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Husband didn't like the way our first threesome turned out. Am I to blame?

We had rules: no anal from him or kissing with him just vaginal, It was very awkward in the begining, I and my husband started together while the other man watching and touching himself, then, I started oral sex on my husband and that man started penetrating me from behind (Doggy style), it was very intense sex and I really felt great. My husband comes inside my mouth so quickly and he stopped while that man kept going at it while dripping sweat on me for like a couple of hours (till we both got sweaty) and I never felt like that my whole life... Unconditionally, I screamed (Because of the joy) and I had an orgasm with that man for about an hour, and I felt my legs are shaking and I couldn't breathe anymore I even spoke I'm my native language. My husband saw all that, and he jumped like crazy pushing that man away from me and asking him to leave. The man shouted on my husband and finally left our apartment and thanks god they didn't fight. After cleaning up and dressed, my husband didn't talk to me, and when I tried talking to him or touch him he just reject me totally, then, he insulted me and telling me that I am a ***** because we have been married for 3 years and never had an orgasm with him, But with this other man I had it. I swear I don't know how all this happened... I wish I never accepted this **** in the first place. I told my husband that was his idea and I told him I agreed because you wanted it, But my husband told me yes he admits all that but he is hurt deeply and he cannot forget or forgive what happened in front of his eyes. At the same time, My husband now doesn't talk to me and he treat me with complete disrespect... even when he comes and I watch TV he tells me: Yeah those men in TV are good in bed... "why dont you go sleep with them"I know that it is his fault that he suggested this **** and I know that it is my fault that I accepted, But I know that I hurt his dignity and hurt his manhood. Please help me to ask his forgiveness.
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I tried all lies, truth, tears and ways to convince that I love him and I want to be with him. He knows that I had an orgasm with that man because it was an intense sex and that we very clear. sband is a great and a very good man, and maybe I dont deserve him My husband brought up this stupid idea of threesome and I am the stupid one who wanted to try and pushed on my husband to do it.
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  • It is his own fault since he suggested it.
    You can tell him that it is easier to have an orgasm while having sex with someone else in front of him, because it is kinky and very taboo, so that fact makes it more exciting. Tell him that if you were single and having sex with that same man, it wouldn't be nearly as good. Your husband being there, watching you do it in front of him is what made it feel so good.
    Tell him that it isn't "that guy" that made it so good. It was your husband being there that made it so good. (Don't deny how good it was, especially since he was there to see everything). Tell him that if you guys did it again with someone else it would be very enjoyable for you again because your husband would be there. It isn't a specific guy that makes it feel so good, it is your HUSBAND being there that makes it so good.
    You should really find another guy for you two to do another threesome to prove it to him. But that time, start out holding your husband's hand and kissing him while you are having sex with the other guy, then give your husband oral after like 10 minutes of getting f#@k3d by the other guy.
    During sex, you should tell your husband how nice it is of him to let you have sex with another guy and it really shows how much he cares about you and makes you feel closer to him emotionally and more loved. Then tell him that you love him. Do that after kissing him and holding his hand, before giving him oral.
    I think this should help you. That would make me feel much better about it if I was in his situation.

    • sband is a great and a very good man, and maybe I dont deserve him My husband brought up this stupid idea of threesome and I am the stupid one who wanted to try and pushed on my husband to do it. I still remember that damn night play-by-play my husband called me 2 hours before and told me he doesn't feel OK about it, But I insisted that we try it at least once. I tried all lies, truth, tears and ways to convince that I love him and I want to be with him. He knows that I had an orgasm with that man because it was an intense sex and that we very clear.

  • It depends. Whose idea was the threesome? Who picked the other guy?

    • My Idea... I picked him

    • He's just being horribly jealous. This is the reason I have never done a threesome: they are emotional minefields. How long has it been since the threesome?

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  • You have sex with another man in front of your husband and you wonder why there is a problem?

  • And this is a lesson in why 3somes don't work for most people

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  • That's the problem with most threesomes. If the woman is having too much pleasure one of the men gets jealous and territorial.

    I had a threesome with two girls, they don't get jealous of each other in that way.

    • Because a vagina is a vagina... Dicks come in sizes,

    • We all agreed, maybe that was important... it wasn't one of the three of us pushing the other people... that's why it turned out well. I'm still friends with the two girls, though we are all married now.

  • He brought up the idea. He shouldn't complain afterwards.
    He's just feeling inadequate. Pump up his ego. Also discuss his love making technique, tell him how he can get you off.

  • lol i would have hated that too xD if you realize the threesome partner is way better than you, it sucks xD tha´ts why i wouldn´t do it at all.

  • This was your husband's idea. He had to consider all the possible consequences of a threesome, including the other man out performing him. What did he want? For it to be unpleasurable for you? I worry your marriage may be on the path to ending, but until your husband makes peace with his decision and owns up to it, it's going to be difficult to maintain a healthy relationship

    • sband is a great and a very good man, and maybe I dont deserve him My husband brought up this stupid idea of threesome and I am the stupid one who wanted to try and pushed on my husband to do it. I still remember that damn night play-by-play my husband called me 2 hours before and told me he doesn't feel OK about it, But I insisted that we try it at least once.

  • If my girlfriend wanted a 3some with another girl and during the act the other girl was climaxing like crazy, then its her fault if she gets mad. When you these things you must accept the fact that there will always be better lovers out there that can "handle" your SO better than you. Its only normal.

    His idea. His problem. Screw him.

    • sband is a great and a very good man, and maybe I dont deserve him My husband brought up this stupid idea of threesome and I am the stupid one who wanted to try and pushed on my husband to do it. I still remember that damn night play-by-play my husband called me 2 hours before and told me he doesn't feel OK about it, But I insisted that we try it at least once.

    • then you dug your own grave...

  • Oh my lord. Damn, I'm speechless, Mother of Pearl...

  • Honestly, you don't need to ask forgiveness at all. I get why that would tough on your hubby, but tough shit for him.

    I have to ask. Did the other guy have a bigger c*ck than your husband?

  • no you're not to blame it was your husband that wanted it first. it's not yours or the other man's problem.

    • sband is a great and a very good man, and maybe I dont deserve him My husband brought up this stupid idea of threesome and I am the stupid one who wanted to try and pushed on my husband to do it. I still remember that damn night play-by-play my husband called me 2 hours before and told me he doesn't feel OK about it, But I insisted that we try it at least once.

    • Still don't blame yourself

  • That's his issue to get over.. if you let your wife fuck another man you can automatically assume that the sex between wife and the other man isn't gonna be good. He is completely selfish. Your pleasure and fun in that scenario should be priority. As long as you have the best fuck ever, regardless if the other man played the biggest part, that's all that should matter. It's his fault that he came so quickly.

    Don't feel bad at all. I'm sorry how it affected your marriage, but you shouldn't own any obtge fault.

    My wife and I have done this kinda mfm multiple times.. message me if you need more support.

    • sband is a great and a very good man, and maybe I dont deserve him My husband brought up this stupid idea of threesome and I am the stupid one who wanted to try and pushed on my husband to do it. I still remember that damn night play-by-play my husband called me 2 hours before and told me he doesn't feel OK about it, But I insisted that we try it at least once.

    • Well that should have been the turning point, when he said he wasn't feeling ok about it. :-/

  • here comes the skill and the worse happen in threesome, your husband is asshole and he didn't accepted the fact that the guy is way more better in stamina and skill with him. he could not bale to see how much you enjoyed, let that asshole think that way because you having nothing to do it in that convince him that, its reality he have to accept. its high chance that you won't be happy with him fucking again, you must be recalling that man and his fucking if you be honest.

    • you still regretting?

  • He is upset another guy banged you. Get him another woman for a 2 woman threesome to even the deal. His way.. his rules.

  • It's kinda funny that I have read the exact story in the point view of a husband. Same in G@G a week or two ago... was that same you?

  • Yes it's ur fault. U failed to make your man happy

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