Is it wrong to dump someone because of a small penis?

[Anonymous]

Hey all.

I met someone and he was amazing. He was everything I ever dreamed of. However when the time came for him and I to get intimate, I found that he was like 3 inches rock hard.

Nothing wrong with that it's just that he hurt me trying to compensate for it.

I didn't want to have sex with him again therfore I had to break it off... I had to lie too about why I had to break it off.

I feel terrible. Was it a terrible thing I did? I was only dating him for a month.

[sawno]

I voted you where horrible, not because of disliking is small penis but for giving up so easily if you clearly loved the guy. If he hurt you trying to compensate for it you could have told him and you two could have experimented to make it work out, perhaps add toys. But instead of giving the guy a chance to improve you flatout dumped him despite the fact you liked everything else about him.

So yes i think you made the wrong decision of letting him go that easily and not attempting to make things better. If you would have attempted and at the end it wouldn't work out then i'd say its understandable because then your not sexually compatible.

[Asker]

I liked your comment because it was exactly what I was thinking. Really the reason why I dumped him was mainly because I didn't want to have sex with him again and I wanted him to be free to get his kicks off somebody else.

[sawno]

If we where thinking the same thing, then do you regret letting him go that quickly? Or do you wish you would have made more effort into creating a good sex life together?

[Itsmeyay]

No don't think you have anything to feel quilty about, it's your choice, if I had something wrong with me I would prefer the truth though, but the fact that you chose to rather date someone else is perfectly normal, no matter what the reason is.
Then you have the small dick, that's another reason that seems normal to not prefer, and he hurt you, who knows what he might do next, and where it will end. sucks for him but Some men are ugly, they also have to deal with their hand.

[Asker]

When I said he hurt me, he hurt me sexually- like he overcompensated with his finger which really hurt my pussy.

[Itsmeyay]

Yes i understood it like that, but he might try new tricks, which could hurt more. He seems desperate to compensate so that in itself could lead to "crazy thinking" even though he seems normal for now. But everyone is different and nothing is a given. I personally would have done the same as you, just incase.

[Anonymous]

Well, you can't be sure he was ramming you so hard because of his size or because that's what he does.

I think I could cum with three inches since I can cum with fingers... but the jackhammer technique is s no go.

I'd have tried to work it out before breaking up, if I liked the guy. Maybe you weren't that into him overall?

[Anonymous]

Dude, if that's the only reason you broke it off then not cool. AND you lied to him about it, now he probably thinks some untrue thing about himself and feels hella self-conscious. So he hurt you one time, probably by accident, and I know it's not fun when sexy time gets a bit owch but you need to communicate.

[kaylaS91]

No. There's nothing wrong with breaking up with someone if you're sexually incompatible.

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

You've got to take all factors into account and if it didn't hit the spot, then fair enough.

[maceygirl]

I would have done the same, if the sex isn't good it wouldn't last anyway. It would have been wrong only if you pointed at his dick and laughed.

[nudeNhorny]

so you prefer big?

[Truthatanycost]

@nudeNhorny Most do, but they just say what they think sounds nicer. It's similar to how women say they prefer the nice guys.

[martyfellow]

You should have told him. For his own good. But it's understandable that you didn't.

[Asker]

Ooooooooohhhh no no no. I will never tell a man his dick is small.

[PeachesAndYoghurt]

That would destroy his self esteem

[martyfellow]

@PeachesAndYoghurt I think he doesn't have a lot anyway

[Asker]

and make him suicidal

[PeachesAndYoghurt]

There's: "I have a small dick" And "I met a great girl but she dumped me cause of my small dick" I would rather keep the first mindset

[Curious625]

It's understandable as he hurt you tbh. Didn't you speak to him about this? About ways to alter what you were doing to work for both of you?

[Asker]

I can't talk to him and say his penis is small

[Curious625]

I thought the problem was him hurting you whilst trying to make up for that?

[ruthfaithseer]

I'm thinking the hurt thing is to make one's self feel better.

[Asker]

I meant his sex techniques hurt the hell out of my vajayjay

[Curious625]

Personally I think he sounds like a great guy and you shouldn't let in go because on time didn't work. Sexual chemistry can take time to build on. Talk with him and tell him what you did and didn't like and take it from there. Tbh you should have told him in the moment if you were in pain, as you didn't you can't really blame him. He probably thinks it went well.

[hellionthesagereborn]

It was wrong because you made no attempt to talk about it, to try and work through it or at the very least explain your reasons to him. I don't think its wrong to break up with some one based upon something like that HOWEVER if you do you have no right to complain when the same thing happens to you (your to fat for him or your too loose etc.).

[Chris_Blaze]

I read the title and thought you were in the wrong. Then I read the details.
A good happy sex life is a part of a health relationship. He can be good at sex by compensating through oral, most women don't orgasm from penetration anyway. But instead of showing you his skills in other ways, or just leaving it where it was, he insulted you to compensate for it. That's not good. If you were to stay with him and he continued with that, the relationship would end anyway.
Penis size isn't something someone can control. I hate when people judge someone for something they cannot control. But you were in the right in this situation.

[Asker]

He compensated by hurting my vajayjay with other techniques. I don't cum from toys or oral, I love hard penetration.

[Chris_Blaze]

Did he purposely try to hurt you? Or realize he was hurting you and decided to insult you because he felt his skills her inadequate?

[emailme]

@Heartonmysleeve88 I totally understand this and also had an experience similar to yours. He also hurt my body. The more men I know the more I see they really believe most or all women love oral. I do not. Do not like it and don't get off unless penetrated. Some men get really offended when I say I do not want oral and it's not because of skill.

[OlderAndWiser]

How would you have felt about him if he said, "Your tits are too small, so I'm outta here!"?

[Asker]

I have had that said to me, it strangely didn't make a difference.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Based on your profile picture, it doesn't look like your boobs are too small. 2. If that experience didn't upset you, then you are an unusual (in a good way) woman.

[MrMysteryMan]

If you don't feel good with someone why be with them. No matter what the reason. It just develops more issues and confrontations in the long run. So best to go find someone you'll be both happy with.

[ibodi]

We had conservative period, So we dont talk about the issue in law but it really happen. Everyone would think it is bitch that divorce for the reason.
Now it is a reason that can divorce.

[NJ_Casanova]

If you're not "Physically" compatible... it's understandable.

[Ro0kie]

Nah it's a woman's preference, kind of like another woman knows how to please him more than you you know?

[Asker]

Well I really hope he meets that woman.

[Ro0kie]

Wow... good for you. I doubt you still wanna be friends with him?

[Asker]

I tried to but he wanted to be friends with me befits and I didn't want to and we just stopped talking

[Ro0kie]

That's koo. Good luck with your future.

[Truthatanycost]

He will, there are billions of other girls out there. Some may prefer that size even, who knows. However, it's quite possible he will make the same mistake of overcompensation again since he might not realize it. The question you should ask yourself is what would you prefer if the roles were reversed. To remain in ignorance or have the hit to your self esteem along with the truth, that gives you a chance to change your actions.

[joanaaa]

Yes it is , it may sound bad saying it but it's actually true

[Dargil]

If its important, best not to drag it out. Let him find an 85 pound Asian girl with a 3"deep vagina.

[rjroy3]

Sounds like you broke up with him more for the over compensation than the dick lol. But yea, nothing wrong with it. Just sucks for him

[jman46241]

It was only a month..

[RegularTK421]

3 inches is too small for a man to date. You women cause more problems by falsely reassuring men, and then when you break it off after dealing with reality, you feel bad. You need at least a 6 inch long dick with good thickness. Anything under that, you are wasting your time with women.

Men try to be straight up with you, about questions and everything, they even ask you what is your preferred penis size, what is too small, too big etc. Girls mock and get tired of these questions, but then we hear about these horror stories. I mean it's just senseless, put on your big girl panties, and let the world know what you really want in all areas.

All of this could have been avoided if women would just be more honest and upfront from the start.

[RegularTK421]

Even worse, you lied about why you broke it off. Now he has zero idea of what he did wrong. You should tell him his dick is too small, it's not good for sex, and that his fingering and foreplay techniques were too rough and painful. It's really that simple. Anyway, your not wrong for breaking it off for these reasons, you are wrong for lying to his face about why you broke it off.

[SlitherySnake]

No. But you should have been honest with him, ying was shitty.

[SlitherySnake]

lying*

[Asker]

How am I to be honest with him? IT is impossible.

[SlitherySnake]

That's a lie. Just tell him the truth.

[JSmuve]

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[akadatank44]

I said your horrible, not tbat i actually think that, but it has nothing to do with his penis. If I was a chick I would of done the same. However, I think you should of told him the truth, as hard as they may be to do, it may lead him to finally get surgery or to do something. He won't make too many women happy unless he's fantastic at oral and he meets a chick who doesn't like a dick inside her lol.

[Raymond_Reddington]

Yeah it was terrible. At the very least you could have told him the truth. Hewas everything yiu everr dreamed of, and you dump him like trash and lie about it too. And you wonder why guys start to hatewomen. Its cuz of lying bitches like you.