Guys, How much do looks really matter in a long term relationship?
I moved into a new apartment a while back and a woman lived across the hall who would always flirty with me and it was obvious she wanted me to ask her out. At first I had no interest in asking her out at all. She is in decent shape, but not great, never wears dresses or skirts (she said so), and she never does anything with her hair, just either straight or in a pony tail. However one evening I ran into her and we flirted playfully like we always do but I was kinda horny so I went ahead and asked her out and we went out. She was really cool and we had a lot of fun, though she had a lot more liberal moral beliefs so I never asked her out again.
I still enjoy our conversations and playful flirting if we run into each other taking our dogs out, and sometimes I even find myself wanting to ask her out again, but I have to remind myself it would never workout because our beliefs are too different. However, it did get me wondering, are looks really all that important?
On the one hand I think, if I can put in the effort to be muscular and lean why can't she? If I can dress fashionably, why can't she? If I can learn how to style my hair, why can't she? On the other hand, I think that if I can be attracted to a woman who doesn't even wear dresses or style her hair once I get to know her, then maybe I should give other women a chance who do dress and act like women, but just aren't quite as attracted as the women I normally go out with.
When you guys date an attractive woman, do you stop really caring how attractive she is after a while and it just matters if she's fun and feminine? Have you ever given someone a chance that wasn't as attractive as you normally date, then ended it because you lost interest?
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