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Does making out mean anything to guys?

So I've been friends with this guy at my university since August, and we work together and live in the same building so we've become pretty close friends. Back in December, we were watching movies in my room, and he ended up sleeping over and we were cuddling and eventually he kissed me.

We made out for like an hour, and the next morning we made out again but he had to leave. In my mind the whole thing was romantic, and since we were friends I didn't think he would just make out with me like that if it didn't mean anything.

It's been about a month now, and we haven't talked about it and we barely hang out anymore. He seems completely disinterested, and I feel like it's messing up our friendship. It just really hurts because I really liked him and I feel like something's wrong with me. And I can't stop seeing him because of work and a class we have together.

I need a guys advice on what could be going through his mind? Or a girls advice on how to get over it and move on?
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  • I would say it depends on the guy's feelings for you.

    One of my guy friends kissed me one night and we still see each other on a regular basis like nothing has changed and kiss every now and again. I just asked him other day how he felt about me and he said he liked me so we are building a relationship.

    Unfortunately not every make out story has the same outcome as mine. He probably feels awkward about it, unsure, regretful... I can't tell you as I'm not inside his head and the best policy is communication. But sometimes, especially in your case, being ignored is also an answer.
    I would just give him some distance, if you see him just say hi and carry on your day.

  • I've been in your shoes and I know it sucks because it meant something to you and you thought it meant something to the guy too and now you don't know what to do and that just stinks.
    I advise you to go to him and ask him what is going on and ask him to explain what was going through his head. Then it will take some time for you to get over it (I don't know if you're a touchy feely type or what so I can't tell how long) but you will be pretty damn okay, believe me.

  • maybe he feels uncomfortable? or maybe he decided you weren't for him? or he found someone else or doesn't want a relationship. don't be quick to put the blame on yourself because you will only drive yourself crazy

    • Girl trust me I know I feel like a crazy person hahaha. I have no problem kissing guys no strings attached, but when you've built up a friendship like that I guess you just expect it to mean more, but hopefully I can just get over it

  • it is not important for some, like some will just do it as they want it but not because they have feelings for you

Most Helpful Guys

  • In my early days I liked making out just for the hell of it and I liked sitting with her and just kissing a lot, maybe groping her body a little bit. After a week or so of that though, we slept together and that was that.

    Since then kissing to me was always foreplay. If we kiss passionately and there's no sex afterwards, it's going to tease and frustrate me. I don't enjoy passionate kissing anymore unless it's followed up soon after by sex. I like affectionate kissing and cuddling all the time with any girl, but passionate kissing to me is foreplay. It's no longer an activity I enjoy doing in isolation.

    • In my case: - Passionate kissing means I want to have sex as a form of foreplay, and I can no longer do it for an extended period of time until I start doing things like grabbing a girl's ass and undoing her bra. It's also one of the easiest things for me to do with a girl I'm attracted with. I've even kissed girls in night clubs before I even got their name. - Cuddling and spooning and affectionate kisses (ex: kissing her forehead and cheeks) is something I just enjoy doing with just about any girl. It means very little and I can do that with just about any girl who lets me, but it tends to be harder to do in kissing since we generally need to be in a very private and comfy setting. - Sex either means very little or everything depending on how connected I am with the girl in the moment. It can be the most intimate activity to me in the world (far more intimate than the above two) or just screwing for mutual physical pleasure and nothing more.

    • [...] it tends to be harder to do in [/than] kissing since we generally need to be in a very private and comfy setting.

  • I don't know every guys opinion but this is actually a topic I have discussed with friends. You never kiss a prostitute. So basically fucking can be totally meaningless to get off but kissing is only worth it if you actually like someone.

    • See that's what I would think too, and he was definitely the one to initiate it, so I'm just wondering why he would when he knew I liked him if he didn't want a relationship?

    • You told him you likd him? Cause guys are really fucking thick so I mean he probably knew but like some guys are REEEEALLY thick

    • Well right after we started kissing I told him that I have a crush on him and he responded "you're adorable" so I'm pretty sure he knows hahaha

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  • Once upon a time in a faraway land I was traveling in a big city and spent several days hanging out with a native female friend of mine there. We liked each other and ended up making out after a dinner at a restaurant, really romantic and sweet kissing. There were feelings involved, so yeah, I'd say making out can mean something to a guy.

  • yea. i only had 1 girlfriend before and i started making out with her about 2 times. 1 time was way longer than the other. the second time i was mainly kissing her neck.

    i enjoyed it because she really did. and i liked her because she was my girlfriend

  • Nothing's wrong with u love 😊

  • Green ish blue with cats

  • Sex hardly means anything to some people. Making out can also mean nothing depending on the person.

  • have you spoken to him about it?

    • No I haven't, honestly I kinda feel like he's gonna reject me and then feel bad about it which will probably ruin our friendship so I was kinda hoping he would bring it up haha. But he's just acting like it never happened and it's kind of driving me crazy

    • talk to him, he may be nervous of how it went down with you or he may not be into you, if you drag it out it will harm your friendship, but you guys are adults talk and find out were you stand and move forward

    • Yeah I just really need to put my big girl pants on ahahah. thanks (:

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  • you should confront him about it honestly

  • I'd say ask, in the heat of the moment things happen things get said and then the next day both parties feel weird. And I agree with the guy below, you never kiss a hooker so he must like ya. I hooked up with a friend a few months ago, she said in the middle of it "I love you so much" then the next day she was saying she wants to play the field and blah blah blah. So we haven't talked in like 6 months

  • I can't speak for other guys but yeah it means something to me.

  • This has also happened to me. I made out with a girl, but I also realized she wasn't the one for me so we stopped seeing each other

  • Kissing doesn't mean anything, unless you two smash then you're still friends.

    I've done that countless of times with female friends who were just that, friends. Shit, I'm sure even you've cuddled and kissed your girl friends before.

  • yes, it does, when im doing that with my future wife only

  • I dont like making out at all, dont even like kissing. It really dosnt do nothing for me if it dosnt turn into more, just kinda makes me feel like she's a tease.

    • really? it doesn t turn you all at all?

  • I only make out with girls I have feelings for. maybe he just doesn't know how you feel and is afraid of you rejecting him

  • If i like the person, yes. Best time I made out was when a girl put on some of my favorite bands and had us make out to it.

  • I would only make out with a girl if she was my girlfriend. I don't know what his problem is. Why not just ask him directly if he wants you to be his girlfriend or not?

  • And there you have it. Women give their hearts out to assholes and come here and complain. UGH jheeze I'm sick of this

    • You didn't have to read it ffs.

    • @Sue09 wait what?

    • Why open, read and comment on a post just to complain? Just scroll on by

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