Is it normal to be attracted to older men?

I'm a 15 year old girl and I am sexually and romantically attracted to older men. I'm just not attracted to Justin Bieber or guys in my highschool like my friends. I don't find that age category or look attractive at all. I just feel like college age men (20s) and boys at my school are p*ssys and they all have such a self righteous, cocky attitude which is such a turn off to me personally. Right now my biggest celebrity crush is Jefferey Dean Morgan (currently stars as Negan from the Walking Dead.) Maybe I'm just attracted to men with expierence or maturity? I also am attracted to my teacher who is a similar age (mid to late 40s) and I just don't like any of the boys that are at my school.

So my question is, is this normal or is it completely weird?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It's not abnormal to have a crush on older men or women when you are young, no. However, there is a big difference between having a crush and the reality of any kind of relationship interaction with those people. There is a reason why people under a certain age are not legally allowed to be in relationships with adults and that is because no matter how much you might feel like you are mature and know your own mind you are not mentally prepared for the realities of an adult relationship and you do not have the life experience or the autonomy to handle such a thing.

    There would also likely be zero common ground between you and a much older person, no compatibility.

    It's okay and normal to have crushes but keep them as that. Stick to guys within your own age group when you are at such a young age.

  • It is normal your age.

    Generally speaking girls are attracted to moderately older guys. If it is beyond that, then it is usually due to insecurity or daddy-issues (more often the insecurity part though). The girls then strive for an older and more experienced partner to take her by the hand, show and help her gain experience, make her feel emotionally secure and protected, etc.

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  • I'm ok with older men and they sure seem attracted to me. Not abnormal in any way. Just be careful. It's kinda the pevy ones who will try to do things with you when your 15. I know from experience. They really only want one thing, but if your ok with that...

    • text me

  • Totally normal. When I was in high school my celebrity crush was Hugh Jackman. He was like in his 40s at the time. I also had a crush on a teacher... or more in high school.

    Its probably because high school guy are really lame and immature.

    • Exactly!! Highschool boys are lame

  • It's normal, I was the same way when I was 15, funny thing now I'm madly in love with my boyfriend who is 4 years younger than me. But hey it happens to some people.

  • It's normal, and to be honest I find that some guys around my age can be turn offs too. By society it might be classified as unusal, but age doesn't define love.

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  • Generally, guys are dicks until after puberty, it's not that weird, it's normal to prefer people who're nice, I wasn't attracted to guys in my high school, trying to get older ones, it's completely normal, but if a guy that age goes for you, he's a creep, just wait until you're legal age, okay?

    • Thanks. I'm not actively trying to pursue an older man I just find myself attracted to them. But I understand why not too.

  • It's normal, but, not really something that can be indulged in in this era. At least, wait until you are 18. Do what you want after that.

  • It's normal for girls to be attracted to older men because they are more confident (sometimes) and dominant by nature.

    But if you think college level guys are mature then you will probably learn when you go there. Wow, they are dumb.

  • no, it's normal.

  • Nah it's normal. I asked the same question, my favs are tyler hoechlin, david beckham, and ian bohan.

  • Yes it's normal

  • It's ok to be "attracted" so long as you never do anything about it.

  • Completely normal. There are also older women that are attracted younger men..

  • Yeah, as long as you don't do anything about it.

  • yes.

    I've had teens that told me its hot i m in my 30s

    it never ends well and i woulnt trust a kid wholl be a different person every other yr until mid 20s at least

  • Yeah, it's normal as long as a guy is willing to agree with you
    no sex to you reach the age of 18 and if a guy loves you he
    will respect you by all aspects and even wait to marry you
    before having sex with you.

  • Ew that's nasty. I got older perverts hitting on me and I'm not that young. That's totally normal apparently these days so I would say... you fit into the "normal" category. Bleh 😪

    • Haha 😂

    • Now now... use your big words like a good little girl.

    • ooo someones madddd

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  • Sounds like you're attracted to guys in their 30's which is pretty weird and a little concerning

    • It's really not. It's always been like that. Older men have proven they have good genes if they survived that long. Men want young women because they are strong enough to have babies and care for them.

    • it is-i know a friend who fell in this trap.

    • I'm not saying that being attracted to slightly older men is weird. Hell, my mom and stepdad are 12 years apart. But they got married in their 40s/50s. A 15 year old girl being attracted to a guy in his late 40s, 30+ years apart? That's weird.

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  • yeah why not

  • Ok to be attracted, but fucking weird if you actually go down on your teacher

  • nothing too uncommon

  • Yup it's completely normal for this to happen and entirely insane that it happens at all

  • I think it's normal for girls and women to be attracted to older men.

  • It's normal because at that age *successful* men have the resources that women find desirable, and they tend to not chase after a lot of women, which women also like. However, the age difference has huge drawbacks for both people which overall makes it a bad idea.

  • Yep and guys find young, fertile girls really attractive

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