Is he playing me? or does he not even think about me! help!

[helpmeimawkward]

so I've known this guy for a long time, were pretty good friends and he's 3 years older than me. He's really experienced and I'm not so much. We talked once in a while just to check on each other, but then we started texting everyday. After texting everyday for weeks, we started sexting kinda... but it was more of a he'll help me get more experienced thing so he could always use that as an excuse for having no strings attached. When I saw the him next, we hooked up and it went really good. He texted me every single day before we hooked up for months. We would talk until I fell asleep or until he did. When he fell asleep he would text me the next morning saying sorry and we would continue talking! The day after we hooked up we started texting again he said we would hook up again. But that night he stopped replying. I figured he fell asleep, but the next morning no text! so later that day I texted him saying hey(: but no response. We didn't talk for the next 2 weeks! Then, I ran into him and it was kinda awkward and we didn't really talk. He texted me later that day, but it was boring talk that quickly ended. He hasn't responded to my texts since and I like him so much I can't stop thinking about him! what do I do! what is he thinking! HELP GUYS! (and I never flat out told him I like him I thought he would assume it, if that helps!)

[igivita10]

I hate to say this but it sounds like he just wants to be f*ck buddies. I don't think that you can expect a real relationship out of this based on his behavior. From personal experience I think he did use you, and he just wants to hook up again when he is around you. I would honestly suggest moving on. Find someone who doesn't just want to be f*ck buddies and treats you like a human-being with respect. And the next time, do NOT hook up with a guy if you want to be in a relationship with him. Wait until you are in a relationship so the guy gets to know you, doesn't use you, and doesn't think of you as being easy. I'm sorry if this sounded blunt, but I have gone through what you are going through now, and it took someone being brutally honest to me to realize what I was doing wrong. Hope the next time it works out better for you =)

[helpmeimawkward]

Thanks you for your help! ill try to resist the urge! but I either getta just hook up with him or never talk to him and I feel like id rather be able to kiss him and touch him then never get to touch him or talk:[

[Anonymous]

Well, I am not a guy, but I am pretty sure he doesn't like you anymore...

[helpmeimawkward]

:[ thanks for your advice :[

[Anonymous]

the end says it all we men or at lest me are thick headed and it takes a lot more than assumptions to get through he more than likely is thinking friends with benefits, booty call, or even a one night stand with a friend. Sorry to put it like that but he probably is not that in to you.

More than likely you are being played like a video game.

[helpmeimawkward]

:[ that's what I thought.. so not matter how long you've been friends with someone they'll still use you if they're a player? cause he said he wanted to hook up again after? so what do you think I should do? like when ever I see him should I just hook up with him just because I like him and I want to get some and pretend like I don't have feelings. Or should I not hook up with him anymore because I have too many feelings?

[Opinion Owner]

Be friends with him if you wish, sleep with him if you want to, it might or might not go some where. I think you are in the friend zone though it is a little different from a friend zone a guy goes into. the one big difference is that a girl in the friend zone a guy will sleep with her but the relationship but once a guy hits the friend zone their is no chance of sex or relationship

[Opinion Owner]

A girl in the friend zone has little to no chance at a relationship but may be a one night stand or a booty call every now and then

[helpmeimawkward]

I didn't have sex with him, but he wants to.. should i? he's 3 years older and I'm a virgin and he's not. I don't know what to do, I feel like friends with benefits is better than nothing. I like him so much ill do anything to be with him, but he doesn't know I'm secretly in love with him. Or maybe he does.. he doesn't care much for others feelings I don't think, but he's a good friend so I don't know. :[

[helpmeimawkward]

But I went farther the first time then I originally planned!

[Opinion Owner]

If you have not do not he is not worth it he will probably just never contact you ever once the act is done you will just end up being a one night stand to him and that is an emotional 90 mph crash into a brick wall just drop him and try to move on.

[helpmeimawkward]

Okay.. :/ I just feel like hooking up with him when I see him and being able to kiss him is better than never being able to touch him? but if you say that's worse for me then ill do what you say. He still hasn't texted me :/

[Opinion Owner]

I know how you feel been their I have also seen it happen to people and they are total emotional wrecks I may be wrong but I would not chance it move on their is a less chance of a heart break that way I hope you find a guy that treats you well until then chin up and have fun because life is to short to waste time with heartbreak.

[Opinion Owner]

The whole I know what you are feeling part is like your situation but me with my ex girl friend.