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No condom with her side man?

My girlfriend of 3 years is leaving me today. She's 3 months pregnant with some other guy's kid. In the 3 years we've been together I have used a condom every single time. I've literally never felt skin to skin on her. Now I find out she's pregnant and didn't use a condom. Obviously I'm mad, hurt, etc. My question is, why wouldn't she use a condom with the guy on the side? And how should I feel about her letting some guy on the side hit it with out a condom and she makes her boyfriend for 3 years wear one every time? Does that say something about me or something? I'm also getting tested, by the way.
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I wonder if the other guy even knows I exist? Like my whole relationship was a lie and I was wearing the condom so I wouldn't get her pregnant and HE wouldn't find out?
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She claims they met at her job & they've been seeing E/O for about a year. Rubber every time wasn't originally planned, supposedly. Apparently at some point she decided she didn't want kids with me, so the rubber stayed. She said she cried the last few times we had sex because she would imagine me as him because that was the only way she could convince herself to sleep with me at that point anymore. :\
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  • Yah, sure that's a big ticket pissed-off but wait... before cursing the cunt; Did you ever asked yourself --- Am I good in bed? Am I making my girl sexualy satisfied? Or am I just performing some task whenever we get down to that? Are how open was our communication?

    Remember it takes two to tango, as well as the kamasutra. I will not sugar coat this whole thing for you, my friend. The idea that you were wearing condom whenever you do it with her left her feeling unsatisfied. Disconnected. Irrelevant. Although you have good intentions for wearing the rubber but it left her sexualy hollow.

    You can keep wearing rubber whenever you want to have an intercourse, but you should be able to make your girl enjoy first. Use your hands, your mouth, your tongue, your feet, or have some sex toys to make her feel full and could cum a number of times before getting into the main event where you need the protection. In this way, her need is fulfilled without risking your health and unplanned pregnancy.

    Your ex must have had the itch for better sex. But she made the worst decision of getting it from another man, intead of discussing it with you. The foundation of a good relationship is not sex but good communication. And she failed on that and there's no excuse for her to have failed that, with that note --- losing her is a good ridance.

    • She always made me wear one. Kinda wasn't my choice? I was always willing to do different things. She never said anything or was never blatant about anything being unsatisfactory.

    • In that case, she's a plain immature bitch. Good thing you get rid of her.

  • That's so bad, she shouldn't be cheating anyway as if she wasn't happy in the relationship then leave but don't cheat and secondly if you guys use condoms then I don't see why she didn't use one with her side man she obviously wanted to get caught and have a reason for you to dump her

  • Consider yourself lucky to be rid of this bitch. At least you won't be tied down to her for the rest of your life. You can find a nice lady that will treat you right.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Wow you are beta as fuck and almost got cuck. You are a beta provider. She essentially was using you as a fall back but didn't find u sexually attractive (you were a stable guy to settle down with). However, the guy she really lusted for and fucked in her youth she didn't use a condom. She most likely was going to pass this kid off as yours but the next dude was willing to be her boyfriend and not just ONS so she went with him.

    LOOK UP ALPHA FUX/BETA BUX.

    Women are sexually attracted and really want ALPHA males. Betas are used for helping her take care of kids, provide a nice cozy life for her, and essentially provide for her. I wouldn't be surprised if ever she gets dropped by this dude she bails and then comes back to with crocodile tears saying how much she loves you and she made a HUGE mistake.

    Statistics show that 1 in 5 men are raising children that are not there own knowingly.

    • Also your first mistake was agreeing to he rules of only condom for sex. She lost respect for you right there.

    • So you're basically saying that for her, sex with me was just part of the "package" as to actually wanting to genuinely do it with me?

    • Sex with you was more like duty sex. Something she did to keep you happy but she didn't really want to do or have the urge for. Sex for the other guy was something she really wanted to do with. She lusted for him and enjoyed every moment of his dick moving in and out her pussy.

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  • Been there, sadly. Except mine claimed I had knocked her up despite careful condom use and didn't reveal the side man she was having unprotected sex with until later.

    Anyway, I would guess your girl was hot for the other guy but liked all the other things you did for her and didn't want to give them up. I wouldn't try assigning any more meaning to it unless you feel it's part of a bigger pattern in your relationships. Just don't make the mistake of helping her if she comes back around looking for it. Her being out of your life is the best thing to come out of what happened.

    • I was wondering why the guy she's seeing on the side gets more physical enjoyment from her than I do? :\

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  • She probably felt more connected to him than you? It is normal for you to be angry and hurt. It simply says you both weren't right for each other.

    • It simply says that she's a terrible person, since she cheated.

    • @TheWaterBear I never said she was a good person to begin with. That's pretty much a given

    • As if that is a valid reason you say she felt more comfortable, she is just one of great sluts that fucking worlds sees ever

  • Some people are just scum. At least that's not your kid she's carrying. Think of what kind of kid someone like her would raise. You got shot by a bullet but you ended up dodging a cannon ball if you ask me.

  • Sounds to me like you were always the side guy...

    • Like what my update says? Kind of?

  • Sometimes I want a relationship with a girl...

    Then I just come to GaG to see the ridiculous stories and I am set commitment free for another three months :)

  • Sounds like you were on the sidelines this entire time.

    • You mean sexually or altogether?

    • Do you really want the answer to that?

    • I mean nothing you can say will hurt me as much as she did, so why not?

  • My question is, why wouldn't she use a condom with the guy on the side?

    No, no... we do not concern ourselves with "why". That is not a question resulting in an answer on which you can build bigger and better. Why? Because she's a whore, she secretly wanted a kid, he had enough warts that he was naturally ribbed for her pleasure. it doesn't matter. Why rarely does.


    And how should I feel about her letting some guy on the side hit it with out a condom and she makes her boyfriend for 3 years wear one every time?

    You should feel thrilled that she showed herself before you married her and potentially comingled assets. This is why assets should not be comingled more than absolutely necessary. You dodged a bullet there. Maybe not all the way. You got nicked in the arm. Beats center mass.

    Does that say something about me or something?

    Says a lot about you that you're smart enough to return her to the streets where she belongs.

  • It could be that you failed as an attractive / sexually hot man in the relationship but given the outcome it's better for you, seek out a girl that doesn't sleep around behind your back

  • holy shit! sorry to hear about this!

    i feel like she made you the side guy or unless this was a one off fling with a guy she was with and didn't use a condom.. but yeah :/

    • Apparently she had sex with him multiple times.

  • She's a hoodrat. Your lucky didn't marry that dirty broad.

  • Dunno. Maybe she was bored or was more attracted to her side order (depending on level of attraction some women want guys to cum inside them, extra risk be dammed)? I would have gotten tired of her after 3 months, forget 3 years. But yeah going bareback with a side order while the main partner is stuck in a balloon sucks. If anything that should have been reversed.

  • she's a dumb ho what is there to say.

  • It says "she is a total cunt who simply does not care when it comes to casual sex with strangers but she lies to herself by making her boyfriend use a condom so she can keep up this self image of being more responsible and less slutty than she actually is." It has nothing to do with you man, get a good last fuck in with her if you can, then leave her.

  • She's a bitch. Feel lucky you wasted no longer than three years with her, and don't give a shit about how she feels or why she did this or that.

  • take a test, if the kid doesn't belong to you. I dont know you can everything do to the dishonest bitch.

    • By the way what does your bitch girlfriend tell about that case?

    • She doesn't deny that it's his kid. I'm taking an STD test.

    • Wtf! doesn't say whe she did that to you?

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  • That sucks major...
    That's just disrespectful on so many levels

    It's like she trusted him more than you... Or enjoyed his sex more or something

    Hang in there, try and get with another lady quick! It helps to feel wanted by another woman, especially after a break up.

  • Now its time to take the red pill

    • Now it's time for STD test.

    • Or are you suggesting it might be my fault for not satisfying her or something?

  • Kinda sounds like you got cucked. can't say its the first I've heard this happen. I had a friends with benefits who always let me fuck no condom yet I dunno if she knew I knew, that she had a boyfriend that she always made wear a condom.

  • Maybe you were the side guy all along.

  • That's messed up , sounds like you were the side guy instead. I feel really bad for you, you must feel angry and sad at the same time

    • I wonder if the other guy even knew about me? Maybe he doesn't even know I exist?

    • It's doubtful or he would have been wearing a condom too

  • You dodged a bullet here man. She around your age? if so it shows super poor judgement form someone in their 30's. It sounds like she has some other stuff going on than obviously being a cheater. She's his problem now.

    I hope that STD test comes back clean. Good luck man, you're too old to be dealing with this BS.

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