Guys, is kissing and looking at your partner during sex more intimate?

[Anonymous]

Would you do that with someone you don't feel a connection with?

Because when I first met the guy I'm dating, he didn't really do foreplay, kiss during sex even randomly he always does now, but he did look at me while he cums... Now he just looks at me more during sex, holds my head and kind of looks through my soul lol... He could fuck me hard before, now he is so gentle. He doesn't take me from behind anymore, and he goes down on me sometimes. He used to say things like "want me to fuck you some more" now it's like "want me inside you some more?" Everything changed.. And isn't being rough means that he was so excited before does trust mean I don't excite him as much anymore? And the kissing and eye contact, but is that a more intimate thing?

I don't have a problem with anything, I love being around him, making him feel good, and he makes me happy :) I am just curious

[Sorenome]

He definitely has feelings towards you. Doggy style is probably the least intimate way since your head and heart area are much more distant from each other. He's not just having sex with you anymore, he's making love with you. :P

But I also think it's sometimes fun to do it more rough way. If you want him to be more rough and take you from behind, you could wear something very slutty and tell him how bad girl you have been. Those kind of "roleplays" gives much more variety and makes your sex life more exciting if you know what I mean.

[Asker]

He did do it doggy style in the very begining w only his hands on my butt. With time he stopped doing that completely. He would do it doggy style every other one maybe, and he would put my head on the bed or pillow, and stick his chest on my back and his face next to mine and kiss me or my neck. He would also reach in to play down there. He would not leave a space between us at all for months he'd do that... Then he just stopped doing it doggy styles and became gentle in every position! I usually like it gentle, but every now and then I don't mind him getting rough, because there's always his sweet cuddles after. I am gonna plan something hehehe

[Sorenome]

Exactly. He didn't have deep feelings towards you in the beginning. As he developed more feelings towards you, he's way of treating you changed to more "meaningful". And he might not know that you would still like it rough, so definitely let him know you still enjoy it. Obviously don't just say it, that would be boring, but let him know in your own creative ways :P

[Asker]

Probably the first 2-3 times of sex he did that only. haha! Hmm I'm so shy lol

[Anonymous]

Nah... now he is loving you more... First it was purely sex based relationship. Now he is taking it to the next level. Being gentle means he don't want just sex from you,, he want to love you more...

[AustinMan]

He's falling in love with you. If you can't/won't reciprocate, dump him.

[Asker]

I love him..

[AustinMan]

I misread your question. I took the first sentence to mean you weren't feeling connected.

[underconstuxion206]

I think he's beginning to feel a deeper connection with you, or maybe he's trying to get more intimate with you bc he's worried about losing you. Has something changed recently for him to change his sexual behavior with you?

[truthbeknown]

Yes, looking and kissing is hot, but not constantly, that can get annoying and weird.

[CapnHawk]

He's really into you.

[likitb4istickit]

Eh I'd rather just be eating her pussy.

[Bananaman177]

It sounds like he was being rougher early on to make up for his imagined shortcomings, i. e. he wanted to really fuck your brains out so you'd have a good opinion of him and maybe let him do it again. Now he feels way more confident and secure and he's making love more like his own style and less like he's just trying to impress you by doing everything full jackhammer. He's probably more excited, not less, at being able to trust you and make love to you like a human instead of trying to be Mr. Sex God. I'm sure the rougher style won't completely disappear, but it'll only be one tool in his toolbox from now on. So make sure you communicate with him about how to please you. He wants to do the best job possible. You should want that too.

[Theodorable]

I don't know but her teeth are perfect

[genericname85]

so are you telling me your eyes can focus on stuf that´s THAT close to your face? xD mine definitely can´t xD

[genericname85]

i mean looking at them while sex sure but while kissing impossible xD

[Asker]

close and far, both lol :) and not just when it comes to sex.

[Asker]

Oh noo we close our eyes when kissing! hahah

[genericname85]

ok so having eye contact vor very long while having sex can be awkward xD i think there should be phases of looking and not looking at them. with kissing, i find it best to look them in the eyes but as you go in for the kiss you close them, cause you can´t see shit up that close anyway xD

[Asker]

yeah we don't do it for too long at a time, never go awkward really just feels right. We look at each other then go into kissing I think that's normal haha it would be really weird staring while kissing...

[genericname85]

yeah. and not looking at them at all while having sex would be weird too.

[Asker]

exactly! That never happened, all I am said is eye contact and kissing have become a lot more frequent

[Asker]

all I am saying*

[genericname85]

that´s good though ^^ i think you´re right. it makes it more intimate.

[2tall2handle]

Maybe he wants to enjoy sex with you more? I know that I used to look at my girlfriend when I went down on her, kissed her in every position we were in, and also talked to her. I told her how good she tasted, she felt, made me feel.
Maybe you should ask him to communicate how you make him feel when you are together again sexually? Maybe it will give you your confidence back? Just saying.

[Asker]

He looks at me when he goes down on me also and mmmm its so hot! But I don't like much communication during sex..

[2tall2handle]

Oh I see. I misunderstood your post. Sorry

[clampfan101]

I'd only have sex with my wife, I'd kiss no sooner than loving SO, and would only date if I saw something in her that felt we might be able to become more than friends.