I want my boyfriend to watch me with a girl?

[Anonymous]

Its been a fantasy of mine for awhile now. I've had a threesome and that was fine but they never seem like a great idea when there is feelings that are in the mix and i couldnt bare watching him with another girl... But the idea of him watching me with another girl is such a turn on especially the thought of him watching in secret.. like I am the only one that knows he's there... Anyway randomly he brought up that his biggest fantasy is the exact same thing (Awesome since its so rare for two people to share the same fantasy with their spouse). Problem is i feel that its better in theory then it would be in real life. I mean it seems kinda deceiving to have the other girl not know she's being watched (would not record it or anything but still its not fair to her) and if she did know he was there i feel like i would be more insecure.. My boyfriend is a very attractive person and i am well not and have a lot of insecurities from a previous relationship and have a tendency to compare myself to other girls.. especially if i know that he finds them attractive.. Of course I try not to take that out on him cause its not his fault in the slightest but I dont want to put myself in a situation where Im extremely unconformable. So question is what are your thoughts on this? How should I go about it? Should I tell the other girl that he will be watching? I want this to be a girl that isn't in our everyday life should i turn to a dating site or something to find a girl down to do this or? I dont consider myself bi or anything but im very comfortable with my sexuality and the thought of turning him on like this is the biggest turn on for me if that makes any sense but lets face it i wouldn't know where to begin picking up a girl haha

[Meghan87]

I have the exact same fantasy!!! I want to be without another girl and I want him to be ok with it (hence why he gets to watch lol).. but I would never want to watch him with her!

I think once you find the other girl, you do need to tell her. But I think to accomplish the fantasy, he should kind of hide and you can both pretend he's not there (should be easy enough once you get into it anyways 😏)

I do think you are right in choosing someone who you don't see on a regular basis... just in case (by some rare chance) something goes wrong or gets awkward. At least you won't have to run into her the next day lol.

As for finding a girl, I would have no idea where to being looking.. other than a dating site, but I feel that could get sketch you very fast so you'd probably have to meet her in public first and make sure she's normal.

And if you don't have any luck with that, I'm available 😜

[Megahurtz]

Wow! That escalated quickly. :)

[truthbeknown]

What about watching lesbian porn together? I think telling the other girl you are going to record the encounter so you and your boyfriend can get off to it later would be fine. I think most would be ok and even turned on by that. I think a dating site would be fine to contact someone. You need to meet up and just have a coffee with them and sorta get to know them a bit first to make sure they aren't psycho or anything. Another good idea would be get STD tested. Lots of women looking to experiment, so should be an easy find. Be honest, be safe, have fun!

[Intraluminal]

I think that since this is a mutual fantasy it would be great if you went through with it. As you said, it would be *very* unfair if the other girl didn't know, so don't do that. I would go on several dating sites including craigslist and fetlife because you want someone very specific. Maybe older is a good way to go. An older woman would still be attractive, but less threatening to you, and able to guide you since you're inexperienced. You better be prepared for what happens after she leaves though...

[enis_Penvy]

Most fantasy are better left in fantasy world

[Danher525]

I think it is not a bad thing you should find someone probably a friend who would be willing to do this and tell them you boyfriend will be watching but not filming or anything like that :D

[Anonymous]

There are call girls that will do that and won't care he is watching but you should tell them