Do you get turned off when someone has had a lot of sexual partners?

[Anonymous]

If a guy/girl told you they had a foursome with 3 girls/3 guys would you be turned off?

[Anonymous]

Slut;
A description of a woman who can't give herself properly or is self medicating or experiences sexual pleasure at the expense of all other life experiences. She is considered (low class) because she does not acknowledge the depth and meaning of interpersonal interactions but merely gets a thrill from being sexually entertained at the expense of the person she is with. Therefore experienced men have sex with her only and not take her seriously for anything but for sex. Men then leave her alone because she is a heart breaker and impossible to house train or domesticate. Men usually only visit her for drinks and a quick shag after making empty promises. This type of woman is dangerous for sincere naive guys who are not experienced with relationships and sex. Naive simple men will take her seriously and believe in all the politically correct crap and treat her like a princess till he finds out she is a tart and breaks his heart. Sluts turn decent men into players that rort middle aged lonely women for their money and body. These middle aged women spent too much time being narcissistic throughout their life by being overly prudish and money hungry and forgot to get married and have children.
GUY ARRIVE HOME: (sees another guy screwing her on the washing machine)...
GUY: I thought we had something going between us; a loyal friendship and looking forward to a future together with the loftier and more noble ideals in life such as education, family, work, love and house together.
GAL: So? its only sex, it is not like i love the guys I have sex with or anything. Besides I can see whom ever i want; it's my body, you don't own me.
GUY: Your a Slut...

[Blonde401]

*you're.

[Opinion Owner]

@Blonde401 Capital letter.

[Blonde401]

You're.

[Opinion Owner]

@Blonde401 Better. "Your" welcome.

[Blonde401]

You're not welcome :)

[Opinion Owner]

@Blonde401 I want my up vote!!

[Blonde401]

From me? Oh no you won't get one from me

[Opinion Owner]

@Blonde401 why because I'd bang a slut in a heartbeat but would never marry one? Well that's 90% of all guys.

[Blonde401]

You're anon, I don't upvote anons. You're not man enough to say all this not on anon?

[Ovidiu-Nicolae]

@Blonde401 A guy who does the things he mentioned how should it be called?

[Blonde401]

@Ovidiu-Nicolae we don't have a term for men who do these things do we? Just women usually.

[Opinion Owner]

@Blonde401 stud/alpha

[Blonde401]

Nobody calls them that. Only betas call them that.

[Ovidiu-Nicolae]

@Blonde401 What's the difference between alpha female and beta?

[Blonde401]

@Ovidiu-Nicolae there is no alpha or beta females.

[wittymilf]

@ovidiu... We should just call her 'set free'

[Blonde401]

@wittymilf 👏👏👏

[Opinion Owner]

@wittymilf which will just be another term for slut. You can change the name but not the shame! Lol

[wittymilf]

One mans shame is another woman's pride, depends on the angle your taking it from ☺

[Opinion Owner]

@wittymilf yeah pride

[wittymilf]

Touche

[AustinMan]

When it comes to sexual history, don't ask, don't tell.

[WalterBlack]

If it is a long term relationship, the truth will come out eventually. Wouldn't you rather know upfront than to be blindsided by that information later on? Wouldn't you rather hear about this from your significant other rather than an acquaintance?

[Brah63926]

Do ask. Had one girl tell me she had 20 so I left.

[Jamesol1]

Goes to show how women are the opposite of modest compared to men these days..

[Centurion20000]

The men that upvoted this? Thirsty simps.

[Brah63926]

@Centurion20000 lots women up voted lol

[Centurion20000]

@Brah63926 : Sure, the ones with high partner counts.

[Teenagekid16]

@Centurion20000 maybe I'm a little young but what's wrong with women with high numbers. It can be a little unsettling I wouldn't marry a woman with a high number but I don't think it's a problem for a girlfriend.

[BubbleBoy69]

@Teenagekid16 1. Higher chance at cheating or divorcing 2. Usually high sex partner is associated with underlying issue as women get no validation from sleeping with tons of people. 3. Women also keep the DNA of past partners with them which can influence the genetic makeup of your child (i. e. it's not 100%your child).

[Warmapplecrumble]

@austinman what about stds?

[Teenagekid16]

@BubbleBoy69 oh ok that's why. I get the cheating part because I watched a movie called Boogie Nights and the guys wife was always fucking other men.

[CapnHawk]

@SirRexington Amen, brother. Less history - more mystery.

[Warmapplecrumble]

@BubbleBoy69 that's really interesting.. so these women keep the DNA of these other guys... I wonder if menstruation gets rid of it over the years

[allison13]

My boyfriend and I share everything together. I even told him what positions I used to do with my exes. He told me the things that happened during sex with his exes. Shouldn't be a big deal considering we're both doing pretty much the same thing we did with the others. Difference is we know more now what we want.

[Warmapplecrumble]

@allison13 I'm the same as you.. I wouldn't hide anything

[veedot]

We both don't have to know about who i slept with and how. Especially about sex.#No

[AustinMan]

@Warmapplecrumble The assumption is that they'd get tested before having sex and any children would be disclosed.

[AustinMan]

Each relationship stands alone. People do change over time.

[Warmapplecrumble]

@austinman yeah I guess so, but still I would tell.. I like to be accepted fully... everyone is different

[AustinMan]

@Warmapplecrumble Acceptance doesn't necessarily necessitate full disclosure if it has no bearing.

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Austinman I am bit weird like that.. I like to tell him everything.. every little detail.. I can relief and peace when I do that

[Kayb1]

But you know you can lie about the number you've been wig right? Your 5 can be a lot to him... & bring lots of problems later. It's best if you don't ask & don't tell... it was all in the past c'mon

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Kayb1 I don't care I rather be honest and sleep peacefully at night lol

[Kayb1]

*with lol... well that's you... he/she can lie about the number of people they've been with so you'd see them as "good"

[Kayb1]

There are instances when you mention a number & the guy gets turned off, & doesn't want a relationship with you no more

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Kayb1 its not about him... its about being accepted and not having a burden, when you lie or hide things it gets heavy

[randomuser94]

that's how you get the herps

[Kayb1]

Well... but why bring this question up in the first place? lol I don't think it's needed... @Warmapplecrumble what do you think?

[SirRexington]

@CapnHawk it's not about mystery but I don't want to know your past. Ignorance is bliss and if I pick up that she as had a lot of partners then I'll ask. If she confirms it consider myself gone.

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Kayb1 I told my partner everything really in first few days I dated him.. I never asked him anything.. he just told me too... and thus you are right there wasn't many questions.

[Kayb1]

@SirRexington why would you leave when she's been truthful?

[SirRexington]

@Kayb1 that don't mean shit. I'm truthful as hell but I'm still an asshole. Plus being truthful isn't going to change her disgusting past and personal disrespect to herself and it certainly won't make my disgust of her go away... You could be a murderer and be the most truthful person on the planet, that doesn't me your actions any less heinous.

[Warmapplecrumble]

@SirRexington how much is too much? and her dating guys doest that count? her crushes?

[Kayb1]

But what if she has changed? You should give her a chance... if in the course of your relationship with her she goes sleeping around, then you have a reason to leave her

[SirRexington]

@Warmapplecrumble why would dating and crushes count? I'm specifically talking about past sexual encounters. If that isn't abundantly clear then I don't know how to help you. You seem to just want us to accept you for being a slut and doing things that regardless of our gender we do not approve of. You can't force us to accept something we do not respect. That relationship would be based on lies... Too much really matters on how many sexual partners she has had compared to boyfriends and more importantly in what timeframe. As a younger male looking for a girl around my age if I found out it was like 10 or more guys I'm gone. And if she is into really weird porn level bullshit then no way in hell.

[BubbleBoy69]

@SirRexington Waiit Wait. You do realise 10 is low for women today. By her early 20's the average women has around 15 sexual partners.

[SirRexington]

@Kayb1 I don't believe things like that change. If you're into 4somes with 3 guys I'm not sure that really changes. it she's she was willing to do something atrocious in the first place. And really this is all speculation. But my opinion that it's disgusting will always affect my judgement.

[SirRexington]

@BubbleBoy69 so I'm supposed to lower the bar? it's not my fault society is turning into fuck boys and whores.

[Jamesol1]

@Warmapplecrumble ''and her dating guys doesn't that count?''... no. It's more of a concern when she does hook ups with guys... if that number is above 2-3 then i will start raising red flags. If she is a one night stand girl... i wouldn't date her for long/seriously.

[Brah63926]

@BubbleBoy69 Women also keep the DNA of past partners with them which can influence the genetic makeup of your child (i. e. it's not 100%your child). Where's proof in that?

[Jamesol1]

@Brah63926 Yeah that is a bit weird...

[Warmapplecrumble]

@SirRexington what if those 10 guys were due to rape.. its verrrry unlikely but it can happen

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Jamesol1 well even when a woman doesn't have sex.. dating 100 guys would still be bit unsettling.. I met a woman once who dated 100 guys in 3 months... I was bit shocked

[AustinMan]

@Warmapplecrumble There's a difference between being honest and talking just to hear yourself talk. Why do you feel compelled to tell him all of it. It's in the past and it's not germane to your relationship to him unless you've contracted some STD that has no know cure. Children, esp those living with you, need to be disclosed. But he doesn't need to hear every detail of every partner.

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Brah63926 I do feel like sexual contact makes you similar to your partner.. regardless of ejaculation.. I think it holds some truth to it.. sleeping with a guy can retain his dna

[Warmapplecrumble]

@austinman when I went into my relationship... I said to myself I will tell him everything and be honest as possible. I've never stopped. Yes some things he doesn't care about. But for example my phone doesn't have password, my partner can check my emails etc, facebook this site... I wouldn't hide anything from him. I see him as a part of me. ... it feels good knowing he knows everything about me... I can sleep peacefully knowing I never did anything wrong. I am a perfectionist probably why - I just want to be the best and put my all... nothing wrong with that.

[Djaaaay]

Opinion owner. How to be a lying ( SLUT ) 101 . But I noticed all the up votes favor being a (slut ) and being a deceiving person for sexual gain regardless. What abunch of dishonest people.

[Najie_TooSweet]

My only concern would be if you had a history of stds or sti like when it comes to knowing that its a must

[Djaaaay]

@SirRexington Why are all the down votes f idiots. ? What , you got to be a SLUT to be cool ?

[Kayb1]

He knowing everything about you isn't too good. E. g. When you're no longer together, he can use them against you. You can let him know about the relevant ones... ones that won't cause any harm to your relationship in anyway

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Kayb1 I don't care... I devoted my life to my husband .. and I'd like to keep it that way.

[AustinMan]

@Najie_TooSweet If he comes free of STDs, that's all that matters. To my mind, either I trust the other person or I don't.

[Kayb1]

I don't mean if you're married... that's different... but if it's just a relationship & you honestly know it won't lead to nothing, there's no need letting him know your past from A-Z @Warmapplecrumble

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Kayb1 I wouldn't go in a relationship if it wasn't going anywhere.. waste of time

[AustinMan]

@Kayb1 I respectfully disagree. Her past is her past. It has no bearing on me or our relationship. If something does, then get it out when it's appropriate but this wholesale confession/disclosure is just not necessary or productive.

[Djaaaay]

Opinion owner. Ok , but this only doesn't matter especially when you yourself are primarily the same. Birds of a feather

[lyannamormont]

I mean honestly what is the point in asking? Whenever someone asks me and i say my number they say it is too low for my age and dont believe. They think i am lying. Like if you won't believe why would a woman's number matter whether low or high or acceptable?

[Jamesol1]

@lyannamormont Yeah i know... but women often lie... kind of makes it pointless asking... but that thought still lingers in their head so...

[Jamesol1]

@lyannamormont Just say the number and stick to it no matter what... if you start changing it then they won't ever believe it.

[lyannamormont]

@Jamesol1 i got it but they ask in detail about my past life and i straight up answer them about when i lost my virginity, which is 22, late for many, about my first boyfriend of 3 years and second boyfriend of 1.5 year and current friends with benefits. So i say 3 and people are just like you're lying... my bff slept with 62 men and getting married with 63rd. The guy knows that and doesn't even care. Like if you're gonna have long term relationship with someone, it doesn't really depend on a binary decision of if she slept with 10 or less yes if not no... you know what i mean?

[Kayb1]

Your past is your past... I don't see its relevance if you're in a new relationship. Knowing the number of sexual relations you've had is really not important.

[Jamesol1]

@lyannamormont For some men they don't want to share their woman (the opposite of cucks) and when they hear their girls has slept around a lot i guess it makes them think she is less of a catch because she offered herself to lots of people? I don't know... And yeah I'm 20 and still a virgin... mind you its because I've spent too much wanking... anyways... girls will ask how many girlfriends have you had or how many girls have you kissed? I say 0 they are either like wtf is wrong with him or they feel bad and see me as less of a man (it seems that way).

[Jamesol1]

@Kayb1 I guess with your partner you want to feel equal. And if she or he has had loads more partners at some point you may feel in a way sort of jealous or insecure about it. It's a bit like if a girl i was dating was brought up in a really rich area with a huge house and private school education... i would be a bit jealous of that and feel like she has experienced more... It would feel almost as if I've missed out (and i may see her as more superior)... but with partner counts it's different it is something you can choose as a woman (as a man it isn't for most to an extent) and as soon as you date/marry your signing off a contact to keep that void you feel you have in terms of not having the same amount of sex. But I haven't been in that position so i may be chatting complete crap.

[Warmapplecrumble]

@lyannamormont I am exactly like you, I don't see harm in telling everything.

[Brah63926]

@Jamesol1 dude no a woman still has to be hot looking if she wants the goods

[Jamesol1]

@Brah63926 No, average women get a lot of attention.. espcially on dating sites. When it comes to hooking up they are popular. It's only the ones that are too bad to touch that don't get any.

[Brah63926]

@Jamesol1 hot girls like hot guys

[Jamesol1]

@Brah63926 Yes and average girls like hot guys and so do above average girls. So do men... the difference being is the men dont chase those girls nearly as much as the girls do... girls only bother chasing hot men and wait on less good men to come up to them and persuade them to date them

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Jamesol1 it depends on the woman or man.. not everyone can be grouped

[Jamesol1]

@Warmapplecrumble True. It's is just a consistent trend I've noticed out of most individuals.

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Jamesol1 hmm I see.. define hot please

[Brah63926]

@Warmapplecrumble 7 inches plus

[Brah63926]

@Warmapplecrumble with veins and all

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Brah63926 what's 7 inches?

[Brah63926]

@Warmapplecrumble pee pee

[Jamesol1]

@Warmapplecrumble Hot... I'm going to say from 8-9/10. Depends how you score though.

[WalterBlack]

Well this convo went off topic 😐

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Jamesol1 picture?

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Brah63926 you want the woman's pee pee to be 7 inch deep?

[Jamesol1]

@Warmapplecrumble
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Some of the guys from that program who all said around 300-500

[Jamesol1]

@Warmapplecrumble This guy is probably an easy 9. He has banged over 500 different women. He has a 98% success rate with girls apparently.
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[Warmapplecrumble]

@Jamesol1 I find him not attractive.. I like men with beard, no tattoo's, his face is not symmetrical to my eyes.. he doesn't look real, he looks like a plastic doll.. ugh I sound horrible

[Jamesol1]

@Warmapplecrumble If you saw him in real life you may think otherwise. Seeing someone in a picture is quite different.

[Jamesol1]

@Warmapplecrumble Ok this pic... i4.mirror.co.uk/.../Love-Island.jpg
I don't doubt his 98% success rate.

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Jamesol1 no he looks fake.. and that's unattractive, and by the way it takes me a long time to find a man attractive because I'm a saposexual :-)

[Brah63926]

@Warmapplecrumble saposexual another made up feminist driven sexual orientation

[Warmapplecrumble]

@Brah63926 ... I don't get attracted to anyone unless I form a connection with them

[crazybi]

Being as I have done that before, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest if the man or woman I choose to be with has also done so.

Protection is a must though. STD'S are for real, after working in public health laboratories you learn that, lol.

I don't see the correlation of number of partners and cheating from my own experience as I am married and don't cheat. We swing, but neither of us considers that cheating. Communication and honesty is key in any relationship.

For the most part we don't do much of the extra partner stuff, we are usually busy, and we really love pleasing each other. So number of partners just means more experience on knowing how to please each other.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on the person, and who they are TODAY. I think it's immature to judge someone based on their past, when all the different experiences in their past have contributed to making them the person that they are now.

I wouldn't judge or be turned off as long as those experiences were in the past and they were a mature enough person to be monogamous in the present. The only way it would be a turn off for me, would be if they wanted to still live that lifestyle in the present and didn't want to commit. In that case I wouldn't date them... I don't want to date someone who can't be exclusive.

[skykid1992]

what if it was 2 weeks ago?

[Iddy_Bella]

I totally would be turned off!
It shows they have no respect for themselves, their body or their relationship (even if the SO agrees to it). A lot of relationships end this way because the SO (significant other) feels like they aren't good enough or just say "yes" to make you happy.
I believe God made one man and one woman, and they will be one flesh.

Just my opinion :)

[realperson02]

good thoughts 👏👏👏

[TommySparta]

^^^^this 👍

[btbc92]

Amen!

[SunSetInTheEast]

+1 😊 😊

[Djaaaay]

Opinion owner. Absolutely true !!

[btbc92]

Anybody with that kind of history and they are still participating in it without going through change to stop, and they think it's okay is not only an immediate turn-off. But never would I date them, especially when there is conflicting views about sex.

[allison13]

It depends. If he had a meaningful relationship with them then I'm fine with it. But if it was a ton of sexual partners just for sex I'd be turned off because of the possibility of STDs and the possibility that I might just be a number on his list.

[XRabbitHeartX]

Absolutely yes.

[AsianMae98]

Yess, it matters cuz when I find out he's been with a lot of other girls, there's a big chance of a possible disease infection if it's unprotected and I wouldn't want to risk it

[ssilver]

Nope

[AlienIshboo]

I'll give you my amalgamated wisdom from my favorite satirist Maddox, and from a seduction coach, James Marshall.

Long story short, we're a society that demonizes sex, as though it weren't the most human aspect of humanity. You have no way of understanding your sexuality on your own, so the only way to explore it and learn more about it is with other partners. That doesn't make you a bad person... Your sexuality doesn't add nor subtract from your value as a human being, and if you think it does, you're warped and need a healthier view of sex.

[natured]

I would honestly think that he is a sex maniac, but if he did all that while he was single then it's okay, and we would talk clearly through that, but generally speaking, i would not really mind, but it would bother me a little for the action itself.

[PlacentaSalad]

Well, you can see that most male and female users agree that yes, it is a turn off. Regardless of who has had a lot of sexual partners in the past, it makes us worry about just how serious they are about committing to having sex with just one person, and if it would even be possible.

I see women asking this question all the time. It seems like an indication that they possibly regret their decision to being promiscuous. It's probably best to not share your sexual conquests with anybody that you want a romantic relationship with, I'm not sure why anybody would anyway. Nobody knows that somebody had a foursome by just looking at them.

[bloodmountain1990]

Yeah only times it's a turnoff is if the girl starts boasting or ranting about her sexual past to me, especially if it's early on which has happened to me a few times. It's like if I didn't ask you then WHY are you telling me this. The most ironic thing is they would tell me this then feel insecure and worried what I'd think.

[yummypastry]

Yes. A huge turn off.

[Girly1710]

I would be very turned off indeed.
For me though, almost any sexual past is upsetting. I want to be his one and only and it makes me sad if I can't be.

[Pyrofox]

Group sex you mean. I'd say what ever floats your boat. For me I stick to 1v1. xD But on a serious note I'm not going to judge someone on this topic unless they start forcing me to join in. Which would be a nono.

[truthbeknown]

Not really turned off, more like being jealous.

[AnaWryneck]

I wouldn't want a girl whose had a train ran on her but that's just me

[ashleyrene]

No. As long as we're in a happy, loving, healthy relationship the past is in the past. I'd honestly be curious to hear about how that went.

However... I don't think I could date a guy who's had sex with a guy? Not sure what that says about me, but just being honest.

[ThatJarHead]

I wrote a take about this a while back. Here give it a read: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a32491-is-it-possible-to-have-too-many-sexual-partners

[amiemn]

Yes totally.

[Hidden_P]

Those are two different questions.

I obviously don't have an issue, since my boyfriend was like a man whore at uni.

As long as he has eyes for me only now that's all I care about.

[Sirakyus]

Yep. They most likely wouldnxt be faithful. Old habits die hard

[hellionthesagereborn]

Clearly not girlfriend material. She has prioritized sex over all else, she acted impulsively without considering the possible consequences and clearly thinks sex is just for pleasure completely ignoring the intimate/emotional components to it so to say I would be turned off is an understatement, I would not consider her for a relationship (and obviously I would not be fine with casual sex in general). Their is ample studies showing the negative impact of promiscuity (cheating being one of them (I mean if she needed three other people involved clearly one person will not be able to compete with that) and this would fall under that. So no, absolutely not would I ever have a relationship with such a woman (and it would be even worse if she lied about it).

[JulieXO]

Nope. I think the number of partners doesn't matter, as long as he's not a cheater. Experience is good.

[Giacomanzo]

What about not having experience? I've always felt insecure because of my lacking of it.

[OlderAndWiser]

If it happened 20 years ago, it would not matter too much. If it happened last year, it would bother me because it would indicate a casual attitude about sex and I am not looking for a casual relationship.