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Is it uncomfortable for you guys if a girl kinda touches you down there while making out?

So yesterday my boyfriend and i (we know each other 3 years from now, and we've been dating for 6months) were making out and he had this huge boner, i always feel kinda weird because i don't know what to do when that happens, should i touch it or just leave it there? keep in mind im 19 and i don't want to have sex just yet, and i've talked about it with him and we're in the same page. Anyways yesterday, while making out he led my hand to his boner. Its not the first time this happens, but when he does that i never respond like, i just leave my hand there BUT this time i moved my hand along and i kinda played with it and he was happy about it, i can tell by his boner😂😂, but is it uncomfortable? i mean, as a guy is it uncomfortable if you get aroused while making out but you know it won't lead to sex nor anything? is it bad to just leave it there? what should i do if it happens again? ps. My boyfriend its really respectful and we both agreed on not having sex until marriage but i dont want him to feel uncomfortable nor anything:(
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Most Helpful Girls

  • He's not being respectful if he is doing that for you and too himself. If you don't control how you two handle this situation your both will become sexually frustrated, to the point you will end up breaking that promise to each other. Don't touch him there and don't let him touch you in a sexual manner. You say want to wait, you have to be responsible for what you do. Control yourselves. And limit kissing hot and heavy. A quick peck is fine. No heavy make outs. Exchanging of testosterone and estrogen makes you want sex through exchanging saliva when french kissing. That is why its getting intense for him and you. Limit that. I'm serious, or else the next time, you two may have already did something you didn't want to do and its too late.

  • If a man touched me down there it would make feel uncomfortable I'm a virgin let alone have sex it hard enough to make out with him and I rarely let him touch me in naughty places but I would let him cuddle me it makes me feel safe and secure

    • But I would do this I don't want him to night enjoy me as his girlfriend

    • i know right, im a virgin too and this things are pretty much new to me, when we make out before there were just kisses but lately it became more intense haha like he touches my butt or so, the thing is i don't dislike it but i dont want to go to the next level

  • Maybe give him a handjob then?

    • Had to scroll a lot to find some common sense...

    • Thanks for MHO

Most Helpful Guys

  • It doesn't have to end in orgasm everytime a guy has a boner. For me anyway, if I just play with it for a couple minutes it feels really good, but it eventually goes away and I don't even need an orgasm.

    If its been a really long time since I've had an orgasm, then I would want to finish. Thing is, I also want to wait until marriage, but if I am serious with a girl, I would want to have manual and oral sex until we are married.

    I thinm it would be best to discuss that with your boyfriend to make sure you are on the same page: Do you want to abstain only from penetration? Or do you want to avoid all forms of sex?

  • It's very comforting, but also kind of uncomfortable -- like, uncomfortable in the best way possible. loil

    If you guys are on the same page about when you want to have sex, and he wants you to touch him, and you want to touch him, then what's the problem?

    Just... be careful that you don't let yourself get overwhelmed by the moment. It's not a far cry going from rubbing his dick through his jeans to both y'all whipping it out and doing something you might regret. (keep in mind, I only give this last bit of advice because you seem adamant about no-sex-til-marriage)

    • Thanks, i've talked to him about it and he told me he doesn't want to put me in a situation where i have to do something i dont want to do or that i feel uncomfortable with, so we're perfectly fine with our make up sessions and maybe a playful tease now and then. But we can wait for anything further then that:)

    • I understand. Well, best of luck to you guys! :)

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  • Most guys will tell you that they indeed want to have their cocks touched.

    Personally I am extremely dominating when it comes to sex and I like to call the shots when my girlfriend touches my cock and when she doesn't. But if he put your hand there then you have the green light.

    • okay so its okay if i go with the flow? i mean i don't dislike the situation at all, he plays with my butt and i kinda return the favor but i don't want to go to the next level

    • The thing is that if you were planning on having full on sex, I would expect some sort of reciprocation. I mean I'm not having sex just so I could do all the work right? But in this case, given the fact that you don't want to go all the way, I think it's safe to go with the flow

  • No, the opposite.

  • well ya it's all fine then but dont go overboard. XD

  • Nah I want Tim to be grabbed and tugged

  • I wouldn't make me uncomfortable, but it's a bit of a tease of neither of us are having sex until marriage, unless it will eventually lead to a handjob or a blowjob. Otherwise, it's just temptation. Not uncomfortable though.

    • I guess a handjob its not that bad 😝 but then it will lead to more temptation right?

    • Sort of, but not really. It's a release more than temptation. Making gets me aroused, sure, causing me to get an erection and if you put your hand on it then I'll want more because I get nothing out of that except being in a higher state of arousal. Handjob releases me of that. Will I want more, probably, but not that moment and if I'm committed to not having sex until marriage then it will stay that way.

    • Thank yooooouuuuuuuu!! i was clueless because i thought that having a boner and not, you know, "releasing" it was really uncomfortable for you guys, but now i know what to do in the meantime

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  • my friend it don't feel uncomfy or anything...& he or any guy loves it when u touch them down there & u can feel growin in ur hands if u grip his D... and next time when it happns either leave him on his own and other is option is not for u

  • Nah, it's completely fine.

  • no it's not uncomfortable but you should at least hold it if you're making out for a long time

  • It wouldn't bother me , not really uncomfortable

  • No, if anything it gives him something to think about later. Wink

  • Not at all. Skip the makeout.

  • It's not uncomfortable, it feels great but perhaps you could give him a blowjob and make him cum

  • You're highly welcome. :)

  • He loves it

  • Having a boner, all we want/feel is for you to touch it. BUT, if you don't want sex or nothing further than that it might be best to not do anything? What's uncomfortable is being teased/frustrated and the more you touch it the more aroused we'll become and therefore want more and more because it feels good. So bottom line, yes we want you to touch it for sure, but we won't want you to stop either and we'll want more. What about handjobs? If he ejaculates are you ok with that if no sex? He'd be happy with that I'm sure.

    Take masturbation for example, a HUGE difference between girls and guys is girls can stop in mid stream and do something else (example you get a text, girls can/will stop and read it), not guys. We do not stop once started. It blows our minds how women can just stop like that like it's nothing. Once we start, it's like trying to take away a bone from a dog, it's not happening lol

  • It feels good. It can build up more and more desire for a release. It's not too frustrating if you don't anticipate orgasm.

    "The next level' isn't sex. You're a few levels from that. "The next level" is finishing a handjob.

    • Finally

  • I'm hella sensitive, in a good way LMAO.
    So no, I love that shxt.
    But It makes me have a full body compulson and I tense up and moan tbh.
    Girls love that ish.

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