What is the best way to convince my girl to do a fmf threeway?

I love her, I do all of her fantasies gladly. But she keeps asking me about mine. I mean I really only have one. I have sex with 2 women. I haven't told her yet, because when I tell women this the tend to flip out and break up with me, I mean wtf ladies you wanted to know? Any way I love her, I would never leave her or love another woman more than her, and I really want this fantasy. What is the best way to have her agree to it without losing her?
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  • Yes, she wants to know what your fantasies are. But she's probably expecting fantasies that involve certain positions, locations, clothing, etc- not necessarily girls other than her. While threesomes are a pretty common fantasy, incorporating other people into your relationship or sex life is a big deal, and that's something you need to acknowledge going forward. Knowing that your partner wants to have sex with someone other than you is not an easy thing for every person to handle. It's completely natural for this to be an upsetting and complicated thing to deal with. So if you are going to make any attempt to live out this fantasy within a committed relationship, you need to understand that you are dealing with an incredibly sensitive issue.

    I would suggest testing the waters gradually, by trying to introduce the subject in a way that doesn't imply that this is something you personally are interested in. Watch a movie where a couple has a threesome, or mention some friends who tried it. Then see what she has to say. If she seems completely against it, then in all honesty, you're probably better off not mentioning your fantasy to her- unless it's something you can't live without and you are willing to risk your relationship to pursue it. But if she seems curious or open about the idea, there's a chance she might be comfortable with it. I'd caution against you being the one to choose the other girl, because this might increase the chance that your girlfriend will feel threatened by her. Allowing her to choose the other girl is a better idea. Also, don't assume that because your girlfriend is open to trying it, she'll necessarily want to do it again and again.

    • If she shows interest and you do end up planning a threesome, don't forget to set up strict rules and limits to make sure that all parties involved are comfortable with everything that happens during the interaction. If there's an activity that even one person out of three isn't comfortable with, that activity doesn't happen. Your girlfriend might have limits to what she is comfortable with, for example, she might not want you to do certain things with the other girl. Respect those limits, or risk the entire situation crumbling to pieces. Threesomes are a very sensitive topic, and they must be treated as such. Communication is crucial.

  • As a girl that is bi, I can't say how she would react if she's not into girls, but I do know that I get frustrated with my husband because he won't tell me anything that he has ever fantasized about. If she wants to know, just tell her. But make sure you do so in a way to not make her feel like you need it to happen. Tell her you think it would be hot but you realize that it may be unrealistic and you have no expectations. I also agree with bringing in threesome porn and gauge her reaction if you two watch porn together already.

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  • If you can establish a close relationship with a female, the attraction between her and the female may come naturally. Girls are more experimental with this stuff then guys are. Most guys wouldn't kiss another dude. I don't think it's uncommon for girls to have kissed another girl.

    If you do that, and the other friend is single, maybe she'll do it. I can't guarantee it, but regardless, you've gotten a friend out of it.

  • True she asked. The best way is to have her pick the girl. A girl that she is attracted/comfortable with and you'll have a better chance of it happening. The 1 time I had that.. my girl asked her friend to join.

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  • start with watching porn, including some FMF porn. ask her questions to see if she's bi/bicurious

  • Become an anime character.

  • Tell her and make her find the second girl.

  • Some other way

    • Which is?