Why am I so Attracted to Older Women?

Like from the age of 28 to 34, I am absolutely crazy for older women. Not just physically, but also emotionally as well as personality wise. Granted, I still find women my own age attractive, but not nearly as much as women who are a bit older than me. For example, look at the images below:
Why am I so Attracted to Older Women?
Why am I so Attracted to Older Women?
The first woman is 28 while the second woman is even older at 35, and both are among the most beautiful women I have ever laid my eyes on. I have been aroused by women before, but when I am aroused by an older woman like in the images below, it is stronger. I feel like I want to absolutely devour them in bed, and worship every square inch of their bodies, as if they were a piece of fine art.

I am never this aroused by women my own age.

As stated earlier, the attraction is not only physical but also emotionally and personality wise as well. Older women to me are more confident, and I find that to be extremely sexy. Furthermore they seem more nurturing and less judgmental, traits which I am extremely attracted to. Perhaps most of all, they remind me of my mother who is in her 30s, my mother whom I am extremely close to and love with all of my heart. Make no mistake, I am *not* attracted to her, although she is an extremely attractive woman, but women who are older like her bring me comfort, and I think this plays a role in why I like older women so much.

Is this normal? Is it normal to be attracted to older women or am I just weird? Furthermore, realistically, can such a relationship work out in the real world? Older women, do you like it when guys like me are so irrationally attracted to you?
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  • hi and wow i think everything you said is very enlightened and insightful and in its essence would explain your desires towards older females. definitely stop doubting yourself and weird has to go... as for realistic, of course a connection between two people does not have the boundary of age thats our creation and definition, although of course i understand by social conditioning its a nuisance actually. i have had two emotional connections with guys 15 years younger and felt the same things i would with any man, except for me im drawn because so many men my age have aged so much you can maintain a youthful essence like your 35 year old, my personal lesson of advice in the sense of something turning into a relationship is children but you are young and your age range are also young enough for children, could you see yourself ltr with a 28 or 30 year old? and if so could you consider that she may desire children sooner rather than later for herself and that is a deal for you to consider, she will doubt this possibly in your age and maybe even think she could be taking away your freedom, bit deep lol but you did ask.. xx

  • It's normal. As someone who is older I've talked to a few younger guys that felt the same as you. I asked them why not someone your own age and they would explain that older women know what they want. They are not as insecure about themselves. I think that women my age have also hit their sexual peak and we carry ourselves in a more sensual way. Maybe. I can't speak for all older women. But this is my observations. Regardless you like what you like so who cares if it's normal or not. Just do your thang. :)

  • I think this is a wonderful thing. This kind of relationship could definitely work. Your question was "why am I so attracted to older women"? You answered it yourself, they are less judgmental, more nurturing, confident, excellent lovers etc. No I don't find it weird at all. I think you should go find yourself a nice older lady to settle down with. you seem like you would keep her very happy. Women love the traits you have.

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  • I think you are one of the younger guys that KNOWS the secret, of FANTASTIC, SENSUAL LOVING for a guy!! A more mature woman!!!
    Mature women are soooo AMAZING!!! Usually they have grown kids, in college or out of the house, they are divorced, and most IMPORTANTLY, they KNOW WHAT THEY WANT!!! They aren't afraid to just do things, and aren't timid, and they usually don't giggle, unless you hit their magic spot!
    CHOICE: Cute little blonde virgin, 22, in a short skirt, OR a mid forties, or so, attractive, sensual curves, two kids in college, divorced, and KNOWING what she loves to do.
    I'm picking the 40's something, every day of the week, and twice on Sunday!! She's probably the best 'LOVER' ever, and nice and sensually soft, and cuddly, for after.
    I think that only guys in their 30's and 40' or more will understand, so if you are 20 something don't bother saying I'm crazy. Wait until you get there, to see!! Mature women are BY FAR the BEST LOVERS!!

  • Men have absolutely NOTHING in common with girls their own age. Men have to fight and work and struggle to achieve the level of attractiveness and social status that girls are simply born with. They have no conception of what it's like to be have to toil and struggle for years or decades just to achieve adequacy. This seems unfair until you realize that the men who work hardest become the most attractive and maintain their attractiveness and social status for many decades to come, whereas the world's most beautiful woman slides back to just average by the time she passes 30 or so. In video game terms, women start the game on easy-mode and then it switches to hard-mode with no savepoints halfway through. Men start the game in hard mode and then halfway through, the game switches to easy mode. The result is that women are betrayed by their early advantages while men are strengthened by their early disadvantages.

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  • We older women have confidence, and embrace our sexuality. Younger women go around worrying about things they can't control. Women actually do get better with age. When women are younger they want older men, and as we age, we want them younger...

    • younger women worry about things we can't control? what do we worry about? I always hear the older a woman gets the more of a nag she becomes. being a shot girl in the club lots of married men are there and that's their biggest complaint they're not good enough, don't feel appreciated, are held off sexualy, and all their wives do is nag or fight them over nothing. is that true or just talk?

    • @layla1234 If true, maybe that is why I am so attracted to them. I am a very self emptying person. I take pleasure in making others feel good, and providing for someone I love. I could probably give an older women what men their age complain about.

    • what exactly could you give? just sex. aka the "act right" lol. why can't older men give the same? they're very much so gentle men. I got more respect from those men working there then i did as a waitress in a classy restaurant. why can they respect me and not their wives? I believe they do respect their wives and get thrown to the side because they're old news. which isn't fair.

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  • We've got life experience and we know how to use it 😃

    • Would you ever date a younger man? I've noticed that when women get older they're more open to dating younger men. The ones my age almost always want older.

  • You have an attraction to sophistication:) Lots of older ladies like younger guys, but keep in mind most of us aren't virgins and age 40 is the average time for perimenopause. So if you want babies don't waste any time.

    • Most women aren't virgins in general 😂

  • I think the 1st woman looks older than the second. The second looks 28 or younger, and the first looks 35, at least. Hmmm

    • But to answer your question... maybe you've been here before in another life--as an older person. I can never imagine why younger men like older women. I once saw a show that had younger men dating women in their 60's, 70's and 80's. I thought the latter was too strange. Almost like a perversion.

  • It is nit weird... have you had sex with an older women yet?

  • I don't know haha just a preference I guess, perfectly fine/normal ^^ But the women in the pictures look over 38 specially the first one ><

    • Yeah the first one looks 45

  • "Perhaps most of all, they remind me of my mother who is in her 30s, my mother whom I am extremely close to and love with all of my heart."

    I don't think this is quite as weird as some people might make it out to be. After all, discovering traits in our parents that we later seek/avoid in future mates is totally normal.

    With that said, here's a little suggestion: for the love of God, don't tell this to the women you try dating. lol

    My opinion: go for what you like. Who gives a shit what we think? As long as your relationships are healthy and happy, do our opinions really matter?

  • It’s biological, your body is at a time in life where procreations is the greatest underlying urge, you’re attracted to women you perceive as the best suited to raise offspring:)

  • its merely your personal sexual preference... there doesn't have to be a reason or explanation. its just what you like.

  • it's a phase. it'll pass.

  • No man ahahah. I like 16-21 the best. You're crazy.

    • Ew 16 when you’re 25? Creepy

  • I feel it 35 isn't to extreme though the oldest i could do is 29 and I'm 20. Older women love younger guys usually just for sex though I guess it makes then feel young again. I've been hit on by woman who have 10+ years on me. The oldest one was in her mid 50 and she was trying to fuck I was flattered but kinda grossed out

  • Because they are grown women, not little girls. ;-)

    Also, women late 20s and above seem to find their true, real, inner self-confidence... thus unlocking their sexiness.

  • There are a lot of guys like you who feel drawn to older women - On a physical level but also for a emotional/maturity connection

  • Completely normal

  • No clue, first woman looks >40

  • Is absolutely nothing wrong with being attracted to older women. I've always been attracted to older women ever since my younger years. You just have a love of maturity understanding and intelligence to appreciate them and deal with them. Most their age can't even do that.

  • When i was in my early fifties, I had multiple (serial) female sex partners ranging from 15 to 30 years older. These women were incredible in bed. They loved sex. One woman who was 75 , while riding my cock, told me she loved to fuck. It was hot. I have really great memories of having had sex with these women. The only sad thing is that three of them have since died. That is something you never think about when you are 20 years old.

  • They know what they want and they go after it. They have confidence and they know their limits in life. I've been both attracted to younger and older women.

  • I've dated multiple older women and honestly it's awesome.

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