My girlfriend wants me to have a gay experience, any advice?

Hi girls! I have a question. Lately my girlfriend has been pushing the idea of a mmf. I'm not against the idea of playing and having fun, and I think we can keep the fun separate from the emotions. But. She really wants me to have a gay experience? She wants the guy to suck me off, and if possible she wants me to "fuck his ass good". I'm not bi or gay, I don't really understand why she wants this. I guess I might do it for her because I love to please her. I'm just looking for answers and advice.

Thanks!
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She doesn't want me to perform on the guy. She says she wants to see me get pleasured by a man as it would turn her on to see it. She enjoys gay porn occasionally. I don't think she's trying to test me, we've been together a while now. In the past any time I helped fulfill her desires or fantasy's, I've been greatly rewarded. The idea of doing it for her doesn't make me want to puke but I am not attracted to men. I dunno I'm still undecided. I'll talk to her more tonight.
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  • No! You are entitled to draw limits and boundaries for your sexual behavior. This girl may not be in your life two weeks from now but you must live with your memories for the rest of your life. Heterosexual men can be psychologically traumatized by having a homosexual experience, even if it if consensual. Tell her that you don't want to do it. Offer to have a FFM threesome. If she isn't interested in that, then the other option for additional partners is partner swapping with another couple, but. . .

    Why on the hell would you want to do that? Fun and excitement? Robbing a bank might be exciting , too, but there are good reasons to not do it. For many people, bringing other people into the bed ruins the relationship and none of those people, like you, thought that it would be a problem before they did it.

  • Tell her "I can do a MMF threesome ONLY if you're willing to do a MFF threesome as well", it's only fair.

    • I was going to say that exact thing to her tonight lol

    • Thanks man for the mho!

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  • honestly i think its crazy i would never never never never (i dont think it is enough) never make my boyfriend do something like that your girlfriend might be watching a lot of porn it is not health but if you are not against it as you say and not because you want to please your girlfriend okay but make sure it is your decision because that experience for straight man it is not nice and it has some side effects too
    if i were you i would not do it

  • Uh no. My SO would never push me to do something I am not comfortable with. This is not love.

    • thank you for your input! any other girls care to chime in?

    • I give you a 10 star rated on your answer.

  • don't let anyone make you do stuff you don't want to do or be someone you're not.

    • I get the feeling that he is into it more than he admits. A normal guy couldn't achieve an erection for the gay man to suck. He couldn't achieve and erection to us to penetrate the gay mans ass.

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  • Dude, let's be real for a second. If she loved you, she wouldn't be asking you to do something that she knew you weren't comfortable with. And yet, you are willing to do this for her? This is an uneven seesaw if I ever saw one, and I do relationship coaching for a living.

    What would she do if you declined? Would she be supportive and your relationship be fine? In other words, is this being pitched as a necessity based on the state of your relationship or based on her own curiosities? If so, there are different fish to fry besides this. Focus on the root cause, in other words, whatever has led her to ask/suggest/push you to do this.

  • Personally, that is a fantasy I would not fulfill for my girl! It's not even a thought I would have.

    • If you screw the guy, you are performing. Fulfilling her fantasies is a very goods thing you do. It's just that some fantasies should just be that, a fantasy. If you really feel you can do it without any ramifications, make her happy. I'd tell her to stick to the porn on this one.

    • Total agree with the fantasy. I concern what fantasy she had as a child or teenager.

  • 1. Don't do it for her. You are supposed to look after your needs.
    2. There is no shame in doing it, do it for curiosity and if you don't like it you have the full right to get out of the situation
    3. If she expects you to try out her fantasies but she doesn't want to satisfy yours, let her know of her hypocrisy

  • Simple. Dump her.

    • That is what I said in my post. Dump her. She has a fetish mind. Get off on others having sex. This is where my wife is concern about taking our sons into the female changing room at the pool. You are shocked among of women and girls who are a fetish. Fetish people get arousal with things which are not sexual. I ask the person who posts the question has she talk to him about her childhood or teen years.

    • I think it is so funny to read people's comments that put just dump her or dump him. It's like wait a minute what about all the years you've been together with them that your relationship with them is amazing not just sexually and there's just that one little thing that they want to try and you don't want to do it and you're not going to do it but yet somebody else's opinion is just to dump them and start all over again trying to find that one perfect person which there's really no perfect women out there or men out there but there are a lot of people that have a lot in common in their relationship is great. You obviously are a single person because you'd be surprised how hard it is to find a woman that has a lot of good qualities. And if it's just one thing that they're interested in and you're not going to do it no matter what anyway why can't you just keep the relationship going and everything else be great I think it's funny when women answer just dump them that is the stupidest thing I can think of

  • hmm. if i will be at your place then trust me. i will say no. i know you are good. open minded. but being to much open minded is not good. think about the consequences. what will after that.

    this can become a reason for cheating.
    maybe later she leave saying that you are gay. i am not saying your girlfriend is bad.
    but you really don't what's inside a person heart. don't take this risk.

    or if you can accept her relationship with other men than no problem

  • Don't do it. Explain to her that it's not something that you want to do and she should respect that.

    • Total agree.

  • Wtf?

  • Everybody is bi to some degree, put your past behind you and go for it, you will find it fun if you get your head in the right place! Make sure the lucky guy has an enema before you fuck his butt cunt. It's clean that way!

  • Do it lol, that's a lot of points to be able to cash in for your own twisted fantasies.

  • she's turning you into a cuck, she wants to have another guys dick and then wants you to be gay with him. Don't be a massive pussy, if you don't want to do it DONT.

  • I have no clue why she wants you to do this either. I have never run into it myself and would love to know what this is all about.

    You're not gay or bi. Neither am I and the thought of this makes me cringe. I would in no way want to do this or even think I could do it.

    I advise you to definetly not do that. You're straight. It's like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole.

    What do you think? Gonna go for it?

    • She is a fetish person. Get pleasure and arousal from others doing sexual things. Fetish is a person who sees things as being sexual when it not. He needs to be concern about her. I hope she not working with children and teens.

    • @Robin48 I'm not sure about that. 2 guys having sex is definetly sexual. I don't watch porn any more. I used to when I did I loved lesbian porn. My liking of this was very base. It simply came down to 2 pus*ies are more fun to watch than one, and the absence of any d*ck in the scene made me more than happy. That said I agree he should be concerned about her not only because of this strange (to me) sexual desire, and that it seems abnormal for a straight girl to like this, but also she is willing to act upon it. I'm single, but when I have a girlfriend I have no desire to see her with anyone else, including other girls. I cannot tolerate the thought of my lover being with someone else weather I'm present or not. Simply put I don't share and I greatly question the love and fidelity of a woman that would do so. I think it's abnormal to be willing to invite others into your relationship.

    • @Robin48 So I wonder if for her it's similar to my liking of lesbian porn in that 2 di*ks are more enjoyable some how.

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  • I think you need to find another female friend. A true friend would not do that. She has a fetish mind of seeing two males having sex.

    • This is what you said, she what another male pleasure you. It turns her on to see it. Your girlfriend is a fetish. As she talks to you about her childhood or teens years. In the past when I was single and I was dating a female and her what to see that. I would drop her. She would be history. Bye, that is what I would have done to her.

  • Talk to her. You may actually find out why she is asking this, and maybe can negotiate something that fulfills both of your preferences in some way.

  • You are not bi or gay. End of discussion.

  • I dont thimk yoi can go back from that.
    She may be into dome weird shit,
    But i think its more about her testing your boundaries. She is disguising it, trying to make you look like the man (getting sucked off, fucking, and whatnot) but is actually just trying to see if ur a beta male. I. e. she is trying to see if she can talk you into doing weird shit that she likes.
    I dont think in any way this eill help your relationship or yourself. Tell her your not into gay sex and feel disrespected at the suggestion. And to shut up about it in the future.

    • *think You Some Will Sorry about the misspellings

  • If you're not gay or bisexual, you probably need a new girlfriend. It's not worth compromising yourself like that for her pleasure unless you were already bisexual. What's next? She might start asking you to be the one sucking dick or taking one in the ass. Would you be comfortable with that? If she doesn't understand that, you should dump her.

    If you really want to test her out, tell her you want a mff threesome and that she should eat some pussy. Tell her It's a condition of you doing the mmf. If she says no, you have your answer. If she says yes, do it... THEN dump her.

  • I dont think I could get hard for that to even happen. She might watch gay porn like I have read that some women do. Maybe that is why she wants it.

  • this is kinda weird. imagine how much she is nto going to respect you after you suck a guys dick. She just told you to suck a dick and you suck it? wow. dont do it. even if you actually have thought about sucking cock all your life its too late now to pretend like it was your idea. also, if you are in a relationship, why the hell should you be having sex with another person.

    • she didn't ask me to suck a cock. she wants to have my cock sucked.

    • still dont do it. sooner or later shell make you do more

  • Oh man that means she hates your guts.

  • Do what you feel comfortable with. If all is well and you have some curiosity and are comfortable with exploring man on man action in a safe setting, I would say go for it. Make sure you're also getting pleasure from it too, and be sure there is some rapport with the guy before going at it. If you do not feel comfortable definitely talk it out with her as she should not push you into something you do not want to do for her own perverse pleasures.

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