He said sex doesn't feel good anymore and couldnt keep his erection?

[Anonymous]

I was 3 weeks post partrum, no longer bleeding, so my husband and i had sex. At first he seemed into it, then after a while, he got tired, sweated a lot, and lost his erection. He kept penetrating it in me to get it erected again, it did, but it didn't last long. So he would have to do it again. Then later he said this is so stupid. Complaining that he's hot, tired, and is cramping. Then he got a bit mad at me, kept repeating that this is dumb and stupid. He said im too loose, it doesn't feel good anymore. But kept trying still, then he later gave up, and said it doesn't even satisfy him or do him any good, it only makes him tired for free, so he's done. I feel so, very bad. How come when i read online, its all about still feeling tight, but mine isn't tight anymore? After this, i feel like he no longer finds me sexually attractive, since he kept losing his erection, and couldnt cum at all. I kept apologizing to him and he just said its ok. But i feel like a failure and i dont feel sexually attractive anymore.

[madhatters4]

it sounds like the issues are primarily him. you being loose shouldn't make him not be able to get and sustain an erection. so if he views a lot of porn that could definitely be affecting his ability to perform. additionally if he was especially hot and sweaty it could mean he was dehydrated which can affect performance

for your part. do kegels and you should be able to regain most if not all your vaginal tightness from before the birth

i don't think the issue lies with you. i think he tried and he was coming up short and thus he was feelign insecure. so he blamed it on you... even if my wife's vagina was looser after having the baby it doesn't stop me from getting an erection being stimulated by her

[AustinMan]

Sounds like you need to talk to him away from the sex in a good moment:

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10152-how-to-talk-to-your-so-about-sex

Failing in that, find a good couple's therapist. They can work wonders.

[anaspie]

Your only 3 weeks out you really shouldn't be having sex yet to begin with your body is not quite done processing just yet. Doctors usually recommend 6+ weeks just to be sure, you are also at an incredibly high risk of getting pregnant again right now. Give it a few more weeks and if the problem continues after that you can go back to your GYN and ask what could be the issue.

[juniorsrosie]

He's just trying to blame you for his sexual problems.
That's rude af of him to call you loose when he's the one with a dick that can't stay hard!!

If he watched you give birth the loose thing might be his mindset

[juniorsrosie]

don't apologize to him. make him give you an apology. You just went through the pain of birth and he has the balls the call you loose and blame you? ugh!

[Paultripp]

You are three weeks after delivery. No, you willnot be the same down there yet. It takes a solid 3-6 months depending on the girl. Do your kegels. They work wonders. His interest could be off for a number of reasons. Mostkfit sounds mental. Keep trying as dead bedroom afterthe kids often leads to divorce...

[LastNightmare]

what's his age

[Asker]

27 years old

[LastNightmare]

it happens