Well, I can support the idea of wanting to just masturbate sometimes because it's easier and sometimes you just want a more selfish and quick orgasm. However, to directly turn down sex and say that you'd prefer to masturbate is odd and pretty rude. Most people would understand that it's not going to sound good to the other person, it sounds like a big rejection.
Maybe the next time he wants sex then you should say the same. Or the next time he wants dinner just say you'd prefer to have toast for yourself.
It just makes me fee like I'm somehow not good enough you know. But if I do the same he'll get angry..
Of course he'll get angry, because the double standard won't register on him. You should do it anyway. Maybe he'll get the message and start considering your needs too. Unless he is trying to make a point himself. Have you turned him down for sex recently?
No, never.
a lot of times... watching pron and "jerking off" has more to do with him wanting a "Quickie" not wanting to have to wait through foreplay/make sure she gets off, etc. It also be about "alone time". It's not always about her... even if she makes it out to be that way, LOL;-P
If you wanted sex... Why didn't you make a move? Having to be the one to ask get exhausting, especially since guys get turned down a lot more. If I ask/start to make out, 2 times with her saying NO, I wouldn't ask... hell I'd probably break up.
I was the one who suggested it. He said he was gonna go jerk-off, and I suggested helping him out you know. And he said he'll rather just do himself.
Sounds like he needed alone time. I... personally, would NEVER turn down a gf/fwb from doing it. They have softer hands/they make it more exciting... unless she was bad at HJ's (not worth the time teaching her). If I was having a bad day I'd just do it myself.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!he may be like me where sometimes only a good wank is good enough but he does need to explain himself to you more
Is he shy?
not at all
Then I'm not sure why he prefers doing it himself. Maybe he feels embarrassed if he is naked.
Immatured
Maybe you're not good as he say? I don't know maybe he don't finds you "good in bad?" anymore
I have no idea.
He may not be ready to have sex
We sleep together almost every day
When you have sex does he cum in you? Maybe he doesn't trust whatever you're using for birth control and is scared of getting you pregnant?
@Tammy94 Yes he does. I'm on the pill.
Well, he could be lying that you're good in bed. Or maybe he has a secret kink that he is too embarrassed to talk about.
He is addicted to porn, this means he is completely desensitized to real women. He is more attracted to porn than you. He needs to stop watching, it poisons people. He probably can't get an erection when he's with you due to the porn. Is that the problem?
No, he gets aroused very easily with me.
Huh, I don't know then
maybe he just wants something new?
Ever heard of lying? he says he likes you in bed by maybe you're just bad. Either that OR he is really REALLY is too lazy to have sex
sometimes it's just fantasy time for guys.
He would rather jerk because he's a jerk...
Maybe the girls in the porn are doing something that turns him on but he is too embarrassed to ask you to do it.
I think that could be it
He might jack off just to last longer when he has sex with you.
Make him wear a cb-6000s so he can't masturbate anymore and then only let him out when you want to have sex
Great advice! that's what women should do to us, so we behave.
@sweetshyguy Exactly what they should be doing!
Well if I someone like you then I would not jerk off but only reason would be less work and on his own terms but even a blow job is less work so not sure if you're willing to just do that at times
I love blowjobs, I think I might like them more than him. I don't know what I'm doing wrong..
Doesn't seem like you're doing anything wrong and if you love blow jobs then I don't know what his problem is to want to jerk off than get a bj , leave him and I'll take you😊
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