Is a big ass a curse or a blessing?

Question

I'll admit it off the bat: I have a big ass. I'm white, not skinny yet not fat, a litlle curvy and my ass big. It's hard to hide. I was insecure about it in high school, now that I'm older, it seems to attract a lot of guys' attention. It might seem like a good thing but problem is, it's like because of my ass I'm only seen as a sexual object. I constantly attract guys that just want to fuck, the guys that are nicer seem to shift their attention toward my butt as well, just less aggressively, and the actual good guys are scared to approach me because they immediately get intimidated by the alpha types who just want to fuck me and don't want another guy around me. I've had 1 short relationship, which wasn't much better than a fuck buddy relationship where kissed me and grabbed my ass in public every now and then. The rest was just fucking, sometimes regularly, sometimes ONS. I really think that being less "rounded" things would be different. What do you guys think or what have you experienced yourselves?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Look, this is how it works.

Either guys want to fuck you, or you're invisible to guys.

As you say, its not just players, even nice guys 'shift their attention to your butt'.

It's normal in a relationship for people to find each other hot. A lot of your 'hotness' is your ass. So you'll attract assmen. Hookup oriented assmen, relationship oriented assmen, all kinds of assmen.

The only bad thing, depending on your viewpoint, is you're likely to get a higher than average percentage of guys, even serious boyfriends, who really, really want to have sex with your ass.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Accepted Answer

it's a matter of how you choose to view it. it can be a blessing in terms of a lot of guys will find you attractive. curse is that you will get plenty of stares.

I have always been an ass guy so I wouldn't mind it all. I dated mostly average and curvy girls, a few skinny but I always run back to curvy.

amyxoxo82 · Accepted Answer

I've got a really big ass as well, it definitely attracts attention. You just have to love yourself though! And I get lots of compliments from guys, which can really help with my confidence :)

Hotassguy85 · Answer

Blessing

AleDeEurope · Answer

Depends on how big it is. If it's fat, it's a curse, cause it's ugly. But if it's fit, round and nice, it's a blessing.

Driven47 · Answer

Every gift comes with a potential curse

Prof_Don · Answer

A gal with a big, shapely ass is a good thing! As long as u don't have too many problems finding clothes that fit around it. :-P

jman46241 · Answer

It's a great thing to see on a woman

FakeName123 · Answer

It is what you make out of it.

Dobler21 · Answer

its true big ass is more enjoyable, n guys love big curvy ass but its not the only thing guys look in a girl other things also have a role (to a greater extent) in a relationships (eg. behaviour attitude... u know the rest)

Other_Tommy_Wiseau · Answer

List how many songs there are about small asses

onxue · Answer

It isn'r a problem to be attracted to your butt though, you just have to turn the guys away that just want you for it and nothing else. There are a lot of sleezebags out there. Don't even give them the light of day.