Embarrassing fetish? I like the idea of being humiliated for being a 24-year-old virgin and also have a "friendzone fetish." Is this unhealthy?

[fadedneptune]

For the record, I'm a 24-year-old guy who hasn't had sex yet. I used to suffer no shame over this, but now that I'm closing in on my mid-twenties, there have been some insecurities driven mostly by depiction of virgins my age, the fact that a lot of girls prefer experience (which they have every right to, and I'm turned on by, for some reason), jokes in the places I least expect them, and lots of other factors. Like any humiliation fetish, I'm internalizing my insecurities. I'm aroused by the concept of being a loser who has to masturbate because I "can't get laid" - of being a "beta male" who's learning the harsh reality of female mating strategy and "natural selection." I'm turned on by the idea of my genes being inferior, and girls wanting to breed with alphas. This means guys who are successful, strong, confident, manly, emotionally stable, dominant, etc. I'm more on the sensitive, submissive side. I don't normally believe in the "alpha/beta," "nice guy/bad boy" dichotomy, but I play into it for the purposes of the fetish. I also am aroused by the idea of being that "friendzoned" nice guy who's too soft, too timid, too self-conscious to get a girlfriend and getting off to the thought of my crush having sex with other guys. It's like a cuck fetish almost. A lot of Tumblr blogs are cropping up to cater to this fetish, and they're hard to stay away from. The "hottest" thing about it is that the fetish has some truth to it: most girls do prefer confident guys who make them feel feminine and safe and feel like can protect them. I'm extremely aroused just writing that. As a closeted MtF who just happens to like girls right now, I ultimately don't want to change who I am: I like that I feel things more intensely than most people and am able to comfort, listen to, and reassure friends, family, and love interests alike. My question, though, is any of this unhealthy, and has anyone had similar experiences?

[chinacatrider69]

It's fine. I'm the same way. I was a virgin until I was 26.

I had a crush on a girl at work. I used to get so much pleasure from her embarrassing me and hooking up with other guys. We would hang out on the weekends. She would come over with friends and they would have sex on my bed as I listened outside the door. She would leave her dirty panties on my bed. As soon as the all left I would get into my bed and masturbate while smelling her panties.

I would also masturbate at work for her and another girl to hear. There was a small single bathroom next to their offices. I would go in and masturbate right against the door. I could hear them listening and giggling outside. It was so exciting to masturbate as they listened. After I finished I'd come out and talk to them. They would always smile and giggle. I stood they in the afterglow of my orgasm as they humiliated me. It was so wonderful. They knew I got off on it. This lasted for years.

I also like to get caught by girls wearing lingerie and masturbating. I got caught masturbating in the woods by two girls. They stood there laughing at me as they watched me finish. I finished in my hand and licked it up and swallowed it. They were shocked.

I love to go shopping at malls wearing bras and panties that are visible. I love when girls notice. It's usually my bra straps. I get lots of smiles and hear lots of giggles. Some girls have even taken pics.

I'll wear lingerie out on dates too. I've had a few times where we start making out and the notice the bra straps or pull down my pants and see my panties. The anticipation and embarrassment is so enjoyable.

I enjoy posting pics of me in lingerie, nude, masturbating, using dildos and playing with blow-up sex dolls on the web. Love reading the comments of girls making fun of me. Especially on the videos of me playing with my dolls. They call me a loser who can get girls and has to have sex with dolls. How I can't even screw my doll good. I love it.

So, there you go. I have similar feelings and experiences. I love looking at those tumblr blogs as well.

[DooMguy]

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You're interesting. . . I'll give you that

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yeah, I haven't had any similar experience at all. I think all of that is unhealthy

[AustinMan]

It's not unhealthy. Some men are born submissive and masochistic. There are dominant women out there who'll get off big time to your fetish.

[diemondn77]

Nothing abnormal. Lot of sub beta guys are like this but too ashamed to admit it. At least you know your stance and don't annoy the alphas. There's some marginal truth to it that if a guy is too soft, a girls gonna leave him for an actual man. But like you said, the alpha/beta thing is mostly just fetish based and not true for everyone. As someone who's an alpha who loves being a bull in a cuckold relationship, I thank you for at least being aware and accepting of your position

[Billlewis]

That is so incredibly exciting... I love it!

[CisScum]

You're just a special guy with some special fantasies. Nothing wrong with that.

[turnpost]

Do you watch a lot prn? That stuff may have messed up your head a bit. Escalation of of fetish is well established, you may have just

went a bit to high.

But if this is the life you want to proceed, then you do you.

[Anonymous]

It's not unhealthy. It's not even that uncommon.
You're not inferior or a "beta" and you're right for not believing in bs like "nice guys" and "alpha males", and that doesn't contradict you being attracted to playing into one of those fake roles anyway, a lot of fetishes are like that.
If it did color your reality, if you did genuinely believe that you're worthless and no women can ever like you, that's when it becomes unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it I have a lot of those same thoughts