I probably would, yes. Generally speaking, I do believe in second chances. However, I'm also extremely allergic to this type of cheating for one very special reason:
I have told my long-term girlfriend in the past that if she ever wanted to try something new with another guy (sexually), she should come to me and tell me about it. I told her that if she was honest about it and asked me in advance, I would feel relaxed about the whole thing and I would let her do it. This is still my attitude. At the same time, I also told her that if she decided to do it behind my back or even lie about it afterwards, I would be extremely pissed.
So for me, it's actually not the sex that bothers me but the doing-it-in-secrecy. Because the latter basically means that your partner doesn't trust you and that's very painful in a long-term relationship
So if my girlfriend went somewhere, got a little tipsy and got to know a super hot guy, I would expect her to call me quickly and ask me if it's okay to go home with him (or bring him to our place). If she did that, I'd maybe ask a few things about him and tell her to use a condom and then I'd be fine with letting her have some fun.
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Man !!! No comment :(
@IceCubedude Nothing's wrong with me. I just happen to have a different opinion on this issue. I'm sure you can handle that, can't you? I'm not a very possessive macho type of guy.
Believe it or not i heard plenty of girls saying something along the lines:
"it might be ok and give it another chance, since it's alcohol related and not entirely his will and that the other girl might jump on him. And we all know how girls act these days showing boobs, shaking ass, flashing pussy and so he mighht not control himself"
I'm a bit shocked by this way of thinking...
Hope the girl that got cheated on, will drop the dude pronto.
You cannot say you did not want to do it and blame it on alcohol.
would it be ok if the guy beats the shit out of the girl and blames it on alcohol? Hey let's use alcohol as an excuse, people will understand.
if you transform when you drink, then keep away from it.
Being drunk is never an excuse. Cheating is cheating and I don't tolerate it under any circumstances whatsoever. If a person is afraid they might do something stupid like that when drunk (or high) and then regret it later, then they shouldn't drink to the point of being that drunk. A responsible person who actually cares about their partner would never cheat, nor would they be so cowardly as to blame any substance that they *willingly* drank/smoked/ate/injected etc.
I trust my partner to not allow "mistakes" like that to happen. If they allow it, it's over. I don't care for associating with weak and untrustworthy people like that.
A person chooses to get drunk.
A person chooses how many drinks they will have.
There's no excuse to cheating, ever. Using the "I was drunk" line is probably one of the most stupid things people can say. No one stood next to you with a gun saying you must get absolutely shit faced. If you are in a committed relationship, you just don't get wasted till the point where you can't control yourself. Or even better, just don't go hardcore unless your partner is WITH you.
It's no one's fault but your own if you are drunk and cheat because you chose to put yourself in that environment.
well being drunk or under the influence of alcohol is an excuse cheating is a choice, you choose to be in that place like bars or clubs where you know there are hunters around who wants to have fun and get laid. no matter what you do once you bit that sinful apple you will never be the same once you try it, your body will find it
I'm sorry but you can't just lose all moral thought even when drunk, you CHOOSE to cheat on your partner, no one is forcing someone to get in bed with anyone else. It just shows lack of control to be honest.
Honestly I keep hearing this excuse ! I cheated because i was drunk ! personally I can't know if the person loses control or not.. I never drink !
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!It's your choice to drink and get drunk. You are furthermore responsible for knowing your limitations and how you act when you are drunk. If you know you are completely obnoxious, irresponsible, aggressive, and abusive when drunk, you should not be drinking. Alcohol can make even the smartest and most careful people do the dumbest and most irresponsible things. If someone killed your family member because of drunk driving, would you forgive them and say "Oh, it's not his fault. He was just drunk." Of course not, their ass is getting locked up in jail! Alcohol is not an excuse to do stupid things. And who's to say she won't do it again? So NO, I would not forgive her, because cheating is cheating.
I am so sick of this being drunk excuse that guys use. I would not forgive him, and he will definitely have to prove to me that it will not happen again in order for me to talk to him again.
No, I likely would not forgive. I wouldn't want to stay with someone I wouldn't be able to trust and who can't control themselves while drinking.
what if you are the one who got drunk and had sex? wouldn't you like to have a second chance?
I don't drink.
why don't you drink? and you didn't answer.. Do you believe in second chances?
It depends on what the mistake was. Full on sleeping with someone else, no, I would not forgive. Something like a kiss would be upsetting but I could forgive it.
Mainly because he should know better than to get drunk enough to find himself in that position. If I did find the ability to forgive my SO for sleeping with someone else while drunk, I would expect him to realize that alcohol is clearly a problem for him and he does not have the ability to use it responsibly. So if he was willing to start drinking very conservatively so that he would never put himself in that position again, that would help me to forgive it.
I'd end the relationship. I'd never forgive infidelity under any circumstances. Besides, I wouldn't want to be with a guy who got so intoxicated that he lost control. I'd even leave him for that reason alone , even if he didn't cheat
you don't drink?
She technically wasn't my SO but we had a promise and she broke it by getting drunk... i didn't care much. Some people said it was a betrayal and i should take it serious... i said it was an act and i hoped she enjoyed it.
If she were my SO, i'd just pull out the ol' notebook and draw me a "get out of jail-free card". And move on. Cuz i dont know when its gonna be my turn lol.
Im not so sensitive over someone getting drunk and boinking another person, sex is like the basest thing in nature...
now if she gets "drunk" and boinks the same guy AGAIN... oh hell to the no. there's something else there.
If it was a kiss, then yes. Sex? No. He already knew how strongly I felt about heavy drinkers
Lol , Desi.. what is the difference between kissing and sex?
A kiss can be forgiven. But if your dick has been in that hoes pussy... we got a problem
Lol , stop talking about my dick !! and i am not going to cheat on you.. but thanks i can kiss all the women i want now :P
I'd leave him. Wow :) guys and gals are in tight unison here
Lol , Does this unison pleases you ;) ?
Yes, haha, we're often very split, sometimes it's very disheartening bc guys will say women want x when the majority say they want y and vice versa.
Fucking hell to the no.
I don't care how drunk you are, if you fuck someone else you're out. I've been propositioned sex multiple times, when I was literally shit faced, and I can still say "No."
That's my thing too. I'd be so livid, after personally turning down other people, only to end up getting cheated on anyways.
@rjroy3 Right?
That is unforgiveable, there are simply no excuses.
id forgive him, right after i dumped him and decided id never talk to him again
Lol , can you forgive and stay with him?
no, why?
because you can think of how your relationship is more important
I would forgive him but I'd also need to know the specific details which led to it happening. If the relationship is strong enough to get through it then I'd stay, forgive but never forget (I wouldn't hold it against him nor use it as future ammunition either). If it's a new relationship (with no serious long term potential) then I'd leave without hesitation.
You know? you are soo careful to explain that you won't use it as future ammunition ! this might be true but it won't be easy for a girl to do that.. women never let go these things. I still believe you though.. but how would you know how drunken he was? of course he would tell you that he was wasted and it meant nothing bla bla bla.. but this might not be the truth.. also would it make any difference if it happened with a girl you know? say your friend or even your sister which supposedly was " wasted drunken " too ?
I was so careful to explain it because it's how I am generally. Clarification mitigates misinterpretation. Irrespective of whether it is difficult for women to do, I would never bring it up and use it against the guy after I had already forgiven him. Doing so is unfair, hypocritical and underhanded. I would know how drunk he was because I would ask a series of questions and expect honesty no matter what. When in relationships, I would rather a guy be honest with me no matter what. Plus it helps that I don't get angry easily. In respect of the other person, it could never be any of my sisters as they are a lot older than I and we very different taste in guys. It would never be one of my female friends as we have the complete opposite taste in guys and they never like the guy to whom I would be attracted.
Honesty is the base of any relationship , i guess... and Lol , it looks as if you like alien guys.. Nobody likes your taste of guys !! but i was talking in general or might be in the future if you have a friend that has the same taste of guys as you plus when they are wasted they wouldn't use their taste anymore !!
Being drunk is not an excuse. Cheating is cheating.
Lol, I'd leave his ass. I can tolerate a lot, but you have sex with someone else, I will kick your ass to the curb. I. DON'T. SHARE.
huh , i guess you are against the idea of threesomes too !!
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No...
There's no excuse. Either he wanted to do it and did it... or he didn't...
lol , don't you believe in second chances? What if you are the one who screwed , wouldn't you want him to forgive?
Nope. I never 'screw up'. Either I say I'm out and I'm out - no relationship anymore, or we're in it for the foreseeable future and faithfulness is mandatory - and very easy - if you actually love the other person.
Actually that is the key point.. being in love.. being satisfied emotionally , mentally and sexually is the real immunity. If cheating ever happens for any reason it would indicate a relationship problem. Either that or something is wrong with the partner !
If someone cannot be responsible for their actions when they are drinking alcohol, then they shouldn't be drinking alcohol. No, you cannot forgive people for what they do simply because they are drunk. If we did that, we would be forgiving people who commit DUI manslaughter.
I agree with that... does that ever happened to you? being cheated on?
Yes, my second wife cheated on me with another woman. She was not drunk when it happened and had no excuse (and I am not suggesting that there is ever a valid reason for cheating.)
oops , sorry man ,, was she a lesbian?
No. There is no excuse for cheating at all. Getting drunk is self inflicted. It was an avoidable act. It should not have happened.
I would walk away with no explanations. No going back, ever.
In vino veritas.
i'd like to say i would. i'd like to say that i could understand a drunken mistake. i'd like to say that i'd forgive them but ask them to perhaps change their drinking habits if it's going to lead to bad decision making
however, in reality i know how i feel. i've been cheated on by two ex's. in one situation it was a partner going to vegas drinking too much and cheating on me. now in that case when i confronted her about it, as i suspected something was up, she lied for two months and then tried to pass blame. ultimately even though i could forgive i could not forget and did not trust her.
perhaps if the person immediately came forward and owned up to the mistake i may be able to stay with them but based on my past experiences i think i'd have to end it
First it's lame to get drunk and second it's just so wrong to have sex with someone else. If he was sober we could talk about it, the reasons why, but when being drunk is the excuse, you're outta here.
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