Are men ruining femdom?

[Anonymous]

I've noticed few women are into femdom. Or rather, what the word implies... Let me explain:

Although many men say they're submissive sexually, they often end up telling the woman exactly HOW to dominate (which, in my opinion, isn't domination at all)

Somewhere along the way, the men in femdom forgot what it was all about: The woman.
If she's not satisfied, or has do do something she doesn't enjoy, that's not dominant.

In conclusion: If ''submissive'' men focus on what's important, instead of being distracted by each weird little fantasy, we would have many more women in our communities.

[Blitzkrieger]

actually the dominant and submissive are simply assumed roles. both parties should be 100% satisfied, thats why there is good communications needed. some politically correct people try to ruin bdsm. they argue that the dominant man has to be selfless and do anything to please his slave, while at the same time the male slave should do anything and please his female mistress at the best of his ability. its both about the woman. in reality its about satisfying both the man and the woman regardless of the role they are assuming.

[Asker]

As the providers, it is men's job to provide women with every thing they need, and ensure they're always satisfied. Happy wife happy life :3

[Blitzkrieger]

no. the dom values the sub for being submissive towards him. she can do anything she wants in life but she willingly chooses to be submissive towards her dominant. the dominant values this tremendously. she should prove that she is worthy of the dominant by servitude. she needs to drop her pride and her vanity and she needs to accept her place below the dominant. she needs to prove worthy of it.

[Asker]

If that's what she wants, I guess that's okay... I'm a strong believer in female oriented relationships though :3

[lumberman9]

That's true men claim they want Femdom but they only want the woman to tell them to do things they want to anyway that's not Femdom and they're ruining it for the rest of us

[anaspie]

Yes sometimes I think they do but only when they dont really understand the true lifestyle.

[enis_Penvy]

You answered your own question - good job 👍

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Let's just get rid of the words "dominant" and "submissive" entirely. The definitions for each word have been abused and reused so many gad damn times, they don't mean anything anymore.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

God*

[LtJackass]

I'm not sure I fully understand your point. I'd love to talk about this. But I think the phenomenon of sexually submissive men is a new thing along with the other quirks of the younger gens.

[ScottSummers]

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[wheeljuke]

It matters on it's on a sexual level or on a psychological level.

Just imagine can you live when a women take control of your life, I don't mean that you're her dog or slave, but she dominates your life not only your sexual intercourse.

Both of these are femdom, it's just the difference of level

[CT_CD]

Women don't like femdom

[darlingpixie]

i personally don't like it but some women do. femdom is an actual thing. there are dominant women who like submissive men, i've met plenty.

[CT_CD]

@darlingpixie What about mendom?

[darlingpixie]

you mean a dominant man? if so, that's what i'm into. my boyfriend is a dominant sadist. i'm extremely submissive.

[Asker]

@darlingpixie See, people get ''dominant'' and ''sadistic'' mixed up... If we (the members of femdom communities) would focus more on serving/satisfying women, and less on our own desires I bet there will be just as many women interested as men.

[notallthere98]

Plenty of women love femdom. My ex was my dom

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think they are, unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Who cares. You are getting hung up on semantics and want everyone to act as you do. You are the problem