Ladies and gentlemen, should I be upset that I caught my boyfriend watching porn even though we live together?

[Andrea_Lilly_]

So I just want honest opinions, because I think it would be interesting to know how other people feel about this topic.

For one, I love porn. When my boyfriend isn't around and I get bored, I watch porn sometimes (More frequently when we argue). My boyfriend is 32 and I'm 20. I mean is anyone on here 32, still watching porn? I don't think I'd ever grow out of it either. We've been fighting for the past week, to the point where our relationship almost ended. We made up yesterday, and now we're rekindling things. I have terrible trust issues and I've been very insecure and needy lately, but I'm working on it, learning to love myself and embrace my sexuality. By the way, I'm bisexual and fantasize about women all the time and I'm interested in trying to watch porn with him because I think it would be super hot to watch him get a boner while I'm getting wet from watching porn. I want him to feel comfortable with me, because I'm an extremely sexual person and I have so many fetishes and he's pretty "old school." I don't want to just come out with "let's watch porn together," I kind of want to surprise him with a video or something, do you think he'd like that?

Back to my story, we both came back from a party and we were pretty messed up. He went to the bathroom, to "shit" but I caught him watching porn instead. He looked pretty ashamed and I asked him "why?" as in "Why not just ask for a bj?" haha. He said he made a mistake, asked for my forgiveness and told me he was stressed and needed a come down. I don't know if all the fighting had anything to do with it, because he doesn't really ever jerk off or watch porn. He kept apologizing last night and he even made it up to me by going down on me and I returned the favor. I don't feel insecure compared to porn stars for some reason. Maybe because I'm happy with my 38DDD's and my big behind. :) I definitely would like to spice things up for the sake of having an awesome sex life. What do you guys think? Should I be upset?

[jp612612]

So here's my take on porn... So no, I don't watch porn anymore, but I used to look at it a lot when I was, say, 19. The thing is, I feel that people (especially women) misconstrue what's going on there. People seem to imply that not caring for porn as you get older is a sign of "maturity", but I actually think it has more to do with my weaker hormones. When I was 19, I was constantly erect, constantly thinking about sex, constantly looking at women. Now that I'm much older, I don't and it's not because I have grown up and respect women more... it's because I'm just a few years away from needing Viagra!

So if your boyfriend is still into porn, I think this is a good thing. It means he still has a vibrant sex drive and I think that that is way, way better for you and your relationship than a guy who is more interested in sitcoms than pouncing on you.

[Andrea_Lilly_]

Amen! That's so hot!

[13utcher]

In my last relationship I hid my porn watching from her. On a day off I was all alone so decided to partake. She suprised me on her lunch break and walked in on me. I freaked and closed my laptop and got all embarrassed. She asked if I was watching porn. I told her yes. She wanted to see what I was watching. She looked at me and said "I'm so glad you were honest and not watching any sick illegal shit". I asked her why she wasn't mad and without hesitation she was like "I fucking love porn too but was embarrassed to tell you" Moral of the story: Be honest up front on your porn watching, it's either going to end the relationship or make it 100% hotter.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't be upset about it at all, we are actually very honest with each other about stuff like that, I personally even like to ask him what he likes to watch because it eventually turns into dirty talk and foreplay lol! I think it's better to be open about this kind of thing than to pretend to be other wise :)

[Anonymous]

It bothers me if I'm at home and available, not to the point of a huge argument but just a bit hurt and self conscious.
When I'm out I couldn't care less and I know he watches a lot then

[Anonymous]

honestly if he wants to watch porn , you should just let him , I'd rather my boyfriend watch porn then cheat

[Andrea_Lilly_]

Right!

[Kaylyne]

So it's alright for you to watch it, but not him!
That seems extremely one sided to me.

[Andrea_Lilly_]

I know. For some reason I only watch lesbian porn!

[Kaylyne]

That makes no difference at all, you still have this double standard.

[Andrea_Lilly_]

If you read my post, you can clearly see that I'm asking OKAY with it.

[Igivegoodtalk]

So sexy what you said about wanting to watch porn with him and see each other get excited.

[Izumiblu]

doesn't seem to me its bad

[mistixs]

Almost all men watch porn

[13utcher]

Exactly, and it's so easy to access now, who wouldn't want to watch it?

[NJ_Casanova]

Yes... I guys of all ages watch porn... especially those guys that don't get any, LOL. I have a 61yr old buddy that had porn in his DVD player.

Sometimes you want some alone time... do it himself.>>>that being said If my girlfriend always wanted ti I'd be with her. Also sometimes sex is too much work and a guy just wants to get off.

[Piccalo2000]

No its ok, he was bord. Porn isn't bad, it's much better to have him at home watching porn then to have him cheating on u

[ProbablyTooMature]

Nah, if you guys were drinking he might have just though you didn't want to fuck. Who knows. Guys are dumb, even more dumb after drinking.

I think I'd feel weird about watching porn with my girl. I've never needed (or wanted) "aids" in sex though. Sex is fucking fantastic enough as it is.

[Paultripp]

Girls who get pissed about porn are either really insecure, or really sexually conservative. If porn was getting in the way of sex/the relationship ok. But if he just watches at times... I don't know what guy you think you're gonna date who doesn't look at porn at times. And I don't really trust any guy that doesn't...

[Octavius]

Maybe he just needs a little personal space. Everyone does every now and then. Instead of asking why he didn't want a bj instead you should have acted like it was nothing out of the ordinary when you walked in on him. Despite offering to do something for him it implies what he was doing was wrong which would make him feel bad.

[COCOCHANEL]

i don't think porn is bad in moderation

[Anon-ymous1]

What did he have to ask forgiveness for, exactly? I'm confused.

[Igivegoodtalk]

He does watch porn and jerk off. It seems like he has a problem with you knowing maybe. It’s so sexy what you said of wanting to see him get hard and see you wet while watching porn. Next time he’s inside of you, you tell him that you’ve been masturbating thinking about you too doing that together... And see how quickly you guys do that.

[Decentguy]

i'd pe pissed too

[Anonymous]

Damn your boyfriend is old..

[Andrea_Lilly_]

girl byeeee lol

[Opinion Owner]

Lmao that's okay though. He's probably watching porn because he isn't really getting what he wants 😁

[Andrea_Lilly_]

I don't think that's the case. It's easy for any small-minded woman to think that, but you're under 18, so I guess that also explains that. Anyways, since you want to troll, why don't you come off of anonymous so the world can see what you look like? Get off your mommy's computer and go do your homework.

[Opinion Owner]

Okay °-°

[Anonymous]

Honestly, with a gorgeous woman like you, why would he need porn?

[Andrea_Lilly_]

I think he doesn't feel wanted because I'm not very affectionate

[Opinion Owner]

How long have you known about him watching porn? Maybe thats why? Maybe you are so upset, you don't want to be affectionate?

[Andrea_Lilly_]

Well he had some disloyalty issues in the past, but that was a while ago and he's changed. We have sex frequently, but since we've been fighting, sex hasn't happened until last night. You know? Maybe that has something to do with it.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe, just communicate with him, if he is a good guy, then talk to him and be open to how you are feeling. Its hard to come back from cheating, I can't do it, but if he is a good guy like you say, try talking to him.