I told my boyfriend he was a small penis during an argument. How can I reconcile?

I said it during an argument last night... over the phone. We haven't spoken since. He's currently at work & hasn't answered the phone yet. I'm supposed to see him later tonight. I feel horrible. In that moment I wanted to hurt him, because I was feeling hurt.
What can I do to mend things?
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We finally spoke. I explained I didn't mean it and all. He actually made a joke of it later on. Thanks to all who gave helpful advice, and no thanks to those who told me my relationship was over & called me names.
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  • He "was" a small penis? Or did you say he "has" a small penis?

    If you told him that he has a small penis then that's a huge offence to men, it's like your boyfriend calling you fat or telling you that your boobs are too small for him. Just apologize, that's really all you can do. You can't get mad, lash out and make people feel insecure about themselves, they will think they're not good enough, no one wants to be with someone who makes them feel like they're not good enough.

  • Can I just say that's something you never say... Guys get really sensitive about that stuff. Even if they say they don't care they really do care. It's like a girls weight.. Some say it doesn't bother them to be told they are fat or something.. But it matters. Be completely honest with him. Tell him you are deeply sorry. That's all you can really do...

  • Unlike everyone here who has said that its time to break up. On the contrary, I have been in your shoes. I have been mad and said the same thing you have. My boyfriend was hurt but I did apologize, and tell him that I only said that to hurt him because I was hurt, and that I enjoy sex with him so much

    • Thanks. I'm sure I wasn't the only one to do such a shitty thing.

    • I'm glad you made things work babe!

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  • Every guy is probably dying with laughter. Lady you came after his man hood. You might not get any for a while. As a guy i wouldn't suggest this if this wasn't positive your gonna end up finding another penis. Go jump his bone!!! i mean act like your gonna rape him just say surprise first. it's not rape if you shout surprise lol

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  • If he's that insecure, that's his problem. I've never seen so many guys worry about their penis size as on this web site. In real life I NEVER hear about it.

    Just tell him you were pissed off and weren't serious. If that's not enough then that's his problem. If he goes on about it, tell him to stop being such a pussy.

    • That's different. If she says "YOU GOT A SMALL DICK" -> implies "your small dick doesn't satisfy me sexually". She said it out of anger, and some people can assume that the time where you're most honest, where your thoughts held back come out. So yeah, it'll make him insecure about the sex for sure. And even if she goes "no baby I didn't mean it, I love sex with you blabla", now he's got two contradictory pieces of information and he can't know for sure which is true.

    • @superdouch Yes they are different. But it's still insecurity on his part. If a girl said that to me, even if I knew she was serious, it wouldn't bother me a bit. The dude seriously needs to get over it. She shouldn't have to lie or cater to his insecurity. Even if he has a four inch dick, it is what it is, and he needs to get over it. What the hell is with guys these days being so concerned about their dick size? It's absurd. I only see it on here. If the guys on here are representative of younger guys these days, that's pretty damn sad.

    • Well the thing is its not about the dicksize per se, its about the sexual satisfaction. If she's cumming hard every time its not gonna come to her mind to berate him on his dick size. Yeah his dick is his dick and he can't change the size, but if she's lying to him about being sexually satisfied and she's really not, that's a problem. And personally I'd find it quite a turn off to find out my girl has been faking orgasms all along and can't actually be upfront with me about what and how she likes it. And it may well be a dealbreaker. But this site is a special corner of the world, you never see or hear people crying over dicksize like you do on here lmfao

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  • You can't take it back now. He'll always have it in his mind from now on. This is why you shouldn't say stuff just to hurt people.

    • I think the equal insecurity for a woman is oder. That is on a woman's mind. They wonder and worry. If a guy said to the woman he is with; omg do you have fish heads rotting . The guy would never get past her waste. It's equal to a guy tearing you down like that .

  • Just go to his house and fuck him and tell him you love his small dick. That's the best advice I've got.

    • Lol why would that help the situation

    • Because 1. People want sex 2. He's upset and feels self conscious about his dick. If she shows and says that she loves it, he won't be as self conscious and upset

    • But then he'll think he has a small dick

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  • There's not really any way you can reconcile after that.

  • Damn, that's a cunt move. You went with the lowest blow possible, it's like a guy calling a girl fat.

    Find him a girl hotter than you, that will be a good apology.

  • Don't try to fix it. Just stay out of his life. He deserves much better, whatever size his penis is.

  • A fatal mistake. What comes out of your mouth comes directly from your heart. Sooner or later, he will be gone. How would you like it if he told you your boobs are small or your vagina is unattractive?

  • All u can do is apologize and hope he accepts and moves on like normal.

    Odds of this happening are below 20% by the way, u can't just crush a man's ego just because you're mad, and expect him to instantly forgive.

    • P. S. If this guy was a buddy of mine i'd tell him to break up with you, because someone mean enough to say that to a loved one to intentionally hurt, is a person with enough darkness to destroy you mentally and spiritually

    • I'm happy that he is able to forgive you for that, you have a rare man there! A true gem of a human being.

  • If it's small he knows it so taking it back wouldn't matter, but you can say that it's perfect for you.

  • You fucked up, I guess you can try to apologize, but it will most likely be in the back of his head from now on, I doubt he will forget about it.

  • Im late in replying. Glad things worked out. Maybe treat him to a bj.

    • Thanks. He'll definitely get a big treat lol.

    • Good for you.

  • Tell him how good the sex was last time.

  • You can't , you have crossed the line , I would expect he has dumped you.

  • Buy him a penis pump lmfao

    No I really don't know. Some fucked up shit you say just sticks. I guess you'd wanna find a way to show him you won't do shit like that again. And you probably succeeded in hurting him and making him very insecure about how satisfied you are sexually in the relationship.

    I honestly don't see how you unfuck yourself here.

    • Good, im glad for you both he didn't overthink it. Good for you for doing the right thing :)

  • Yeah you fucked up. For good.
    There are some things you should never say, no matter what.
    For example, your with a girl who has small boobs and is really self conscious about it, and you have always told her you love them, all that sweet talk, all of it goes out the window if you get pissed one day and say hwe boobs are small. There is no coming back from that.
    I hope you can learn to get past it and avoid a breakup over something so silly.
    Good luck, and never do that again

  • Lmfaooo

    • I THINKING THE SAME THING SHE MESSED UP

    • @skeptic002 Yeah bro, she is fucked !

  • the mentality of trying to hurt him bc you felt hurt is horrible.
    apologize and say you didn't mean it, and that you were just trying to hurt him. it's up to him ultimately

    • thanks for the update! Glad it worked out! ;j

  • Goddamn... that's an ultimate weapon you've used. I don't know... maybe tell him you were angry so you said that to win.
    If it's actually small, tell him that still thats the only dck in the world you want.

  • Hook him up with another girl, so he can find someone nicer

  • I personally think he won't ever feel confident while having sex with you next time if it'll happen

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