Is it fair that my crush is athletic and fit while I am chubby?

[Anonymous]

My crush is skinny but athletic. On the other hand, I am chubby, weak and unfit. I am not overweight according to BMI but I am thicker than the girls who are thought to be hot.
I really love him and he seems to like me back, we have a lot of things in common, he is very smart and handsome and I just want to be with him. I have a pretty face but I always thought my body is fat and unattractive and I should just settle down with a non-athletic guy, but when I started liking him I understood I like his athletic body. I like to hug him because he is so firm and strong and I feel protected, but is it fair that I get pleasure from his body while I am unfit and soft? What if he won't like my body and I will actually rape him while cuddling? I often catch him looking at my butt and other parts, does that mean he likes my body or he doubts whether he should really date me? Can an athletic guy like a chubby soft girl like me?

[A-Guy11]

As a fit guy who's in a relatinship with a "chubby" woman myself, don't worry about what's considered "fair". You like what you like, and the same with him. Your date is with you for a reason and he wouldn't look at you if he didn't like you and there's nothing wrong with liking different things in each other.

If you're really insecure about it, you can always disquss it with your date if/when it gets more serious. I did that with my girlfriend, and she's no longer insecure about it.

[enis_Penvy]

What is "fair" about it? Life isn't fair.
If you want to do something about your body, change it. If he wants a relationship with you, he'll ask you. Otherwise this is just a crush. If you think he wants a relationship with you after you lost weight, ask him - although that's a bit superficial but if that's what you want ask him.

[Anonymous]

if he's with you he obviously finds you attractive, also I've been commented a lot on how soft I am 😊 I'm not chubby, I'm skinny actually but I don't have muscles anywhere
it's not a bad thing girly lots of guys like their women soft, it's mostly the media who wants you ripped lol

[Kraftmuppen]

Don't self sabotage because you feel unworthy if he actually wants to date you. He checks you out, that means he's at least a little interested. Maybe you're chubby in all the right places lol

[KeiranByrne]

We are our own worst critics. In fact I would say that our insecurities about such things are the work of the devil, he wants us to hate ourselves.
Never mind what you think. What does he think?
BMI is not very useful, Don't pay it too much attention.

[Spencer10]

Confidence is sexy... be yourself and be confident. He likes you for a reason. Do not sweat your body image or it will end up turning him off in my opinion. My self I prefer women with curves and a little wiggle to her. Everyone has a preference.

[Dargil]

Fair is what you both decide.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

I don't think you know what fair means

[DT254]

yesh it depends on ur attitude how u carry urself wuts in ur ♥ looks aren't everi ting miss

[Yumix]

fair? what has this to do with fairness?

Unless it's caused by a disease it's all in your hands. Change your diet and work out... then you're athletic too and not chubby.