Girls, what would you do if your dad did this?
I could see sitting down with a son, and making it clear how I expect him to behave, respect, all that, but a talk with a daughter just seems like it would be more awkward.
So, because I'm not worried about how I'd handle a boy, this is about girls.
I remember being a teen. I know how early I had sexual interests, and masturbated. And then there are sites like this, where I see teens talk about those issue. My big fear is NOT a daughter discovering her sexuality, but of her experimenting with it, especially with boys, in ways she might not be ready for, or might regret later.
One thought I had was this. Buy her a vibrator. Masturbation is not dirty, or evil, or sinful, or dangerous. If she had a toy, a way to enjoy herself and work through teenage sexual tension, I imagine it would help.
A toy, a lock for her bedroom door, and a father who respects her privacy. All parents know their kids masturbate, so why act like it is terrible?
When I suggested this in other places, some people lost it, screaming I was a creep. And other people thought it was a good idea. Oddly, it tended to be guys who said it was creepy (which makes me wonder how they saw it...) and women who said that, awkward as that might be at first, that would be a great thing for a parent to do.
So, would you do that for your daughters? Provide them a toy so they had an outlet? If you are female, how would you respond if you got a toy?
I guess the reason I'm wondering how it would be received, coming from a dad, has to do with the fact that I've known several guys who were single fathers for whatever reason, so they had to deal with all their daughter's stuff, no matter how awkward. In case anyone is curious why I'm not like "I'd have her mom give it to her."
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