My mom keeps shaming me because I lost my virginity?

[Anonymous]

I lost my virginity at 18 with my monogamous boyfriend. My mom asked me if I was still a Virgin and I told her no because I'm not gonna lie to her. And ever since then whenever we get into arguments she throws losing my virginjty in my face or shaming me because when I was little I told her I want to save it til marriage but things happen I chose to lose it. She keeps threatening me that she's gonna tell my stepdad and that I need to buy a purity ring because she doesn't want me having sexual activity while I'm living with her because there's another man in the house. Like I feel really alone and I don't know what to do.

[Soteris]

Yeah that is typical of mothers. They dont want you to grow up and be "deflowered". Sadly there is not much you can do about it since its a flaw in her that she has to overcome on her own. The best I can give you is the advice to open up to someone you can trust, either because they earned it or like me because I am a random anonymous person on the internet.

It will get better with time and as you start standing on your own legs. She can't treat you like a child forever even though she might want to. You are old enough to chose for yourself of what you want to do and with who you want to do it. Dont feel too bad and cheer up since it will undoubtedly get better :)

[Flurr]

Well tell her the only thing you have learned is not to tell her anything ever again, shaming is childish and disrespectful, and the fact she is with another man other than your father is somewhat like the pot calling the kettle black.

[XRabbitHeartX]

Your mother sounds horrible. I couldn't imagine a relationship like that as I'm very close to my mom but it must be tough, that I can know. You can't do much other than tell her that what happened, happened and she will have to accept it and stop throwing it in your face. If she goes off on it again, just say "STOP NOW" and say that you're sick and tired of her behavior and you're not going to tolerate her shaming you anymore for a personal decision. Every time after that that she brings it up, ignore her or walk away. If she wants to tell your step dad then say you don't care.

[HauteBrilliance]

you're 18 years old, i don't see the big deal in this. it's not like you hooked up at a party at 13 years old & lost your virginity. she's overreacting. i know she's your mother & she probably feels awkward, angry, etc about it but still. she shouldn't be shaming you for something like that.

[SarahsSummer]

She's hurt that her little girl is growing up. Express you told her because you believed in being honest with your mother who you love but if she continues on her shaming mission, you'll need to lie in the future. And ask her if she'd prefer that.

[Xfitchick]

That sounds very medieval. You are an adult and you own your body and you do with it what you want. people can tell you what they think, but the final decision is yours.

[JellyBean333]

I would probably get a job and move out as soon as possible. Your mum sounds extremely unreasonable and I don't think I could live in a hostile environment like that

[Drooogie4]

Thats religion for ya.
I moved out with my boyfriend and my family basically disowned me for a year before they got over it.

[godfatherfan]

Sorry, but your an adult. She might have the right to ask you not to have sex in her house but that is someone who forgot what it was like to be your age.
it is such a HUGE mistake to wait until marriage. You did the right thing.

[Berethor]

Too late for a purity ring, how she don't get it, at this point she should hope that you would marry your boyfriend, and not because used goods, if he would leave you.

[Bandit74]

Rebell against her by becoming a pornstar.

[Eugene]

It's your life and your pussy. You're an adult enough to make your own decisions.
If she doesn't like it, she can buy herself a doll and do whatever she wants to it, make whatever rules she wants to it, restrict whatever she wants to it etc. A doll is a doll, it's not human.

You are human, though. So if she can't deal with that, she's a shit mom.

[Righttobeararms83]

Just pay lip service to your mom until you move out, no point rocking the boat your stuck on.

[tricia103]

Move out. You're over 18! You're legally an adult, so work on saving as much money as you can and then get out of there.

[TacosRAwesome]

Next time she comments look her in the eye and tell her that the place she's sitting at is one of your Favourite spots.

[HauteBrilliance]

savage

[Winter_Storm_Guy]

I think it's nice you was honest she should be grateful that you are telling the truth and to lose your virginity at age 18 , hey you were of legal age and i think
she is over doing it with her shaming, she forgets that she done stuff when she was a teen, she should be sitting and talking with you , do things that mothers are suppose to and support by all means on whatever you choose to do in life.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Beat her to the punch and tell your step dad lmao. You are 18, its really none of their business.

[HeelLover]

You have a horrible mother. She needs help.

[dudegrt09]

yeah seems like your mom is a bitch just like mine

[WesternGirl]

Moms can be evil, my mom hates me for being bi sexual

[masterkamasutra]

she must be fucked by many dick? as step dad already two... she acting like a useless whore!

[ikterikhairmangdi]

lmfao man

[Anonymous]

Don't care about her telling your step dad.
Buying a purity ring? a bit too late, isn't it?
Nothing to be ashamed of
My parents only always said that they just don't want to be grand parents before they turn 50

[Anonymous]

Just don't listen to what she says it was your decision your not alone

[Anonymous]

thats very bad. such controlling parents.