex a number of times a day, some guys only want it a couple of times a week! Obviously they would be of no use to you.
A question for you, do you orgasm every time you have sex?
You will not be satisfied unless you do have a good orgasm, every time, if you do, great. If not you need to stimulate your clitoris yourself while he is fucking you to ensure you do cum!
If you need more orgasms, or need to fit in orgasms between sex with your partner, then masturbation is the only alternative to multiple partners.
Obviously masturbation may not be as emotionally satisfying, but it can be if he stimulates you, with fingers and tongue on your clitoral area, to make you cum, or he is in your mind as you cum.

[reptocarl]

As women get to their 30's they crave it all the time

[Phenix457]

Yeah, there's a chemical released in a mans brain right after an orgasm that literally makes us unable to turn back on for a bit (except for pretty extreme cases) so like sometimes it's hard to get back in the mood. Also think like, some girls never even get orasms. You're getting multiple a day like that's nothing to complain about. It sounds like he's doing work

[melme16]

I would say so. Can't wait until I'm in a committed relationship. Imagine all the fun we can have!

[dudegrt09]

You can have all the fun without being in a committed relationship ;P

[melme16]

@dudegrt09 no thank you! Not for me

[dudegrt09]

No one is judging here