Why are women so rude when you approach them?

As we know, it takes men A LOT of courage and confidence to approach women. This is not an easy thing for men to do, and it scares the crap out of us.

Over the years, I always heard women say things like, "I wish guys would approach me and talk to me."

Well... yesterday... my best friend and I mustard up the courage to approach women at a lounge last night. We are not bad looking guys, pretty fit and we looked great last night. As we were walking the streets people kept complimenting us on our outfit and our cologne and a couple of older women said I looked amazing. Anyway... back to the story.

The lounge is fairly big and it was fairly crowded and has 2 floors. Every time my friend and I approach a woman, she was extremely rude and short with us. For example... here is how I approached last night and a convo with a girl I was talking to:

Me: "Hi there! My name is "First and Last" name. How are you are you?"

Her: "Hi. Great. Nice to meet you."

Me: "Glad to hear it. Where are you from?"

Her: "Here. Ok. It was nice to meet you."

Me: "That's cool. I'm also from here." (Note... this is a joke I tell women, because they can blatantly tell I am not from the area based on my accent).

Her: "Oh ok. It was nice meeting you."

We approached other women all night... but a lot of them were rude (not all, but a lot).

Why do women expect to be approached and then get angry when men actually approach them? I didn't mention sex, I kept things really casual, etc.


Updates:
+1 y
Some of you are saying shit like "approaching is creepy" or "they don't like talking to strangers". How the fuck do you expect to meet anyone then if you're afraid to take action?
+1 y
Must be a young girl thing... because when I approach women in their 30s... they fuckin' love me and don't mind. Lol
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Because they:

    1) Have no respect for men
    2) They aren't woman enough to have compassion for men & what they go through when approaching women, i. e., they don't understand men AT ALL, yet they DEMAND respect & "good" men.
    3) These women are the same women who get screwed over by "players", because they feel undeserving of pure & genuine love. When a woman is cold, bitchy, rude, etc, she's desperate deep down & men can sense it. They basically try too hard to not look interested (depending on whether she likes the guy or not).
    4) Players hunt these women down & get to screw them over, because they know these women have no self-esteem. A man who is looking to play the field, avoids a vulnerable & loving woman like the plague, because they aren't looking for a relationship. They target the women who are closed off, just like they are. #FACT

    Advice: Just keep pursuing - not all women are this ignorant, insecure, & rude. Promise.

    • Someone understands! Thanks!

    • What a load of bullshit !!

    • @tarrycat what about daddy issues?

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  • I can't speak for other women, but personally I feel flattered when a guy approaches me because I do get that that takes nerve. I've never been rude to a guy that's come up and talked to me unless he's gotten rude or pushy with me first. If Im not interested I will be as honest as I can "you're so sweet but Im sorry Im just not interested." Im sure some guys have/will find that rude but it's truly not my intention. Not sure how else to save you from wasting your time.

  • Maybe you were approaching women who didn't want to be approached. Believe it or not just because a woman is alone at a bar or club doesn't always mean she's looking for company.

    Maybe she's:

    B: Waiting for someone
    Or
    C: Needed a break from reality, etc.

Most Helpful Guys

  • The reason so many women are rude to guys is that it is simply the easiest way to get rid of them. Women in their 20s are quick to judge. if they don't like you for any reason goodbye. Older women know that it is important to get to know a guy a bit before throwing him back.
    At college it really sucks because all of the women there are so quick to judge and reject a guy. Usually insulting them to make them get away faster.
    I tell my female freinds to just polity reject a guy coming on to you. Because rejection is so much easier to get than being insulted.

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    sounds like 100% American women bud.

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  • She wasn't rude , she just let you know she wanted you to move your ass along and leave her alone. I don't like being approached by random guys like that on the street either It's too foward , and it's invading her "space".

    • So you want a man to approach you on Tinder?

    • No I don't use tinder

    • Then how do you want a man to approach you? Not at all?

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  • Those women weren't interested and tried to cut you off fastly before you get expectations that they are interested and ended up to be rude to you.
    Or those were just plainly non mannered women.

  • it sounds like they just weren't in the mood to talk. i mean, would you rather she just pretended she was interested? or have you keep it moving?

  • They weren't rude. They just weren't interested and tried to let you now early on.

  • Do people go to a lounge to meet someone or is it just a hang out spot?

  • Maybe you are just creepy.

    • This dude knows about creepiness. Listen to him. He's probably right.

    • *triggered

    • @teawrecks Just masturbated to your profile pic.

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  • Maybe not interested

  • "I wish guys would approach me and talk to me."

    They mean they fantasize about insanely hot guys with mindreading abilities approaching them at a time of their choosing. Don't take women seriously when they say things like that.

    Approaching women who didn't give you approach invitations (looks, smiles, etc...) is pointless anyway.

    • Also, some women just don't want to be cold-approached, ever.

  • You're not attractive. They only want hot guys approaching them, hitting on them, etc. If you're hot, you can spit in a girl's face and she'll love it. If you're not, you can give a girl flowers and she'll hate them. Fact of life, get used to it.

  • they dont have an obligation to be nice to you :// maybe they just dont like talking to strangers! i know if some random guy approached me i wouldn't be rude because thats not me but id be so awkward

    • sameeeee

    • response to update: then keep doing what you're doing until you meet someone who likes you but you'll have to put up with a lot of rudeness. oh well

    • If Chris Hemsworth walked up to you, you wouldn't mind one bit. It's only when ugly guys hit on you that you get offended. Don't worry, you'll be ugly too, in another 20 years. Maybe less.

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  • a. they're taken.
    b. you look like a jerk
    c. they're just not attracted to you and want to cute things short and not waste time
    d. she just wants to have a good time and not deal with men

  • Ha! That's a harsh way to get shut down...

    • You should have asked her if she was part parrot...

  • Approaching is tricky because you will get turned down by a lot and some expect you to be funny when you don't know their humour but you just have to keep trying until you find one that fits your personality

  • Her first response saying "here. Ok. It was nice to meet you" was the signal for you to move on and leave. She wasn't interested

  • Most women have ass-cancer which causes rudeness.

  • Some women are not looking to get hit on or date/hookup they are there to just have fun and be with their friends.
    Some of them may already be in a relationship
    Some of them are probably just rude so don't take it personally
    Maybe she felt unsafe
    Etc
    I don't think it's an excuse to be rude unless the guy is coming on too strong or being very creepy or rude himself. So, don't let those types of ladies discourage you. If I were you I wouldn't go to areas like that pick up women.

    • Where should I go then XD XD. Back to Tinder?

    • That's even worse lmfao. But there are some success stories- rare, but there! How about at work or school or a friend of a friend?

    • You said: "How about at work or school or a friend of a friend?" Why would I date a coworker? I am not in school anymore I have a small circle of friends and they are virgins. They don't talk to women

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  • Hah if you think that's rude. I hope u never come across my friends.

  • Not all of them are. I've met very nice ladies.

    Keep your head up

  • fuck em dude, bitches like that aren't worth your time.

  • Are you approaching American women by chance?

    • I live in America.

    • Well, that's your problem.

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