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Did I really overreact? Is it my fault he dumped me?

I found out the guy I was dating wrote on a group chat on Facebook that he took my virginity. I don't know how many people are in that group but I felt disrespected by it. Someone who was in the group chat told my friend and that's how I found out. I questioned him about it and I may have come across as angry but that's because I was hurt and he basically said I'm making a big deal out of nothing and said I'm being confrontational. I thought he'd apologise and that would be the end of it but he dumped me and said he doesn't want to be with confrontational people. Is it my fault?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • ABSOLUTELY NOT YOUR FAULT!! He's disrespectful towards you indeed. He doesn't consider your feelings and wants to humiliate you in front of your friends. I don't even think he's even human! Because I don't understand why he wanted to do this to you. I think he was hoping that you will be angry at him so he can make a "doesn't want to be with confrontational people" kind of excuse, to make it seem like it's your fault. Some scumbugs (sorry but he is) are like that. They know what they do is not right, but they want to revert their fault onto someone else.

  • You're not over reacting at all, it's a personal and very private thing and he had no right to tell anyone let alone a fb group chat

  • Fucking curse him out that was a group chat with enough people for one of your own friends to be in it. He didn't even apologize...

    • he did that so he can make an excuse about not "wanting to be with confrontational people". I think because he predicts that she will be angry, thus he can use this excuse to dump her. I'm so sorry Asker that you met such a scumbug in your life. U definitely deserve a better guy!

Most Helpful Guys

  • If he was wanting to dump you, he certainly chose a classic jackass move. Did you over-react? Hardly. It's a wonder he's not in the news about having that special chop-a-da-dick-off surgery! He needs to learn to be careful about where and to whom he shoots his mouth off. I'm so sorry this guy pulled this stunt on you.

  • He betrayed your trust and you have every right to be upset. That he wouldn't apologize and make it up to you isn't your fault. He was wrong to break up with you over it.

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  • Nah. I think you have right to be mad. That wasn't his virginity to talk about. He should have asked first.

  • He was looking for a reason to dump you and you didn't mean nearly as much to him as you think you did. Sorry to burst your bubble, but it's true.

  • no i don't think you overreacted. your sexual life is private and for him to announce it in social media was definitely a violation of that trust and privacy

    • Well said...

  • He maybe shouldn't have done that, your 'friend' shouldn't have been a snitch, you overreacted, and yes, it's your fault.

  • Rule 1 of good manners: don't kiss and tell.
    He is an ignorant thoughtless lout, a total shithead. You are better off without him. .
    I'd be inclined to post a denial but in a sort of lighthearted way. 'Oh. Did he? It was tedious and if that's all it's about, I might as well join a convent.'
    Or:
    'That's what he thinks! Not the first, just the worst.' With a smiley, of course.

  • Not your fault. The guy is a jerk. He behaved badly, very badly in my opinion, and you called him on it. Instead of apologizing he blamed you. You are lucky to be clear of him. People like that are scary. Hang around them long enough and you will start to doubt your sanity.

  • He had no right to say that to anybody, that is your private life and he should respect your privacy.
    If he dumped you over that he was just using it as an excuse, no way is it your fault.
    If he cannot survive a disagreement with you he never really had respect or love for you!

  • WTF? You have every right to be mad. Dump his ass.

  • Roast his dick size in that same chat.

  • You should have dumped him right away girl! He can't post things about you that aren't true or even if they were he can't invade your privacy like that😞

  • he was an asshole for posting something so personal
    then he was an even bigger asshole for saying it wasn't a big deal to you and marginalizing you

    bottom line - you gave yourself to someone that is all about him and doesn't care about others

    walk away - consider those words the next time you meet someone that is too charming

    guys that are really into you - are not going to be "in control" like that - and that selfish, but human nature makes you feel better with assholes (until you mature)

  • Pfffff its just virginity. Why do you make such a big deal out of it? People know you are having sex now, big deal.

  • Well, be grateful that you two are not together because he is a worthless loser. You are the only one of the two of you that behaved correctly in anyway regarding this.

  • defs your fault. i mean come on

  • No that asshole doesn't have any respect towards you. can be normal can be okay to talk about it if you feel okay as well.

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