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I couldn't make him cum from a blowjob?

I just gave this guy a blowjob and he didn't cum as you can see in the title. It kind of hurts my self esteem I couldn't get him off especially when I thought I did very well. I give messy blowjobs personally and so he was well lubricated from me spitting on it a bunch of times, I used a twist technique with my hand while giving him head at the same time and used my free hand to play with his balls, then after a bit I would go down his shaft with my tongue and lightly suck his balls and I used many techniques yet I still couldn't do it!! He started jacking himself off and said he isn't able to unless I sat on it and started riding him but I didn't do that as in the moment I got turned off by the fact I thought I wasn't good enough. He is a lot older than me so I thought maybe his age would play a factor in it as well? (He's in his early 30's) but then again i can't be giving myself an excuse as to why he couldn't cum. It makes me feel unattractive. Is there something I can do to maybe spark up my blowjob game or something? (If we are being honest as well we didn't have much time to turn one another on and we were cramped in a small car)
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  • The intent of a blowjob is to mimic a vagina but, hopefully, add things a vagina can't do (as well). A vagina is well arranged to stimulate the sensitive head of a penis becauses it gives physical contact with every square mm of its surface and has a varying texture. A blowjob comes closest when lips and tongue concentrate on the head and not the full length of the penis. The shaft is not really sensitive and responds instead to pressure and motion. So an effective blow job gives mouth stimulation to the head and hand motion and pressure to the shaft. So bob, lick and suck at the head while stroking the shaft, speedingbup stroking to maximum speed for the finish.

    • Thank you!

    • My pleasure (literally).

  • Sounds to me like you did an excellent job of sucking his cock and it wasn't you fault he didn't cum. Some guys just don't cum fast and there are some who don't like blowjobs as much as they do hand jobs or sexual intercourse. The head of a mans cock is where 90% of the nerve endings are located so its the most sensitive part of his cock and will make him cum quicker when its stimulated. You can actually make a an cum with one finger rubbing the head of his cock & this is why most men love blow jobs. by the way, my wife really loves giving them she likes to make love to my cock and she loves to swallow the cum. I'm a lucky man! :)

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  • I've been with guys who couldn't cum from anything but bj's and with a guy who went flaccid as soon as I placed it in my mouth. I stopped being insecure about it, as I've never been criticised on my skill; it seems to be more about personal preference.

    Doing too many different things/techniques might have made the sensations confusing. Also, I know most people will be incapable of cumming as soon as they feel like they have to. The pressure can be a block, both for men and women. If you appeared to do it only to make him cum asap, it could have created that block.

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  • Hey some guys just don't pop in a woman's mouth, nothing to the offense at.

  • I'm not sure why you were feeling unattractive when you had an erect penis buried in your throat.

    There could be all sorts of different factors at play that would cause him to struggle to ejaculate. Don't assume it's your fault. Particularly if you know you've been successful in the past with other dudes.

    • Well now that you pointed that first part out that makes more sense haha! It's just shitty to know that you can't make someone get off? I want to try again anyways and see if I can possibly try something different. But we will see how things go!

    • See, now that's the go-getter attitude I can get behind. It's only a matter of time before your mouth is engulfed in white, hot, sticky goodness!

    • Yeah, he's told me other girls haven't made him cum from it in the past and their jaws usually get tired but to me even though it makes me question how I am it also makes me feel like, "okay, well he's asking for a damn challenge now" haha. I'm definitely looking forward to that moment 😎

  • It sounds like you did everything you could to get him to finish. It isn't your fault he didn't. Sometimes we just can't finish, no matter what we do or how hard we try. Don't take it personally, it is nothing against you, sometimes it just doesn't work.

  • You provided a very detailed description of your technique but still I think I will have to experience it for myself before I can make an informed opinion on this matter. You can kik me @ d3rtba6 to arrange a demonstration. 😏

  • I have never had a problem cumming in a girl's mouth during a blowjob. It usually only takes a few minutes before I am ejaculating and she is eating my sperm. I am sorry for you that he did not cum in your mouth. You must have really disappointed.

  • With extremely rare exceptions, I don't cum from oral. It doesn't matter who is doing it. I've always been like that and some partners have taken it personally, as you did. I just reassure them it isn't their fault and since I don't cum from blowjobs, I'm not really missing much anyways. I'd much rather be giving oral to them instead.

  • Some guys don't get off from bj... I gotta be going hard and fast to get off only ever from head 3 times.

  • just practice it more :D maybe have him tell you what he likes. some guys are not that into blowjobs so you really shouldn´t feel bad about it. not everybody comes every time he/she has sex.

  • I got hard just by reading your description lol. It's not you, it's him. Maybe his load was empty, or maybe he was on E or sth, if he's a user. I need ages to cum from a bj, but it is always delightful. My advice is not to talk to him about it, cause he will make up some silly excuse. Try it again in more comfortable ambient if it's possible

  • I think you're losing focus. many girls try to be fancy or do different stuff.
    the shaft has little you no feeling, the balls have no effect on cumming (though he might like it). just focus on the tip of your goal is to make him cum

    • I focused on the tip the whole time while I was giving him the blowjob! I only went down to the balls and shaft time to time 😕 but maybe I was trying to get a little fancy at times so I'll note it

    • one thing I can say is, I'm sure he's not worried about. why is it a big deal if he cums from sex and not a bj?

    • It's not a problem he cums during sex and not a blowjob, but I would just like to be able to pleasure him that way as well!

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  • Is he large? I can't cum from head either because barely any of my penis goes in her mouth. The handwork and playing with the balls sounds great, but maybe you are varying your technique too often. Sometimes guys need to settle into a rhythm and build to ejaculation. If you can encourage him to use his pelvis a bit (like a throat fuck) that might help too. Sometimes guys need to be in control to cum.

  • age has nothing to do with it because I'm older than that and cum fine. honestly it sounds like you have great technique and give amazing blowjobs

    • Yeah, I was just trying to find an excuse probably. He's told me females in the past can't do it either but I want to be able to do it instead. Kinda like a challenge, I'm just wondering what I could do to advance it

  • You need a lot of practice babe, it not easy as it looks.

  • It sounds like maybe he wasn't able to relax enough to fully enjoy it. maybe because you were in a car or maybe He doesn't know you all that well and feels a little bit embarrassed or self conscious. Next time why don't you just ask him what feels best to him and what turns him on the most? clearly it's important to you to give a really good b****** and your man should give thanks to God for that. I'm not a fan of sloppy BJ's myself so perhaps he would be happy to tell you what feels best to him. Ask him!

  • cause your face is ugly af and your sucking sucks... .

    • Probably

    • dont worry. one man's trash is another man's treasure. there are guys out there that'd cum tons with your face... .

    • Well aren't you a sweetheart

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