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I have a boyfriend but I met someone at work?

I haven't had affection from my boyfriend in ages
And everytime I asked him to chill he would turn me down but then get annoyed if I hung out with others

I met this guy at work very attractive sexually chemistry is there

And way he knows I have a boyfriend
but kissed me anyway
And I've never been kissed like that before it was honestly amazing

Like he just new what to do to get me there
Things got a little heated he fingered me
I was fine
But then he pulls he's dick out

I freaked pushed him away
Started tearing he felt bad
I just got caught so much in the moment he made me feel so good
But I couldn't do it my my boyfriend
I left

I messaged my boyfriend saying I really need to see you and he turns me down going nah not tonight I'm busy.. I felt so alone I just left someone who wanted me for someone who didn't
What do I do
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I didn't read the full story. But if u are not happy in ur current relationship then u are more than welcome to end it. Because who are u to be wasting his time when, u two could EASILY move on from each other. And u could be with "that guy" and he will be with a girl that actually likes him. Two. There is something that fail in ur relationship that u are looking for an exit. That doesn't necessary mean u like the other guy, it could only be lust. Hence u don't know him completely but in ur mind, u are looking for an exit.

    So don't be selfish. Break up with ur boyfriend. But don't ever cheat only cuz u don't want to "hurt ur boyfriend by breaking up with him" (Again I didn't read ur description but the answer is SO easy. Ur not satisfy in ur relationship then break. it up. Or try to work on ur relationship and ignore ur lust for the other dude)

  • my own "message to your Boyfriend" Is... Take a Break, But not yet a Hasty Break Up, to See what is UP?
    You are Right now between a Rock and a Hard Place with your boyfriend's Face. You can't really do Anything Here, dear, without Some Sort of Stipulations.
    Taking a Break means Going Slow with new Joe, as you Know. And if You are Not Missing the Kissing from the other SO Schmo, but Wishing you were with the One, hun, Who has been Chasing you Around the Water cooler, Turn off your Tears and Fears, and Tell Hunny, no Funny, it's Over and... Nah, Not Now, I'm working Overtime. xx

    • Thanks for the Vote of Confidence. xx

  • in all honesty even though it could be great forget the guy at work and resolve the problems with your boyfriend... as the saying goes don't shit where you eat... you may think it's going to be great but what if it fizzles pretty quick what if you find something very weird about him and you have to drop him but he can't handle rejection and he retailaites on you at work then you both might be out of a job... it's very iffy a work romance.

  • Break up with your boyfriend or don't do anything further with this other guy.
    Lay out the positives and negatives of being with your boyfriend and the positives and negatives of the new guy. Also know what the new guy actually wants, just to fool around or a relationship.

Most Helpful Guys

  • For the sake of your conscience you need to speak to your boyfriend and tell him what happened, the full version. If he can't find the time to come and see you then tell him in email. Usually it should always be face to face but if he won't give you any time then he has to take what he can get.

    Once you have told him the truth then you should most likely break up with him. You have clearly outlined that you feel neglected and it has been enough to push you towards someone else. Don't get me wrong, you made the decision to cheat, it's nobody else's fault that you have cheated. However, the fact that you felt you needed to cheat pretty much says that your relationship was not enough.

  • Dump the boyfriend. Give yourself time to grieve and then if the new guy is still interested, work it out. He needs to give you some time before pursuing you.

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  • Regardless of the other dude, I think your relationship should have been over a while ago. You're clearly unhappy so why are you still with him?

  • it sounds like you are pretty unhappy in your relationship. so if you are that unhappy you need to make a decision about ending it or working hard to try and make things work

  • Oh honey! I feel like you really need to break up with your boyfriend, and start dating again.

  • I think u should talk to ur boyfriend about him pushing u away. If things do not get better or if he's not open to hear u, I say break up with him and do what u wanna do.

  • You should choose between the current state and new possibilities

  • Dump the boyfriend and move on, this guy sounds a lot better bet than your boyfriend who can't be bothered.
    With a real boyfriend the chemistry must be there, as well as physical attraction, and attraction of personalities.
    The guy at work sounds great, and I assume that you like him if you got to kissing him?

  • Break up with your boyfriend, that relationship isn't working because you feel emotionally distant from him.

    Once u break up with your boyfriend, u will have a clearer conscience to be with the new guy.

  • break up with him your relationship practically ended months ago. You're realtioship now is hardly a relationship

  • Well if your boyfriend is always busy, text him its over and hang out with the new guy to your heart's content. :)

  • Where did this guy fingered you? At your work at what place?

    • At least you didn't cheat you are good girl. If you like this guy more just break with your boyfriend and fuck this other guy. This is the correct way to do it and I encourage my girls to do this too if they find someone better ("if they ";) . If I find out that they cheat on me god knows how I will react. So far no girl cheated on me

  • Sounds like you need a new boyfriend. Toughen up and break up with him.

  • it seems that you should have sex with this guy anyway. at least take his dick in your mouth and give him a great blow job. and let him eat you out as well.

    • What an idiot. How about she has the decency to break up with her boyfriend first. Fuckin pervert, you disguist me.

  • ummm. i guess you should talk to your boyfriend, you should spill everything out what you feel about your relationship.. and how he been acting.. how he get busy.. clarify things between you and him.. and if things didn't work out maybe you should decide.. if your ready for the new one.. or just a have a time for yourself for a while.. 😊👍 hope everything will be okay 😊

  • Pick one

  • Wow. Clearly break up with your current boyfriend because you are a piece of shit. You have a boyfriend, you're not suppose to be kissing other guys and getting gingered by them. Hopefully once you do break up with him he realizes what a bitch you are and the other guy just fucks and tosses you like the slut you are.

  • You already cheated, so tell your boyfriend what. happened and leave him since you're clearly. into someone else more.

  • You sound like you don't want your boyfriend anymore. You already cheated, just dump him.

  • We want what we can't have, it's natural for humans

  • Go have sex with the guy who's totally into you because everyone deserves to feel wanted in a relationship but when a partner neglects you, it's only human nature to look elsewhere by having your sexual needs met 😉

    Don't feel guilty! This is perfectly normal and besides your boyfriend doesn't need to know since he's being selfish!

    You only live once so go have fun with this guy 😉😁👅🍌

    • Oi fellas! Expect this to happen if you stop showing your woman any physical and emotional intimacy. She'll eventually stray and look for it elsewhere and you won't even know it! 😜

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