Girls, is it good if I ask to cum in her mouth?

[Anonymous]

Like, if I've already asked her to give me oral, then I ask if I can cum in her mouth? Would that be good or bad, would it make you happy or mad, would you consider the guy to be lame or sad for asking the question? Would he come across as being tamed, submissive, weak, considerate and/or pathetic for asking you, as opposed to simply clasping his hands around the back of your head in a show of dominance, and having you swallow it without feeling the need to ask you? And guys, what do you think I should do- ask her nicely first, and risk losing any sort of sexual enjoyment, dominance, passion and intensity in the process? or not ask her at all, and risk potentially facing accusations of sexual assault or rape from her in the future, on account of the "yes means yes" (and everything else means NO) laws?

[notallthere98]

Blow job etiquette is to let the person blowing you know when you are about to cum so they can decide whether or not to let you finish in their mouth. I'm not a woman, but as a gay man if I were blowing someone and he "clasped his hands around the back of my head in a show of dominance" or some other similar macho bullshit and made me swallow without asking first, I would be livid. In fact I'd probably punch him. It's not up to you to decide that. Too bad if you find it hotter, it's always up to the person blowing you to decide if you are allowed to cum in their mouth

[pas666]

Don't ask her just do it. Don't tell her either u r cumming. Just lock and load. U can spray her from a distance or get all in her face and grab her head still and see if she goes with it. I couldn't cum in a girls mouth tho. When u kiss her later kind of like tasting your own cum

[Asker]

Who says I'd be kissing her afterward? And even if I did, wouldn't it be the same if I fucked her- should I avoid cumming inside her pussy just because there's a decent chance that I'd be licking her down there later, and it'd be kind of like tasting my own cum? Nowhere near being a good enough reason not to IMHO.

[pas666]

Ok so admit it you like the taste of your own semen

[Asker]

Well, it isn't right to force-feed something to someone else who you care about when you're not man enough to try it yourself. So yeah, I'll admit that I did try it. And I don't like it, but don't hate it either. So it's a total non-issue for me. Would I kiss a girl after she's given me a blow-job? Since she actually gave me the BJ, it seems like the least I could do to acknowledge what she's done, and to offer her the necessary encouragement to do it again next time. And the time after that, and the time after that...

[pas666]

I'm cool with the bj part just ain't cumming in my girls mouth and kissing her without a good sleep to forget I did that why it taste a little salty. Um you can force feed starving people

[AskAlthea]

Definitely ask her, the 'show of dominance' is actually just 'non-consensual', she might be okay giving you oral but not okay with you coming in her mouth. If she doesn't say that she wants you to come in her mouth, then you should ask her if it's okay. She might be okay giving you oral but hates the taste of sperm so doesn't want you to come in her mouth. I don't see it as weak, I see it as being considerate.

[Asker]

So you say. And so you might think, consciously, logically and rationally. But sexual impulses, desires and pleasures AREN'T conscious, logical or rational, not by a long shot. And every single woman who's ever been asked, clearly and calmly, by any man if she'll engage in a sexual activity with him will report that they're immensely turned off by it. Asking a woman for an explicit statement of permission to have sex with her is perhaps THE single most sexually repugnant thing that any man can do, in the eyes of that woman. So you say that you don't see it as weak. But we all know that you'd subconsciously FEEL completely different about it, if you were in that position.

[AskAlthea]

Wait, this sounds like you have formed an opinion and just want someone to tell you it's okay (because I think a part of you does realize it could be non-consensual and you're worried). Sexual desires aren't rational, yes, some people like to be dominated, others don't. Before you involve someone in your kink (it sounds like you want to dominate) you should get consent first. Honestly, it sounds like you are a dominant and thus want a submissive. Find someone willing to be a submissive, and then in that case, it's fine because she wants it.

[Asker]

Percentage of females who prefer to be sexually submissive: 69% Percentage of females who prefer to be sexually dominant: 3% Percentage of female voters who prefer something in between/undecided: 28% The overwhelming majority of females want, need, to be dominated, and to play the submissive role in order to be sexually satisfied. That is an indisputable fact, corroborated by every large study into this field. And making an effect to get consent has, in my personal experience, been what's gotten me sneered at and laughed at, rejected for and told time and time again that "you're pathetic, you're weak, you're not a real man, you're not strong enough or manly enough or dominant enough to satisfy me- if you have to ask, then you're nothing but a little boy in my eyes." NONE of the guys who get laid waste a SINGLE BREATH on asking for consent before they start groping and grasping, and that's WHY they get laid- the girls in the clubs and bars all LOVE being abused. So why should I?

[AskAlthea]

On the off chance you meet the girl who doesn't want to be submissive and slaps you with sexual assault or rape. You know it, you said it. Once again, "this sounds like you have formed an opinion and just want someone to tell you it's okay (because I think a part of you does realize it could be non-consensual and you're worried)." Since you have clearly formed an opinion, and are not willing to listen to the opinions of others, you merely want confirmation that your opinion is okay, further discussion is a waste of time for both of us. Good day.

[MlleCake]

Only her opinion matters, and you will only know by telling her it's a fantasy of yours. Are you providing her oral sex until she orgasms, regularly? There's nothing inherently dominant in the act by the way.

[fruitandveg]

Let her know if your gonna cum

[Anonymous]

Groan more and guide her to do what you want. So if you want to cum in her mouth just start groaning and hold her head where you want it. Don't force her guide her. If she really doesn't want it in her mouth she will pull away. But she's not an idiot she will know what's happening and that you want it and are into it.