He gets hard watching girls on youtube?

[Anonymous]

Whenever my partner watches an attractive girl sing or a video of an attractive girl on youtube, hed get an erection. And even lift his butt off the bed many times, know what i mean? Whenever a guy gets an erection by just watching a girl, that means he's thinking of her sexually, am i right? Plus, he gets mad whenever i watch a guy sing or play instrument on youtube. Hed act like im into them and say stupid stuff that i like them more than him. When i dont even see those guys that way, yes some are cute, but it doesn't mean im into them or like them more than him, plus i dont think of them sexually. Im assuming thats how he thinks and see those girls on youtube. And i feel like these are making him lose feelings for me, thats why he doesn't want much sex anymore or want to do anything w me anymore too. All this is making me kind of have a problem with him watching girls on youtube. What should i do? Sometimes hed hide and not let me see what he's watching too, when im not even trying to look.

[mwin2030]

The standard is pretty simple in my opinion; don’t hold one person to a set criteria if you’re not also going to hold yourself to the same. If something is right and fair for one to do, then it is right and fair for the other to take part in as well. It really is that simple in the end.

What he’s trying to do is apply one set of rules for himself and then one set for you to keep you under his authority and what he likes so he can feel secure about you, but he doesn’t want you to apply the same to him. It is both hypocritical of him and unfair to you.

You should have a very open and blunt conversation with him about how this is making you feel. Be bold and confident in what you say and don’t let him make you feel guilty, because you want him to apply the same set of rules across the spectrum of your relationship and not one for him where he’s allowed to watch girls and get hard, but you can’t do the same if you wanted.

A healthy, stable, relationship is all about being honest and open with each other, communicating effectively together, and compromising with one another so you both get your wants and needs satisfied completely. If this is only being given to one and not the other, that puts the relationship out-of-balance, which isn’t a positive situation.

And if he’s not willing to change, you’re going to have a harsh choice to make of whether or not you want to continue being a part of this relationship or to move on and seek out someone more willing to compromise with you. In the end you need to do what is going to make you the happiest. That’s my bottom line.

[genericname85]

pretty easy. if he may do it, you may do it. if you don´t, he doesn´t. it´s your problem how you regulate stuff in your relationship but i suggest to chill the fuck out xD as long as both of you are sexually fullfilled, it should be totally fine.

[Asker]

Like i said, i dont think or see them sexually like how he does. I never have a problem with him watching it until he keeps getting erections and have a problem w me watching it.

[genericname85]

so here´s a thing about men. if we see an attractive girls or boobs or a vagina or what have you, we are turned on. we don´t literally contemplate having sex with that girl, thinking about some intimate thing. it´s just a pure physical reaction of our bodies to the visual stimulus. you don´t need to worry about it.

[1988fido]

Must talk. and let him know how u feel

[aftermath]

Have to admit. Before I found major porn sites/dared to go on them I started off on youtube masturbating to girls. It's creepy and weird but I didn't know what else to do hahah

[Anonymous]

yeah there is some pretty hot girls on youtube , I don't really use site much but know there is some hot ones if you search around that post things about self that are somewhat sexy to watch