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Sex isn't worth the time and effort anymore.. guys expect too much?

What I'm mainly referring to is shaving, maybe because I'm scared of cutting myself but shaving my legs and armpits takes about 10 minutes and shaving my pubes takes like 20.
Add the washing hair and face and body.. I'm in the shower around 45 minutes.

On top of that I need to blow dry my hair, straighten my hair, and apply makeup equalling about 45 minutes as well.. an hour and half every single single day trying to look good enough just so men don't think I'm "disgusting" because apparently natural is disgusting. It's exhausting and I've actually broke up with a guy for no other reason then I didn't want to shave anymore, I was getting ingrown hairs and they're ugly and painful.

I know there are some guys that don't mind hair but they're so rare to find.. so I've completely stopped dating and having sex for who knows how long. I can satisfy myself therefor men are have no purpose to me. Am I wrong or right?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I kinda feel the same way about girls tbh. I think I'm a decent looking guy, but maybe not from the lack of attention I get from girls. And I can't put on makeup to make me look better, like girls can.
    However, I think that looking natural is the best. We know what you look like without makeup on, I don't mind a girl having some hair. Grooming is definitely important though, not just to look good, but to be healthy as well. If a girl feels comfortable with her natural appearance (which a lot should, but the social pressure leads to girls wearing makeup all the time which isn't quite right) then there's no need to spend all that extra time. As long as a girl has clean hair, a clean body, it doesn't matter to me if she has a little hair on her body. Should be her decision there. But if you're a guy or a girl, if the opposite sex doesn't like your natural appearance, that's their problem. That's why I think not wearing makeup and just looking like yourself is the best

  • how would you feel if your guy wasn't clean n didn't do showers... smelly feet... bad breath?

    grooming is important... you don't need to go all the way, just be smart, descent, clean, n OCCASSIONALLY sexy... that's all we need women to be.

    applying make up is not bad... but media n your fellow women are the ones that give you the ideas of make up errday n being sexy... bigger is better shit... this is not for all women... works well with some women.

    stop taking too much time preparing yourself for sex rather just groom yourself for personal satisfaction cz you then work on confidence which is sexy n the sex will come abundantly.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I am starting to feel the same way. It maybe due to you becoming mature and not wanting to bend over backwards to please every guy that you meet like most females do. I have seen women who sleep with men they barely know and they very hard to impress him ony to get played and used. Its not worth it. I do agree that sex doesn't do it for me anymore, I would rather be with someone who I can bond with first. Im getting to that point that sex isn't a big deal for me anymore. And this is coming from someone who use to LOVE sex.

  • Shaving pubes in the shower takes me like a minute or 2. otherwise I don't do the rest you mentioned... you could make it simpler! Ingrown hairs though, you can buy a trimmer instead of a shaver for that. Worked great for me. You could make it simpler most of all, just by keeping all the hair. If he doesn't like it too bad.

  • Personally I don't mind shaving at all and I get uncomfortable if I do have hair. It definitely doesn't take me as long though, it probably take 10-15 min to do a full body shave lol. I brush my hair and put makeup on, takes about another 5-10 min and I'm good to go lol

    • I don't know how you can do it so quickly 😶 don't you get razor burn?

    • I admit I do occasionally 😅 But as long as I keep at it every day or second day burns are quite rare, I make sure to always use good cream

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  • What we women go through. :(

  • Don't shave there then?

    • exactly

  • Do what makes you happy and the right guy will like you for you.

    • you said it

    • I DIsagree!!!

  • Neither. You are you. Maybe it's just some temporary fatigue. If not, then it's ok too. It's your life after all.

  • Well if you feel that it's not worth it, then you can stay single, it's okey.

  • You don't want to have a Birdsnest down there sweetie… No one said body upkeep was easy

  • I mean I would say wrong as companionship is detrimental on an emotional level. And tis don't give you that.
    But on the other hand if your worried about douche bags then maybe you're looking in the wrong places. If I have a girl who I love to talk to and hang out with then I don't care too much about her body. As long as she is clean.
    Also I don't mind a hairy vagina...

  • You're right. i don't blame you.

  • Do you like cats?

  • I'm good with a woman having pubes. I don't know about armpits and legs tho. You don't need to wear makeup or straightening your hair tho. That may save you sometime.
    Are your righg or wrong? I don't know I don't think one can sustain being alone forever without human contact. Especially intimacy.

  • uh yeah i guess if you're just into it for the sex and your toys are enough men serve no purpose for you. sucks to be your boyfriend no disrespect to you

    • That's why I broke up with him first derp

    • i'm saying giving your logic and opinions that you're right. i'm not sure what you're asking with this question.. are you hoping people will judge you? It's your life you just seem like a sociopath but that's nobody's business on here.

    • Partly i am curious if people's input, partly I wanted to vent. If that makes me a sociopath then so be it lol

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  • ... besides d odd semen or 2 for procreation your probably right... i personally dont like all that shaving you wonen do.. but im sn old fart so. ...

  • Use hair remover creams then. I would be ok with that. 😘

  • As long as you turned on by women with hairy arm pits, BO, and souring bacteria on the skin - more power to you. At least that is what I think.

  • You know if you need to do all these things every time you have sex with a guy you are dating the wrong guy. We are all human for crying out loud. Why are these rituals needed at all if you are in love?

  • Then don't shave and stuff.

  • A girl doesn't need makeup and straight hair but hairy pussy and armpits are disgusting. Good thing you stopped having sex.

  • instead of just cutting men out you could just be yourself and let any guy who shows interest up front that you come as is

    • But that is setting myself up for rejection.

    • just use online dating that's what I did that way you can put all this in there upfront and you won't even know if a guy rejected you you will only talk to the guys ok with natural you. I don't want kids and most women do so I got rejected a lot but doing this helped me avoid wasting my time and effort

    • Good idea thanks 😊

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  • Hmm I don't mind hair, stubble on legs is kinda hot to me 😉

    • Do you wear short shorts with stubble on your legs?

    • No cuz I'd be scared of being judged by society lol

    • I would let you wear them for me!

  • Looooooool thats hilarious sadly it is what it is, but i guarantee you if you find a man you love you'll do all this for him& he'll be more accepting when you grow a LITTLE hair when you're lazy, personally i want my girl to look amazing physically but when you fall in love with her she doesn't have to look 100% on point 24/7 just have simple hygiene& not too many hairs

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