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Im not happy with my marriage at all?

He is secretive as hell, i feel like im not even his wife. He doesn't want to spend time with me, he prefers his phone. He doesn't let me know about his money, i dont want to just fucking spend as much as i want not knowing how much money we have left, i need to know so i can spend it wisely. He doesn't respect me as a wife, i feel like im only his slave. I dont even know what i am to him. He treats me like a kid! He even said it one time that im just like a kid to him, plus he said i mean nothing to him. He also said he doesn't trust me with his things, when i dont even ever complain about his shits, only when he does things he shouldn't be doing, like still keeping and checking his damn dating/sex hookups accounts, porn, and withdrewing hundreds of money. ues, he used to let me have access to all his things cause he said there's nothing to hide and we both agreed on it, now he's changed. could he be cheating on me? yes, he's told me before that he will cheat on me. Plus he doesn't ever tell me anything! all he does is complain to me, criticize and belittles me. im not happy at all with this marriage, but i can't ever let him go :( he's my first ever. and im having his child on the way. i always worry about what he does when he wakes up in the middle of the night touching his phone.
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  • This is starting to become a real problem with a lot of you women, especially in marriage. The issue is simply this. Your both are using profanity and doing it to each other. That is not good at all. Now your pregnant with his child, which is also a strain in itself. You also don't sound like you got a backbone. See this is why I say to people: Wait till marriage to have sex, get rid of the porn, have boundaries, put your foot down. All these things that I have listed is not what you did with your now husband. The signs are just very clear, and that he is secretly hooking up with women behind your back. That is why he withdrawn all that money from the account, and why he isn't talking to you. And when he can't do that, he's watching porn and on those hookup and dating sites. You need to get out of that house, call your parents or friends who can take you in. Gather what you need, and get out. If he doesn't want you as a wife, he won't have you there at home.

    You separate from him. That is what you do. And you do what you have to do until you have this child safely. If he calls wondering where you are. You tell him that your safe and your with who your with. And if he asked you to come back. You tell him no. And until he starts acting like a husband and soon to be father. You are NOT coming back to a husband who doesn't want her. Your allowing him to be in control, and you need to stop it! Your his wife. You have that authority as his wife to let him know.

    • Yes you are right. I dont think he will ever quit porn, I've separated once with him, told him what you said. Came back and everything went back to the same, everything he said and did to get me back was a lie. And he made me the one that wanted him back while he did nothing to get me back, i just came back my own. But truth is, he did and said everything he can to get me back, and i went back to the same shit thinking he will change but it were all lies.

    • @Asker You do it for however long you got to do it, and don't come back to a whiny man. He's lying because he knows you'll eventually come back. But god forbid you slapped him with a divorce paper, all of a sudden its another story. Its not healthy to you and his child. You give him that ultimatum because you are not playing games with him. And follow through on it. Be strong and stop wording over him.

Most Helpful Guys

  • ouch complete asshole guy. why dont you divorce him. how did he fool you into marriage in the first place? he now revealed his true colours

    by the way we know only your version of the story but probably even if you are somewhat responsible its a tiny percentage compared to his assholiness... .

    • He was very, very respectful to me. Treats me like the only girl in the world and very generous. Now that guy is just dead and gone, not to outsiders though.

    • classic manipulative evil bastard case. plays the friendly saint to everyone else and is a nightmare at home. sounds like my father... .

    • Yep thats him :/

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  • The signs are not good. I'm sorry. This does not sound like a healthy marriage.

    • Awww. I'm so sorry for your tough situation. I don't even feel like taking the MHO because this is not a question to collect points on. I hope that your difficulty eases down soon. I hope someone knocks some sense in his head.

    • Its ok and thanks a lot, i hope so too.

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  • Welcome to marriage. Sorry. Wow. You really can pick them. 😐

    Yeah, you should get a divorce. Marriages aren't happy in the first place, but the way you describe your husband sounds terrible.

  • These are horrible signs! I think this means that you are a troll!

  • You are the one who married him...
    Just unmarry him and move on.
    Don't expect to change him. Won't happen.

  • If you only had known which kind of guy he is before getting pregnant... BUT:
    "yes, he's told me before that he will cheat on me."

    • I didn't know he was this kind of guy. Its like after getting pregnant, he decides to show his true self cause he lnows i won't be able to leave him since were having a child on the way.

    • Indeed, that's the problem.

  • I think you are overthinking it. Just confront him about the matter, but don't be too bold about it

  • Your young go back to school part time invest in yourself, workout, or something that will keep you motivated

  • wait you are between 18 and 24 and you are married? maybe you should have waited a few years to get to really know your SO? xD

  • you need a side man, you need some black dick in you while he's at work to keep you satisfied

  • My girlfriend treats me the same way

  • Well, you fell for the douche bag. Now live with it. Sure, sure. "He wasn't a douche bag before!" Trust me, yes he was. You, just like every girl ever, fell for his bullshit that any older woman and ANY guy could see through. You just didn't want to see it. Anyway, you're still young. So even if you do finally divorce him, you'll just either get back with him down the line, find a good man and cheat on the good man with your douche ex husband, or just find another douche.

  • Young marriages don't last, anyway

  • You did marry young so that's part of it but he clearly is hiding stuff

    • he's not as young though and have been through a matriage before ours. Yes he clearly is hiding stuff.

    • Could be why he is treating you like a kid but the stuff he is saying is not good at all so you are right to be concerned, and now a child is on the way, any chance of him going to counseling with you?

    • Nope he's not considering counseling.

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  • What race is he? You are clearly white.

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