I just slept with a guy and he came way too fast. Is this going to happen every time?

I just got out of a long term relationship where the sex was good and he could last forever. I am with a new guy and I have never had this happen before. Do different guys last only a short time? Or was this maybe an off night?
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  • he might had an off night or doesn't know how to deal with his point of no return.
    here is what to do if you don't want to cum yet: (point of no return=ponr)
    Penetration ->feeling ponr -> switch postition
    (quick 5 second breaks between the position switch calm a little from the poor)
    As the intercourse goes on he'll need longer breaks to stay away from ponr.
    Here is what to do for the longer breaks.
    Penetration -> feeling ponr -> continue with oral for a longer break
    (no the dick will stay hard if you wonder. It just won't be at this very sensitive state right before ponr happens anymore)
    welcome.

    • Thanks for MHO :d I hope my answer helped.

  • ! st time together is usually quick as he is the most excited about the sex. How old is he? If he's 30<35 like your profile says he shouldn't have that problem... that too excited/cumming quick is usually a young guys thing.

    Also what are calling "Quick"? If you have been in a relationship that the guy could last forever... you might have Overly high expectations.

    • It's was maybe 5-7 minutes

    • That's actually the avg. that an in-depth study in Cosmo magazine discovered. If you are giving him a lot during foreplay.. you might want to back that down as it might be reducing his staying power. It probably just how long he lasts. There are things he can do to last longer... but he might have not had any girl complain and say something to him about it. You need to tell him you want sex to last longer. If he can't prolong it, then he could give you oral during the time he needs to recover. Most guys last longer the 2nd/3rd time around.. he could actually come before the sex so he lasts longer during the sex. If the sex is fast/rough.. a guy doesn't alst as long. You could control it with your legs, slow him down when you think he's going to cum too early. Could switch up positions as that little break might give him the time to re Is it the time for you to Orgasm or the length of sex you want that is the issue. If it's the latter he could give you more foreplay/oral to relax.

    • There are exercises he can do to last longer. If he hasn't been in a relationship in a while... he just has to get use to it again. Most people masturbate to orgasm as quickly as possible.. so he might be suck in that rhythm. He needs to take his time and back it down.

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  • My boyfriend doesn't last very long either. We bought condoms that helped him last longer and they actually worked. You could look into those.

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  • For me it really depends about several things how long I can make it those things are mostly mood, how horny I am, frequency and what is happening.
    So when I am in an ok mood, really horny, don't have sex many times and the girl just gets her dirty talk right I probably won't last that long.
    For me I found some techniques to mitigate that and I am sure so will he.
    Bottom line:
    Yes I think he will improve as long as you give him a chance to.

  • it might be every time. i had this problem myself too but with good training it can be improved by a lot (pc-muscle) and try boosting his confidence, that helps too.
    talk to him about it, im sure there is a solution

  • lol did you expect all guys to be the same

  • most guys do depends on their agevo knew a guy that was uncircumcised he could go at least an hour

  • Some guys just can't hold their own for very long...

  • Average is 5 minutes.
    Extremely quick is.. a few seconds.

  • Can you define 'way too fast'?

    It might have been an off night, but first sex in a while doesn't tend to be guy's best performance.

    • It was 5-7 minutes in and he kept stopping so I wasn't able to orgasm either

    • 5-7 minutes is actually average. He's clearly trying to extend it with the stop start. I'd guess with more frequent sex he could go longer. And longer stretches. Positions where you can keep having your clit rubbed during his pauses are a good idea.

    • Womp womp... maybe more practice bc there is no way I can orgasm that quickly.

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