I want to do anal but my boyfriend doesnt?

Question

so basically I really want to try anal and have for a couple months or so and my boyfriend is not interested whatsoever. It first happened during sex, I was on top and went to put his cock in my ass but he stopped me and put it back in my vagina and that was that. Next time we were about to have sex I asked him if we could try it and he said no. When I asked if it was because he thought it'd be gross or something he said 'no don't worry about it'. So guys, I thought a lot of you do want anal? And does anyone have any suggestions for how I could change his mind?

redeyemindtricks · Accepted Answer

There are LOTS of boys who don't want anal sex. The most common explanations I've encountered are (1) some form of gut-level revulsion at sticking their rod in the same hole that feces comes out of, and/or (2) some version of "that seems gay".

Also, I'm pretty sure there aren't very many boys who REALLY REALLY WANT this, as some sort of deeply personal desire. When boys want anal, more often than not, it's just something they've seen in a shitload (haha, "shit"load!) of porn -- so much that it starts to feel "mainstream" or "normal". In other words, after enough porn, lots of boys have their perspective distorted to the point where they think NOT having anal sex is "prudish" or "repressed" or overly conservative or whatever. Smh.

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Oh, also --

Presuming you've never had anal sex before (which seems to be the case, from the stuff you wrote)... What on earth makes you think you can just *bam* slip it in there?
Ahha that's totally not going to happen -- even with copious quantities of lube -- unless (1) you've already dilated yrself with various increasing sizes of butt plugs, and/or (2) yr boyfriend is VERY unusually small in the girth department.

If yr boy has normal-sized boy parts -- and if you *haven't* already done tons of backdoor play with toys etc -- then this isn't something you can just randomly do, one day (... not without LOTS of pain, at least). You'll have to build up to it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

A lot want but many of them do not. It sounds weird to us because we are told from early on that every guy loves it. You cannot change their mind in my opinion. It is something very personal and they must come to the conclusion that they want it by themselves.

Glittergirl4 · Accepted Answer

If he doesn't want to then he doesn't want to, you have to respect him and his choices. If you want a clearer response from him about why he doesn't want to, have a talk with him about it outside the bedroom.

mrinalashesh007 · Accepted Answer

Well.. it's upto the guy.. usually we guys love it to the core.. n even want sometimes only the anal sex.. but I guess ur guy is definitely feeling gross to come from behind..
You probably should have a role-playing thing b4 actual sex n ask him to fuck u from rhe rear door as turns u on and u may hav intense orgasms.. talk even dirtier.. and who knows. he agrees!!

JThatGuy · Accepted Answer

I don't see why you to do that so badly. And it is his choice. Please I wouldn't want my dick in no one's butt hole. I'm sure he feels the same. It's just disgusting to think about and it's weird. Is there a reason why exactly you want this to happen?

Dim1213 · Answer

Try talking to him about it. If he is worried about being dirty put a condom on him before.

SovereignessofVamps · Answer

You can't change his mind. You could ask him to use a toy on you anally.

tzdc21 · Answer

There are men out there who like it. Me personally, I don't. And clearly your boyfriend doesn't. If you want it so bad, then get a toy. Problem solved.

Kreneman · Answer

I think your boyfriend thinks that it's gay and disgusting which are the two main things on why men don't do it and also why they don't talked about it with there women. Men usually talked to there guy friends for motivation especially there best friend and my advice to you is to get one of his guy friends (that is close to him) to talked to him.

jacquesvol · Answer

It will be difficult to rape him with your anus. by the way, When you poke in a rabbit's hole, you're bound to meet the rabbit sooner or later. In this case it's Poop-the Rabbit. It's

Avneo · Answer

You can try it with me, it's that simple.

Kuraj · Answer

Anal isn't as popular as you would think.
Also, you don't want to just randomly stick your boyfriend in your butt, that is an excellent way to ruin anal for both you and your partner and possibly give yourself an injury.

Anal needs prep, you should definitely use an enema beforehand especially if your boyfriend isn't into it, lots of lube AND take some time.
Have you actually tried it before? Because I tell you, even your finger is going to feel like a challenge for the first time.

superdouch · Answer

yeah i do... dunno why he won't.

spidy007 · Answer

just see him anal porns & debate on this topic with using Google searches

Jj2016 · Answer

Well that's a first

realworld2017 · Answer

Ha, I break up with my gf's if they keep asking for that.

CT_CD · Answer

You're gross. Maybe he doesn't want poop on his penis

masterkamasutra · Answer

you are with quite boring guy.

mikey112 · Answer

maybe he is prick.. who hates anal.

bennyp · Answer

You need to try it else where to get it out ya system.

invocation · Answer

His dick, his choice.

shubham82 · Answer

I m read

KaDaj · Answer

just be open n tell him you wanna broaden the horizon in y'alls room.. tell him it turns you on to think of him doing you from behind n makes you want him even more.. of he questions that re assure him that even if he still doesn't you still think of him doin it cause it makes u climax more.. once a man knows that what he's doin in the room makes u more hot n ready.. we tend to become more confident