Why did he ghost me?

[Anonymous]

There was a guy I know that seemed pretty interested in me. We went out for dinner and hung out a few times. He made it seem like he really enjoyed hanging out with me and asked me to be his date to this gala in a few weeks. I met up with him last Friday at the bar. We both ended up drinking too much and had sex. I'm pretty confident in my sexual abilities, so I really don't think its because he didn't enjoy it. I mean, he seemed pretty into it. We just haven't spoken since. I wasn't THAT into him, and personally, sex isn't that huge of a deal to me so I don't have more of an emotional attachment after. I just don't really get why he would disappear if we got along, had fun, and hooked up.

My thoughts are that maybe he was embarrassed? He was super into kinky stuff and dirty talk and he almost seemed awkward and embarrassed as he was getting dressed afterwards. Perhaps our dynamic changed too much afterwards and we couldn't go back from there.

What do you think?

[NJ_Casanova]

How much did you know him/hangout before this?

He might have just wanted it to be a one time thing.

I think people that "Ghost other people" are just cowards. It's especially stupid for girls to do as a guy is more likely to get angry and cause her more trouble than it's worth.

[Asker]

I've known him for a couple years through friends, and we hung out a few times just the two of us. I actually met him through a guy I briefly dated 2.5 years ago. If thats all he wanted, I find it weird that he wanted to go on dates, ya know?

[NJ_Casanova]

True... I find it a little strange too. It could be that something happened and he hasn't gotten back to you or it slipped his mind. I normally send a concerned text, so I don't look/feel clingy etc. Do you know if he was on/off with someone else? Did you guys talk about what your relationship was?

[Asker]

It feels very intentional. I texted him something the next day about a TV show we had discussed the night before, and he was very unresponsive. Part of me really thinks he just feels weird about us now because I don't think either of us anticipated hooking up. I also wonder if his friend found out (the guy I used to date) because this friend began snapchatting me out of nowhere. To my knowledge, they weren't close anymore, and my ex has moved on and has a baby. Its just all very strange.

[Paris13]

Apparently, he May feel as you do Here, Dear... I wasn't THAT into him.
Let it Go. And if Joe Returns with some Yearns, you will Know it is Only when he "Wants it at his own Convenience because he is Hot."
Good luck. xx

[Paris13]

Thank you for the Vote of Confidence. xx

[Unesjomajo]

He got what he wanted (sex), so why bother staying in contact with you.

Some people are cruel...

[Asker]

Well unfortunately he and I have a lot of mutual friends, so it is odd that he would be so callous about it because I will definitely be seeing him around. He should have gone elsewhere if he just wanted sex and was gonna disappear after. and why ask me to the gala with him? It just all seems weird.

[jbejube]

When I read the title of your question is thought your house was haunted😁😁😁😁😁