Guys, my boyfriend beats the shit out of me during sex. Is this okay?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend forces me to have sex with him, and when we do, he has this cold look in his eyes. While he's fucking me, he gets a belt and beats me with it relentlessly. He also punches me in the face over and over until I'm bleeding and have a black eye, and he also slaps me so hard that my ears start ringing. He punches me in the ribs, arms, and legs, and he whips me so hard until I'm a sobbing mess and I have bruises everywhere, but he doesn't care. When I cry and scream for him to stop, he just grins/smirks and looks satisfied with himself. I'm powerless to stop him because I'm a petite, thin, 5'2 female, and he's 6'4 and really strong. He also gets a hard-on when I cry, and sometimes he jerks off to me crying. He also verbally degrades me and calls me things like "worthless fucking cunt." Outside of the bedroom, he's mostly really charming and funny and sweet, but he still insists on "putting me in my place" and even outside the bedroom, he calls me a stupid cunt. Should I break up with him?

[Borginborg]

Run! He is what's called sadomasochistic. If this form of sex is not a turn on to you then leave and don't look back before it gets worse. I know a couple who are. They have to use the basement for sex and it's covered in tarps because blood gets everywhere. She used to be gorgeous but is nothing but scars now head to toe and whatever fresh bruises, cuts, burns, stitches and/or broken bones she may currently have. She likes that though (long story once you hear it then you understand why).
to each their own. Doesn't sound like your thing so run before he gets into worse things like deprivation (tie you up and leave you there for days on end with nothing to eat or drink and forget washroom breaks) fully psychotic sadomasochistic people get off on power, control, inflicting pain, servitude, humiliation and most importantly breaking the other person mind, body and spirit.
Run
It's not a big jump from there to rapist and serial killer.
Don't get me wromg, millions of people practice sadomasochistic fantasies. But it is mutual and not forced or drug induced agreement.
If you can't run due to him and need assistance to escape then let me know. I will help. I hate men that force women and I have a few demons in me that like to ensure that people like him get what they give. (I'm not joking leave after reading this don't even tell him until after you are somewhere else)

[Nik1hil]

So this is a joke!.. A rapist and maniac who behaves okay in society and public!.. But inside bedroom!.. Sexually abuses you and rapes you and hurts you viciously!.. Even though you don't want it!..
You are a straight up idiot!.. You shouldn't have gone in this relationship in the first place!..
And yeah!.
They are thousands of guys out there!.. Who will like to take you out on a beautiful dinner and return home with you!.. Enjoy a slow-paced dance on your favorite music track!.. Until you both are turned on by the intimacy!.. And give you such soft yet intensely stimulating sex that!.. You will crave it!.. And won't stop until you ask him to or are completely satisfied!.. And will cuddle with you just after it until next morning,.. And won't let you out of bed before few kisses!.. ..
I ain't bluffing most guys are like that!.. Instead of a Jerk you becomes horny when a girl cries and is bleeding!.. If a girl cries I end up loosing my boner!.. After I am in there to please her!.. Not torment her!.. The monster whom you are with has mental issues!.. And watches stupid hardcore brutal sex porn where pornstars are paid a good sum for letting them abused on camera and later they are also paid to said in the end of video that they enjoyed it!.. Which literally is wrong and propagating something dangerous!..

[Goforit1010]

Is him doing that OK? HELL NO!!! Should you break up with him? Uhhhh... lemme see here, he beats you nearly senseless, treats you like garbage, and calls that sex? Do YOU want to stay with someone like that? Your choice, but if it were me, I'd be telling him to FO in no uncertain terms. Nobody I know gets into a relationship to be miserable. It sounds like you've reached the miserable point.

[AustinMan]

Hell yes, you should break up with him, on your way to the police to file charges.

[RasmusAiken]

Literally he is one sick f'-que. Dump him NOW while you're still alive.

[lightbulb27]

I'd say he is a sick dude, that is extreme. He was probably treated like that as a kid and he's taking it out on you. If you don't like that, then you need to stop the relationship, he needs to get into counseling to work that stuff out.

you need out of this. who says he will hold back on his punches. broken ribs will hurt and broken bones are expensive... not to mention women have been killed in such activities. I suggest break up, do it nicely. he may not be a bad person, just a messed up one.

[bvictor]

NO! NOT AT ALL.

[wankiam]

jeez... a bit of bdsm is one thing but you need to leave him and report him to the police

[JoeCensored]

It's only ok if you're ok with it.

[uknaked]

Dump him rapidly, just get away and stay away, he should also be reported to the police for assault and battery. He is one sick bastard who needs treatment.

[mrsingle]

He's taking it too far. Tell him to take it easy or leave him as an ultimatum, if your not enjoying it and in pain after that's wrong and abusive.

I've heard of belt/hand spanking but not to the severity he is doing, and he may find it sexy degrading you, but if your finding it a problem your not the girl for him and that's ok at least you know what you don't like or like.

[genericname85]

if you don´t like it, it´s absolutely not ok! you should probably tell him that you´re not ok with it and see how he reacts before you break up.